But everyone who at least once in his life came across this, in his own experience knows that these tips do not work. What can be achieved if they followed, it's a painful experience of deep into the painful experience, and on top to cover with visible well-being. It looks like a deep wound, which he was healing superficially, but the inner pain was forgotten. It is invisible, but hurts and corrodies the soul from the inside.

Any psychologist will say that the way to cure one thing is to survive parting with her husband or a man who still still love - it is full and deep to do necessary work grief. And then you will grow up, update, heal full lifeYou will get out of a difficult situation with valuable experience, get the power and wisdom. The wound will not disappear without a trace - the scar is formed in her place, but he will remind you of your strength, durability, not about pain and suffering. After all, scars are stronger than skin.

The best thing to be done if parting with a loved one causes you a strong pain, contact a psychologist and get professional help. Do not believe if you are offered rapid healing for 1-5 meetings. No matter how much you want to get rid of pain as soon as possible, you need to do the work of grief, and each wounded soul is needed.

Tip: Choose a psychologist who works with grief seriously and deeply, who carefully and with understanding you will listen to which you fully trust, which will be ready to experience with you as much as you need.

If you have no possibility to appeal to a psychologist or you do not want for some reason, then you can take the following steps.

Three simple steps how to forget the person you love, and he is not:

Step 1 - accept the situation as it is. This is the first and most difficult step. A girl who is experiencing a break with his beloved, usually lives past. She recalls happy moments with her boyfriend or man. If she loved, she had expectations about the joint future, she dreamed of marry him, to have family and children, happily live for many years.

She refuses to believe in what happened and trying to live in an old way as if a man or guy was with her. To accept that it is all destroyed - very hard and hurt. However, sooner or later it will have to commit.

Tip: Look at the situation from reality today's day: Yes, it happened; Yes, past life destroyed; Yes, a miracle will not happen. Usually acceptance is accompanied by a sense of disorientation, chaos.

Step 2 - Give Will with your feelings. It is usually a grudge, anger, rage. Do not pushing them deep into yourself. They must go out. In women, these feelings are usually poured with tears streams.

Tip: Cry! Pour rivers, oceans of their pain. If you feel anger - throw it out! Bay dishes, roar, shouti! Rushing sheet! Topchi pillow! Feelings for a guy or a man you need to forget should come out of you.

Step 3 - Tell your story. It doesn't matter whether it will be a friend or casual counter cafe. Intuitively feel someone you can entrust your story. Mountain is the universal experience of all people, and most likely they will hear you. One time is usually not enough.

Tip: Tell me how much how much you need to heal the wound and you could forget former husband Or a guy who once loved.

Usually after the completion of these stages, a person experiences sadness and light emptiness. This means that you have already accepted the situation and let go of the past. Now you are on the threshold of a new life.

And the last, as not to remember the beloved man, who else you like. In the past, with this person you had a lot of happy, beautiful moments. Yes, the relationship ended. But you learned joy, love, happiness, delight, a lot of light and beautiful. After all, it happened in your life thanks to this person.

Now these wonderful bright memories can you leave yourself as resources for the future. Thank Life for this gift and try to forget the person who loved so much. Go further. On your way you will meet many more amazing!

If you surrounded yourself with unhappy people who see only one solid negative, then you yourself can not feel the taste of life. Such people, to the great rose, quite a lot and from them should be kept as far as possible. And all because their negative has a self-reproducing property and reflect on you. From such people should be merged. This is not a joke - you just owe such people to say "no"! Throwing the negative from his life, you thereby free the place in it for something good. We offer you a list of people who prevent you from being happy. Read more interesting here.

1. hopelessly hostile queen scandals

Some people (including men) love to arrange hysterics and scandals without any obvious causes. Do not go for them. Do not fit into other people's scandals and do not arrange your own.

Do not respond with the sworn words to the one who moves them in you. Keep calm and composure, displacing SMRArad conflict with the aroma of determination. The loudestly your opponent yells, the stronger he wants to inflate the scandal, the calmer and more confident you need to think and speak. Do not let them hurt you for living.

Become for those surrounding an example higher Sampling - ignore their impulsiveness and hysterics, become the embodiment of kindness. Communicate and express your thoughts from the position of peace, love and best intentions. Your voice must become a mustache of good - use it to inspire, inspire, teach and sow around sympathy and understanding.

And if after that someone will try to impose your negative and unnecessary scandals to you, just turn away from it and go on.

2. Always and everywhere your personality

Some people are simply impossible to please - you will not be able to reach them, whatever you do. Just accept this fact.

We all found people who degraded us, belonged to us without any respect, and generally looked at us off without any causes and grounds. Do not waste time trying to change them or earn their approval, and even more so - do not go to hatred. Just forget about them and go on, leaving a fair reward on the will of the fate and their karma, because each second speech will be spent in vain, and let the anger and hatred in his heart, you just hurt yourself.

3. Pessimist, cropping wings to your dreams

Enough to communicate with those who make fun and wipes your dreams with mud. These people lower your potential, slowly, but correctly quenching your inner flame by the water of your caustic comments and underestimated expectations. They gives pleasure to cut the wings with your dreams, because they themselves are loony.

If you surrender and allow the negative dropping on them to fit you under the image created by them, you ultimately remains little. Instead of being sob, you will turn into a crippled and disfigured something or something is not capable. In some sense they will make your life with you. The boundary between their opinions and yours will disappear. And the loser invented by them will be ... you.

Remember - your capabilities are not defined by other people's opinions. So be an optimist, repent other people's opinions and limitations, and try to see something much more than they consider it possible. And after - only depends on you, can you embody your dreams to life. Our life path is not predetermined, and 99% of our achievements begins with everyday painstaking work on them.

4. Manipulator

Bear to manipulators, lovers to urge our opinions and in general, everyone who is trying to manage your thoughts with their negative. But in fact, to recognize them is quite simple - if you look at them from the outside, you can understand that they are often too docked on themselves. In other words, people around them (and you including) are part of their life only to the extent that they can be used to receive personal gain.

Their own feelings, needs and desires for them will always be more important than the rest. They will demand from you from leather to get out to help them with all the problems, but if God's favor, you will need help - most likely they will be "too busy", or will refuse direct text at all.

Note: Some people are willing to say and do anything - absolutely whatever - to make the rest do what they need. You should not consider such behavior with normal or permissible. When someone is trying to make you do something, take a look at it and tell me: "Popper horses! If you have Majesti, so it's your problems, not mine! " Well, if he and after that he will bend his line - you already know what to do. Yes, do not enter conflict, just leave.

5. Stubborn, thinking that you should be someone else

In the end, it always turns out that it is better you hate for who you are, than respecting for who you are not. The only relationship with other people who will be useful to you are those who make you better, not trying to turn you into another person, but not interfering with you to become another person if you have developed yourself at the present.

Unfortunately, often family members and old friends simply do not see how much you have changed and rose over the past years. And they also have a tendency to hang labels based on you, based on the person you were once - and this is the most dangerous. With such allegations, it is very easy to agree, because you yourself remember that once they were true. Well, there, for example, "Vanya always hovers in the clouds" or "Lena good girlBut she lacks concentration so much. "

But in fact, you truly know what is happening in your head, you can only. Those who do not know you, sometimes you can take you for a completely different person - as, however, those that believe that they know you well - but you know who you are actually.

Only when you begin to ignore their opinions and decide to be who you are actually, and not to those who want to see you, you will discover yourself for real love, happiness and success. No need to voluntarily put on myself a mask. Do not pretend to be someone else.

Yes, you are not dominated by other people think about you, but how to deal with their opinions, solve only you. Let them do with them that they want, you are not obliged to react at least to them. Do not adapt to someone just to make it nice. Let people love you as you are, and not those that they want to see you. And if they don't want to do this ... Well, this is their choice, and they can always leave. Harm from them will not be in any case - because the problem is not in you, but in their perception.

6. A demanding friend who does not forgive you errors

Who am I calling a person to honor? No one who does not make mistakes at all, but there are no such, but one who recognizes them, and then try to fix them with all their strength.

We learn from our mistakes, and they are part of any large-scale enterprise.

But if someone refuses to help you grow and fix your mistakes - this is really an almost unforgivable mistake on their part. To cling to the past, in which nothing will be able to correct - it means it would be vain to spend the forces that would be useful in creating a better future. And if someone constantly judges you at your past, remembers all the perfect mistakes and refuses to forgive them - why don't you make your future a little better, leaving this person in the past

7. Inner critic

Here you go! They did not expect? Yes, yes, the very merciless critic that sat down in your head.

Ruthless criticism often entails the lack of happiness and general discontent with him - and, in general, you do not need at all. What is mercilessly criticizing himself, burglaring into his own thoughts for each defects? All you need in fact - the courage to be sobody. Your value is who you are, and not in the one you are not.

And those "shortcomings" that you find in yourself - perhaps they simply simply feature your individuality. After all, you definitely have something unique and unique. You are different from others. You will never be such as they, and they never become you. And just like there are no two identical snowflakes, your fingerprints are completely unique. You are different from others - and this is normal. For that, you came to this world to tell him about who you are, and enjoy every last moment. And when you take it, you will understand that you have no reason to compare yourself with someone else. And your inner criticism, in general, and there is nothing to criticize.

Every morning when you wake up, think about the pare-troika things that in your life certainly succeeded. And falling asleep at night, fill out your mind thanks for all those little things that on this day filled you with joy. Understand that in your life there is not only negative and give out your inner criticism a couple of reviews about you - for a hundred points!

Afterword

When people detract from your dreams, predict your trouble, criticize you and do not want to see who you really remember, remember - they tell you not about you, but about themselves. And they all said are caused by their alarms and worries. Just ignore them.

Well, if all of the above do you (your inner critic), try at least one day to refuse all thoughts and doubts that you do not care. And see how quickly it will change your life. You do not need negative thoughts. All that they have ever brought you - unfortunate suffering.

Try to get rid of negativity in your life. After all, it stops you to achieve life heights and your goals. We wish you all without fail.

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"Explore people from your life just, if you believe yourself"

Life, if you do not complicate it yourself, the thing is very simple: white is white, black - solely black. Variations on shades are possible only in rare cases.

If you doubt a man, in work, in a friend, it means that you have to say "no". Because there, where there is a place of uncertainty, there can be no doubt: not that, not that, not that. And get rid of all unnecessary is just necessary to free the place of what you are waiting for.

There were many boys and girls in my life, which I just let go at a certain point. In all those sides, what they were used. To cross out people once and is quite simple, if you can negotiate with your own head and listen to your heart - it's the most reliable friend to you, it does not lie.

For example, I was Inna, who, with wet happiness, frankly frankly on my birthday, which did not believe in female friendship, where they trust infinitely and trust. And then I met me. And it began to pour tons of information about your miserable life. There are no men and not foreseen, the work is completely tired, from the collective sick, from contractors - too, at a friend - a new apartment with stools on two hundred dollars, a husband, a child, two cats, and she has nothing! You see, quite, nothing happens in life, and there is nothing and no one. Even the cat.

When I realized that endless depressive terrorism seeps into my brain, just stopped communicating with her. Of course, Inna was offended and did not understand why I no longer love her. But it became so easy and good to me from her absence in my life that any impulses to meet, as in the good old days, stopped immediately.

Then there was a capricious girl who could not throw the curtains in the washer and a weekly dying at mom on the handles from overwork. True, from which she could earn it, I could not guess and could not. And the lady suffered from the lack of a car, because standing in winter at the bus stops - cold. The car should have had the parents, another version of his appearance was not even considered. The 29-year-old young lady strained his helplessness in everything, the title of Queen, issued to himself, with confidence that everything should all, and the attacks of hysteria on the fact that no one comes and does not bring anything.

Another one - Anya - loved to declare every three months, when she needed to come to the capital behind the clothes and spend the night with me. And even in the attacks of increased unfortunate, due to the rupture of relations. Anya assured her girlfriends closer to me with her, and the difference in kilometers is a tricky nonsense. When she once again stated that she was going to Minsk, here's straight tomorrow, without asking whether I was convenient to accept her and if I had a time that I was ready to spend on her, I heard that all sleeping places in the house were busy. Anya responded very clearly: "understandable." I, in turn, it became clear that the man in my life ended.

There were also boys with crowns on the head, stroking endless web messages about their coolness, which meant only one thing: baby, but you can't even imagine how you are awesome lucky to meet me! Perhaps I suffered a blindness, because I could not see the essence of my luck, godlessly removing all the violators of my harmony from my life.

It is strange that some similar comrades, which at one fine time "asked", for some reason sometimes be returned. Almost in all cases without the crown, but return. They just want to be friends, just communicate. Why - I do not understand, so thanks, but no.

I do not regret any of the lost "girlfriend", nor about an absolutely interesting, smart and promising man who were offended by one or another, did it hurt or missed discomfort. Where I am real, there are no such people. I am not sorry for anyone from those who I crossed out once and for all, and even warm memories of joint madness, conversations for souls and other pleasures do not pour the heart to the heart and do not force the soul to whine.

Yes, people are not consumables, and friendship, and feelings, of course, should be expected. But only in cases where there are no questions about the sincerity of your relationship.

And the point here is not in naivety, stupidity or absence of vital wisdom - rather, on the contrary. Learning to feel through and those who do you dearly close and is located nearby, perhaps only with experience and practice, as well as deep immersion in yourself. Live for a long time Pretty single, you already have no doubt who is who. Because the present is very different from false. Just be honest with yourself. And do not go to bed in pink glasses.

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How to forget your loved one and open your heart for new happiness

Parting with your loved one ... anyway, survived it almost every one of us. A huge number of external circumstances affecting the course of events and on human relationships, our inner state, some unmanaged situations or sudden cooling of feelings from the beloved, and now the threshold has an inexorable separation. And the house will be empty, and the phone ships, and it hurts, it hurts, it hurts ... it hurts so that not to retell with words. Sleepless nights, wet from the tears pillow, despair, chaos in the shower and thoughts, and no advice from friends and loved ones do not clarify how to live on ... classic genre. How to forget it?

Mustile minutes of waiting, hopping with every day hope - all this was survived thousands of abandoned women. So our world is designed that women leave men much less often than men women. And a painful question, how to forget your loved one, one day it rises hardly before every second representative of the beautiful sex. Some of them managed to cope with pain and longing adequately and pretty quickly (perhaps, in this someone, the advice of the psychologist). The main part of the abandoned women from the inescreda grief often flows into extremes and begins to make unreasonable, and sometimes even completely inadequate actions. The results of such actions are usually directly opposed to expected. How to avoid this? How to quickly forget your loved one? We will try to choose for you. the best advicewhich helped many to survive the loss as quickly as possible.

Forget your loved one

Parting with a loved one is a shock that is a serious test for the psyche. An abandoned woman - in some kind of sacrifice, who fell into a trap separation with an expensive person and who does not know how to get out of this trap. Any movements deliver to her unbearable pain, but to stay in Kappan - death like. How to be? How to change the situation for the better and how to forget your beloved, who was all more expensive?

Let's look at the situation of parting with a loved one, as the fact that took place and irrefutable. And remember that we are a personality for which the tests are just a step towards self-improvement. Of course, I would not really want the rise to this step was so difficult. But fate has its own laws. You can't argue with her. Therefore, we are trying to climb up with the smallest losses for yourself.

How to do it? In general, the process of lifting is individual. However, a huge collective experience and advice of all the women separated with the loved ones gave the opportunity to create some scheme of behavior, most fully responsible for the question of how you can forget your loved one is most painless.

How can I do that? First, in no case should not persistently try to find out how much you live and with whom. Ask any psychologist, and he will tell you: In addition, it hurts it terribly, such actions can provoke into rapid acts, for which in time it becomes unbearable. Everything else, even if the beloved also remained some doubts about the woman left to them, such actions dispel them completely. Therefore, if we are moving, not knowing how to forget your favorite people, you should remember once and forever: you need to stay from them as far as possible. Even if you still do not forget your loved one, it is impossible to come across my eyes in no case is this law!

Of course, if you decide on such cardinal measures, there is not enough soul forces and really want to call, then you can dial his phone number. Unrealized desires of this kind can provoke the development of deep depression, and this will not contribute to the restoration of the psyche after stress. Therefore, call, but we are trying to talk without hysterics, in a friendly interested in his affairs, health, and so on. In the end, he was a close man, so why not ask how he lives now. In general, many women help such calls to calm down and quite consistent with the scheme, as forgetting the beloved person forever. Thanks to them, gradually from the discharge of loved ones, he can go into the discharge of friends, and then disappear at all from life, remaining only with the memories. And if you do not imagine how to forget your beloved, then imagine that you have to forget the acquaintance - it is quite possible.

Secondly, to stay alone with her grief, clogging into the dark corner of all away, should not. We are scattering ourselves with memories of each minute spent with your loved ones, let's start inventing the reasons for his care, to dig in yourself, depicting a home-grown psychologist ... Instead, we try to visit people as much as possible. If during this period there is no suitable society in which we will feel tolerable, then just walk through the streets or somewhere in a beautiful park.

Third, it is impossible to hide emotions and restrain them. This, of course, does not mean that it is necessary to talk about his misfortune to every oncoming transverse one. You can go to my mother or girlfriend and nourish there to be saved until stuttering. One of the answers to the question of how to survive parting with a loved one, becomes an indispensable communication with loved ones. Otherwise, psychosis is provided. Do not close it in yourself and cultivate your pain - she will grow to gigantic sizes. Even if there are no people who can be stood in a vest, you should search for communication - it will help to drive the oppressive thoughts and stabilize the surge of emotions.

Some girls, losing her beloved and not knowing how to forget him, try to drown their grief in alcohol or go away from trouble, having sex with new partners. And the other is not only inexpedient, but also harmful. Alcohol will only aggravate the problem, and indiscriminate sexual communications can provoke many additional problems. In addition, the reputation of the alcoholic or the loose lady is in no way contributes to the fact that the former beloved ever regretted his act.

Forget your loved one ... how best?

In order to understand how to forget the beloved forever, you need to realize that from your life you need to remove all the memories of it. Therefore, it is desirable to eliminate all items to which the beloved is related to: throw away or give someone his things, gifts and so on. Sorry? Mental health is more expensive. Material reminders will disappear from the environment - an anchor thrown next to it will disappear. And the ship's ship will again get full freedom.

Of course, the freedom of this it will not use immediately. After the first shock of separation takes place, the period of prostration will come, a kind of depressive state, when the trouble perceive is not so acute, as if from afar. How to experience parting with your beloved during this period?

This is a rather difficult time when emotions have already been kicked, and thoughts are still spinning around the trouble, interferebling to do something seriously. From such a state you need to leave by all my forces, distracting in the companies of friends, colleagues, visiting corporate events, theaters, exhibitions, "anything, if only it helped weigh sad reflections. And this "anything" must be even interesting. It is very desirable that both the companies and visits are new, not reminiscent of lost love.

There is a good psychological technique that helps to quickly understand how to forget your loved one. It is necessary to start the so-called "Book of Happiness" - a notebook or notebook, where each page is assigned under a certain day of the week. In the headlines of each of these pages, you need to write a phrase "Happiness to date", and daily in the evenings to record everything that having delivered at least the slightest joy, any pleasant trifles Last day. It can be a funny dog \u200b\u200bon the street, a beautiful handbag on a store showcase, a smile of passerby, flourishing flowers and so on. After such a "happiness" is kept with a dozen pages, the psyche will begin to navigate the joyful events, and the trouble will retreat.

How to forget your favorite forever

Then, when the grief from parting with a beloved person has already ceased to tear into parts, but the soul is still gradually failing, the time comes to create. Yes, yes, it is to create, because such stresses allow us to free up the inner potential, the power of which we used to be and not suspected. This is the undoubted benefit of such situations, and we can say that even our luck.

What is this creation expressed in? Yes, in any way! You can drastically change your image or the interior of the apartment, to study foreign languages \u200b\u200bor shopping, write a book, learn how to knit, embroider with a cross, draw, dilute exotic plants ... It is very useful to make some kind of pet, if it is not yet, and captivated for care Him. In a word, you need to start creating your life again and do it so that every small change in it delivered at least some pleasure. In such actions, the basis of understanding, how to forget the beloved person to forget.

It is very important during this period to pay special attention to your own appearance. After all, our former beloved is not the only one on Earth, and we are now free, and the time comes to look for another prince. We update, as far as possible, the wardrobe, make a new hairstyle and smile every day your loose reflection in the mirror. Smile, despite everything: neither for bad weather, nor on an unimportant mood. A smile sooner or late will work as a very effective antidepressant, and new forces will appear to action. Life is drurlit and again will play with all the colors, and the disintegration of the place in it simply will not be left. And we will understand that no parting with your loved one is the end of this life. They are more likely to be it. The beginning of a new, happy stage.

Waiting for new happiness

So, we told about how to forget your loved one, if he suddenly disappeared from our life. Of course, these techniques cannot be considered a panacea - each of us is individual and tolerates the grief in its own way, however, they usually work. In general, the main task of a woman who fell into such a situation is to change its attitude to this situation. In order to learn how to make it quickly, you can turn to those who survived this. Even their sincere sympathy is a great help in such a difficult moment.

In general, parting with your beloved is far from always there is such a big misfortune that it seems to us. It is possible that our beloved was not so perfect, as it seemed, and, having lost it, we got the opportunity to meet our real happiness. In addition, as we have already spoken, the separation can be a start to great achievements and will fade into the conquest of new peaks. And who knows - perhaps, in time we will experience gratitude to the former beloved for the fact that he once suddenly left.

One way or another, but after parting with your beloved you have to live. After all, life is so multifaceted and unpredictable! And happiness, new, reliable, can wait for us at each angle! Especially since now, when we know how to forget your loved one, we are completely free and can give up this happiness without looking back.

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Forget your loved one is not easy, but perhaps. How to do this and what can interfere with this? What to do, but what to avoid? On this occasion, many tips, the question of how to forget your loved one or how to survive parting is one of the most frequently asked for a variety of psychological forums. However, the search for "how to forget the man", "how to forget your loved one", "how to forget the girl" showed that there is no adequate answer to this question. There are various pseudopsychological articles on this topic with useless advice, it seems: "Just don't think about him, everything will be held in itself" or "Get a new novel." Therefore, I decided to highlight this topic. I do not pretend that my reasoning covers the whole theme or are the truth in the last instance, at the same time hope that they will be useful for someone.

This article is focused on people who are difficult to survive parting, forget the person with whom they were previously in relationships. However, those who are in love with the idol, with whom there was no relationship, may also be useful to read this article. I will make a reservation that saying "to forget", I mean "let go, stop worrying." I am convinced that "forget", i.e. To delete out of memory, never remember, erase everything that can remind another person - this is not what you need to strive for. Another person has already become in some sense part of you and delete it from memory - to bring part of myself.

I turn to the essence of the question. Let's see what can interfere with forget another person and what can be done with it. Conditionally reasons for interfering to forget the beloved can be divided into three categories: emotional, cognitive (our thoughts, installations, beliefs) and behavioral.

What are the emotional reasons that interfere with letting the previous relationship?

1) not lived emotions grief, sadness about separation. No need sadness, grief, pain try to oust, "do not feel." These feelings need to be survived, in order to complete the grief of losses, loss. And parting is loss. Allow yourself swim, let yourself mess around. No need to depict " strong woman" or " strong man"Who have no feelings.

2) N. pronounced feeling Resenting, anger in relation to man. Often, after parting, mental dialogues with a former partner are being conducted, resentment, complaints. Write a letter to your ex-love: Describe everything that you are angry with it. After writing a letter, add three p.s. Sometimes in the species, people write the most important thing that they would like to say. After - brush or burn a letter, you do not need to send it to the addressee.

3) feeling of guilt. Perhaps you imagine that the fault is for the fact that the relationship did not work out, lies entirely to you. Probably you really are a certain responsibility for parting. But wines and responsibility are different things. You did the way you could do in the situation in which you were. And you are responsible for this, but not to blame. If you made a mistake - admit it, make a conclusion for the future and do not execute yourself for it.

Among cognitive reasons can be allocated as follows:

1) The belief is that this person is the best and other so good you will not find anything. Try to objectively look at the situation: if the relationship ended, most likely there were some difficulties in them. Maybe this person is really very good, but it does not fit. And you do not know every man and every woman on Earth to confidently say that this or that was the best.

2) the absence of faith in what else can love someone. In a situation of emotionally not completed relationships, experiences and feelings for another person, it is useless to imagine someone else with whom in the future will be fine. This someone will seem gray, clumsy and in general inappropriate. In a state of affection to another person, it is difficult to imagine that you will love the other, but because it is difficult to imagine, we should not conclude that it is impossible. Reality and real people are much more diverse than our fantasy.

3) "Binding" of their hopes, plans for the future to this person. They need to "untie" from him. Make a list of plans that you associated with this person (and continue to do it) and stages for every work, the plan draw another perspective. For example: "We were going to go in the summer at sea," alternative: "I will go to the sea with a friend / girlfriend."

Behavioral reasons:

1) Permanent communication with this person will certainly be interpreted to let go of the previous relationship. Sometimes with a former partner, I want to keep friendly relations - a wonderful intention! Just not immediately, but after some time, when the feelings are cool, pain will pass.

2) Sex. It happens that after parting, former partners occur periodically and have sex. And then someone out of them is perplexed: "Why can't I forget him / her? Well, and that we sleep, sex and feelings are different things. " In fact, these are very interrelated areas and to divide them artificially, you need to attach a lot of psychological efforts - spiritual harmony will definitely not bring.

3) Depressive lifestyle: climb into yourself, sit at home - not the most successful way to cope with experiences about separation. Go with your head to work - also not the best wayBecause when you return, you will find what they fled. Try not looking at anything, to keep your relationship with friends, attend interesting places, do what you used to be interested. Read more about the behavioral correction of emotional dependence and relief of the experience of parting, read in my article "A simple way to get rid of emotional dependence, survive parting and become happier."

4) the ban on the memory or on the contrary fantasy that you are together. This is normal if you periodically remember the former partner. The hard ban on the memories can lead to the opposite effect: you will constantly remember about it (to not remember the lacaround!). On the contrary, fantasy about how it would be good together, or how everything could turn around, you need to stop.

So, we considered various reasons (and possible ways to eliminate them), which prevent you from forgetting your loved one, let go of the ending relationship. Perhaps some of them will overcome independently, and in order to "figure out" with other reasons, the help of a psychologist will be necessary. Do not deny yourself this, because the appeal for help to a psychologist is not a luxury, but a way to improve the quality of your life! Even a few consultations of a psychologist may be enough to launch positive changes in life and continue to maintain and develop them on their own.

Tell us, dear readers, and how did you experience parting? Do you have any ways to help yourself?

FROM best wishes, psychologist Tyuyev Elena.

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How to forget the person you love: "Slip" wounds

It happens that not fate. No people can be together. And what remains to do if the heart is broken, whines from pain, but not physical. What to fix in your brain so that this chief body forget the forever who is still almost the meaning of life? How to cross out from the head of the one who seems to be for all of it ... It is very difficult for these questions to find an answer, but in this article we will try to learn how to forget the person who you love.

Do I need to do this?

Suffering is good. They raise a person, give the inner rod, form an excerpt. A reasonable personality will result from such a situation lessons who will help her to adapt to life. But if a person is experiencing flour, then it dismisses the soul, and the outcome of such experience is difficult to predict. In such a situation, nothing, except for offenses and bite, which in the future acquire global volumes due to breaking character.

Answering the question of whether it is necessary to try to burst out, it is necessary to determine for yourself "the scale of the defeat": if you are very wound off this feeling, then you can do a little, and the intentional actions do not have to do - it will take place. But if it poists all your existence and ruins life, then immediately read the following items of the article.

Awareness of the problem

How to forget the person you love? The first stage on the way of deliverance from this burden is to aware of the problem. Obschery: Love is this, or mania imposed by complexes? True loveAccording to psychologists, it does not cause pain: its object is always achievable, and the relationship with it is harmonious. By this they cross the descriptions of such a high feeling in brilliant authors, in the works of which love was universal scale.

You should understand that you get rid of ordinary love, much easier than from a manic feeling. Realizing what you are experiencing, why and why do you need it - decide 50% of the problem.

Real estimate

How to let go of a person who you love? You need to understand that you are not a couple. Justify for yourself mentally or shed on a sheet, what circumstances, character traits and any other conditions prevent your love to be realized as you wish. "Having dropped to Earth" with a real look at the problem, love will be adequately positioned as a phenomenon, and you will learn the conditions for its existence.

Replacement of emotions

How to forget the person who you love with the help of distractions? Switch to other people, not necessarily love them. Together, hate, but distracted. A strong sense of love needs to be replaced by another strong feeling. Do what I dreamed of all my life: jump with a parachute, travel through countries, make a career - anything. Get a pet and love him, take care and watch it grows - it will surely give positive emotions And "Switch" you from concentration on yourself.

Conviction

In this part of the article we will deal with how to forget the person you love with the help of conviction. Solgita yourself. Tell me that you do not like anyone. Then, after you believe in a lie, make sure it is correct, and maybe you will like this position so much that you really stop loving. Some people like to play the role of the altar and sufferer, so every unhappy love can be an elementary way of fitting some kind of image, where the actor and the viewer in one person.

Disappointment

How to break the person you love? Will be disappointed in it. List all sorts of negative features of his personality, think about how terrible and disgust. Perhaps this exercise will deprive the light image of your object of love, and feelings will gradually cool.

These are techniques such as methods. However, the main thing in this issue is to wait time. Everything passes with him, memory is erased, the emotions are extinguished, settling the fingerprint on the person of loving. Forever to forget in the literal sense of the word is unlikely to come out if amnesia does not happen. But to perceive this sad experience not so acute - it will be necessary, because ahead new lifeAnd who knows if someone who is also strongly able to love you in it.

How to forget a man and stop thinking about him?

Even in the most beautiful, sexy and successful women Sometimes love disappointments happen when you want to forget the man once and forever. Of course, Whatever the reason for parting with a beloved man, and who would be the initiator of the gap - it is always an unpleasant and painful moment, which you need to be able to go well.

But it happens especially offensive when relations stop at the initiative of the man. The main thing in such a situation is to take yourself in hand, collect the will in a fist and not to run after the outgoing train.

If a woman does not hold back, it will begin to humiliate before a man, call, pursue, tearfully begging him to return, then he may later wave him and himself. Not in vain there is a saying: "It's not scary to lose a man - it is terribly losing myself." Therefore, no matter how hurts, the woman should show self-esteem and try to throw out a man from the head - that she will keep his dignity in the eyes of her "former," and even if he no longer love her, then it will be necessary to respect.

Time heals

The first time to overcome the thoughts about the beloved man and forget it will be hard. As a rule, the most acute and painful period after parting is the first two or three months. At the initial stage, it is rather difficult to realize that a point is put in the relationship. A woman does not leave hope that a man will come to his senses, asks for forgiveness and return again ...

But the more time passes, the clearer understands the woman that you won't return the lost relationship, and that you need to live on, with the hope that a new love comes to life. But the thing is that, as a rule, new love comes only when the heart is free, and the old relationship safely worn out of memory.

But how to open yourself for a new relationship, forgetting your beloved man? In such a situation, psychologists recommend adhere to several tips.

Throw out emotions if the soul hurts, in no case should you keep this pain in yourself. Do not splash negative experiences act destructive on the psyche and on health! The faster the woman is paying and spoke on the shoulder from his beloved friend - the faster she will forget the man and it will become easier for her. And when the first influx of emotions leaves, the whole situation that happened may not seem like such a tragic. Finding positive aspects in the almost in any situation there are both negative and positive parties. Perhaps, having come across and calming down, the woman will understand that she should not cry, but to rejoice that she did not lose it at all, but on the contrary acquired - peace, freedom, independence, new vitality, etc. Remember the bad qualities and actions of your "former"

Whatever paradoxically, when people break up, the best and romantic moments associated with "former" are beginning to scroll into their memory, the mental suffering is even more aggravated. Whereas in fact everything was not so good - they do not part the same people on empty place!

One of the best ways to cool your feelings for a man is to write down all its shortcomings and "sins" on a piece of paper, and then attach this leaflet in the most prominent place to come across the eyes. Then, when looking at the leaflet, it is those events, the memories of which will be sincerely rejoice that unsuccessful relations remained in the past.

It can be understood that there are no indispensable people can make themselves forget about a man even if it was ideal to such an extent that it was not for what. After all, it is not a fact that on the way of a woman will not get another better man: a more beautiful, more generous, more educated, more devoted, more caring, more decent, more loving and more beloved. And in general - there is no limits to excellence! So you need to look forward, and not back, dream of the future, and not regret the past! New relationships will help their personal life to make a man. As soon as a woman starts paying attention to the surrounding nice men and caught at least one delighted look, so immediately understand that life is beautiful, and that the happiest moments are ahead. The main thing is not to dwell on your experiences and do not deliver yourself with heartbreaking memories that it is impossible to return. And is it worth returning when there are so many interesting and attractive men around? To go to work or invent a new hobby in the end, the life of a woman is not only from relationship with his beloved man. In life, so many interesting - films that would have to see, books that would cost, cities in which it would be interesting to visit. All this can not only distract from painful memories and strike out a man from the heart, but also bring a lot of interesting impressions. To follow yourself if a woman is watching his appearance and looks perfectly at any moment, then she is always in a beautiful mood and surrounded by fans. And if so, then you forget the man who was in her life once, and meet new love It will be much easier. So life continues, and all the best is still ahead!

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As you know, in the life of everyone there are ups and downs, moments of happiness and disappointment. And it happens that the wings that have grown recently, suddenly handle and everything inside is burning from pain, resentment and suddenly flowing feelings of loneliness and their own besha. I also had such a period. The man whom I loved very much, left. I vinila myself in everything, remembered my mistakes, scrolls in the head of the situation, the end and the edges of the feeling of guilt. I urgently wanted to call / write a beloved, just to hear his voice. In order to make sure that everything is good, that he applies well to me, and I mean a lot for him. But I could not forget the fact that a person who recently spoke about how he loves me is elsewhere. When I woke up - I thought about him that he was doing now when I was at work - I did not pass and the hour so that I would not remember him. He so often called me in the midst of the working day that I had no enough of these calls, familiar dialogues. In the evening it was even worse - loneliness exacerbated to the span of emptiness. Everyone was even harder from what together we lived in the apartment in which I lived before him and now without him. Many things around reminded of him, because we used them together, even some broadcasts on TV I could not see more without tears, because we loved to look together.

My first psychologist

Seeing my flour, a girlfriend, with which we regularly spent the evening together for a glass of Vermut, swearing my former, advised to seek advice to a psychologist, write a question online. No sooner said than done. After 2 hours we have already read the answer. About my pain, about time, about minuses and advantages. I was easier and I decided to make an appointment. Then it seemed to me that in my situation a psychologist - a man would help me much better than a woman. And he began to visit the office of the psychologist once a week. I was already warmer from this thought, I was in anticipation of relief. The room was small and cozy, but I could not relax, only briefly answering questions. It was clamped, herself is not his own. The man did not feel and continued to work. And I realized that I didn't get it easier for me that my thoughts go completely in a different direction than what a psychologist was talking about. Before 5 meetings, I was determined and said that I don't want to communicate something that I myself could cope. This later, I realized that before a man I shone more than it would be before a woman.

Depression

Day from day I lost the taste of life, I could have already pleased little. Tasty food, cakes, shopping, hiking in the movie I became uninteresting. Dating sites caused a feeling of disgust, because I was not lucky to the interlocutors, it was black and empty.

Girlfriends and sisters tried, as they could, "pull me out" from this state, we began to go to my favorite oriental dances, but soon I abandoned this occupation, and before bedtime, I stuck in the pillow and cried, because it was not on it. All the forces went on experiences, no strength remained for anything else.

Once, I, as usual, came home and stared at the computer, answered boring messages on a dating site, and with one person I turned the conversation, he also recently broke up with a girl and stayed in a similar condition, only - in his own way. This friend told me that I heard about how girls cope with such a problem, too, with the help of a psychologist, but on Skype, if it is difficult to relax in an unfamiliar atmosphere.

Second attempt

Disappointed in psychologists after its unsuccessful therapy, I no longer expect to help from the side, but I decided that I would not lose anything and found a worthy psychotherapist according to the reviews. The main difference from the first was that I could talk about what the trust was not established. Mary was interested in my feelings that I surprised me a lot, I myself didn't understand them very much. Somehow she asked me, was I satisfied with your loved ones? I remembered our quarrels, my hysteries, devastation after them, his alienation and realized that my life was too short to spend her on a person who chose to be in a different place. At least, we do not cry at each other and I do not make sense to deal with it right now. Everything is resolved by itself. Then she brought me to the thoughts about the relationship that I would like, I could clearly convey it, and now I knew exactly what I want, but I don't want. The pain from separation was still, but now a little further than at the beginning. Because the care of this man was now no longer the end of my dreams (suitable for me with a relationship) or life, although at first it seemed to me. Mary helped look for me thoughts that make it easier for the condition. For example, she asked the question: what can I do now be in addition to the grief about the loss of relationship, which I could not afford before? And I could already: spend money where I want and as I want, without listening to direct prohibitions or grumbling; Night among the girlfriends or spending time in nightclubs. And also do not think about what we will eat in the evening; walking on a date or in a movie with male friends and flirt with whom it is pleased to watch TV only what is in mind; Do not wash and do not get cleared as wishes; Without constraint, look at outsiders. Now I could afford to leave for my native to all weekends; Do not feel guilty for a lot of time in the bathroom and in front of the mirror. The more I said, the more I understood that I was starting to enjoy freedom. Thus, I learned to the moments of negative feelings, which caused relations with the former beloved in me, focus on the positive points of the event of events, on thoughts that help me come to the state of internal balance.

The experience of past relations

Psychotherapist helped me make experience from a relationship with my former young man. He tried so hard to make me happy that I got used to it and waited from him that he would solve my problems poor mood, shifting responsibility for him for his happiness. Such a big burnt was not under the power of a huge cargo in his way, that a different way out than to leave - he did not know. By this time, I have already taken the fact of parting, because I did not have a feeling of guilt from the reason for our disadvantage. My relationship with a man who lived not with me, but again with her parents, I began to perceive as a step to my new relationship, more acceptable to me. But at this I did not catch it: I just began to communicate more with people, a thrust appeared to improving myself - life became more pleasant.

So I was on the path of creating a new one in a relationship, with awareness that there is no need to adjust yourself under another person's pretty person who is not interested in me. That life continues and there is a lot of interesting things in it.

The former guy was once and my husband, our painful relationship lasted for more than 4 years, for which we started to meet and parted 3 times. We could not complete them to complete them, we loved each other, but misunderstanding and varying liability were only confused. All this time, happiness was in my hands, but I did not know this. 3 months after the start of my Skype therapy, I met my real husband.

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Easy way to delete a person from life

Women's Journal »Women Psychology

Unfortunately, the people who once seemed real friends or loved ones, often turn to us with their bad side. Treason, betrayal, deception, manipulation, rough appeal and other actions - all this indicates that this person will bring only pain and suffering to your life. At some point, when we begin to realize that we should strike out a person from life to get rid of negative emotions and sensations.

However, driving manipulators and manipulators are far from immediately let go of their victim. The guy who has changed to the right and left can for months, begging you to return, literally pursuing you near the work or university, sending dozens of SMS and email letters. A girlfriend, ridiculating you for your back, maybe, as if nothing had happened, call and write to you, depicting "sincere" surprise and offense from what you do not want to communicate with her.

The problem is that even if you understand that these people will never change (the guy will continue to change you, since such a corrupted behavior has become his second nature, a friend will continue to discuss and insult you, since she just does not know how to behave differently), It will be difficult for you to resist the set of such charm and desire to continue relationships or just chat. For example, your former can deliberately give you flowers in front of pleasants, so that those starting with surprise to ask "And for what you searched such a guy?", "Whether you didn't get lit up with men?" And thus made you willy-unilietes to think about returning to the former. At the same time, all the colors and SMS sent by SMS and promises will be only thoughtful manipulations in order to return you to their place.

How to strike out a person from life so that he once and forever left you alone?

1. First of all, think about whether a person behaved so badly towards you that you are ready to completely stop chatting and friendship. Sometimes we think too emotionally and ready to "betray anathema" of our guy just because he was forced to be late for a date, since he was detained by the boss. Or write a girlfriend to enemy if she just criticized a new hairstyle.

In this case, rather, it is worth thinking about your self-esteem and why an innocent act or comment causes you so much indignation.

However, if you know exactly that someone deliberately hurts you, insults or humiliates you and continue going to do this, the desire to strike this person from life is quite justified.

2. Ask yourself, are you ready to completely stop communicating with this person? Is there any circumstances in your life that will prevent you from leaning out of his life? If you have to intersect with unpleasant people For work or study, you will not fully stop communicating, you can only minimize it.

By the way, that is why many experts do not advise the novels at work, since after breaking the relationship you will be quite unpleasant to see your former daily. And many psychologists and advise to distinguish friendly and professional relations: At work, colleagues are working next to you, and not friends, do not break water.

3. If you firmly decided to strike out a person from life and know that you have no circumstances that could prevent this, all that you will remain is to show hardness and dedication.

First of all, completely stop any contacts with this person. Do not answer calls, block it in social networksIf possible, do not attend places where it happens. Explain the situation to your loved ones you trust, tell us that you do not want to regain your relationship with an unpleasant person, and ask you not to mention it in a conversation with you.

Be prepared and to the fact that you begin to doubt your decision, ask yourself, is not too cruel, I do, whether our common acquaintances will be convicted. At this point, you have only one way to get rid of such thoughts - just remember how much pain you causing a person who betrayed you.

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Instruction

Take the strength and determination to change your life and start it again. First, give yourself one day (or even less) to finally gut and regret yourself. Play as much as you need. An hour later, you probably notice that there is no tears left. Write all your negative emotions about what happened and, without reread, burn.

Use for a successful farewell to the NLP equipment. From the point of view of this direction, those events that are emotionally less painted are easier. Accordingly, the emotional brightness of events (human) is suitable for your purposes. Alexander Lyubimov on his site Trenings.ru recommends mentally representing photographs of the traumatic situation deposited on the glass, and break it with a hammer. You can also push out the image of this situation or person as possible, reduce the brightness and reduce the sounds of this situation, making them faded and deaf.

Take your past. Fighting him and the desire to erase it from memory will not lead any significant result. The past can be accepted, release, extract lessons from it, but it is impossible to make it disappear. Please accept that it is part of your life, some of you, but the already departed part. Find positive experience in it, your unique experience, and mentally put the point in that situation. Also mentally turn the face to the future.

Take responsibility for your destiny and do not let any people, no situations manage your destiny. A sense of responsibility for herself will not allow you to spread and lower your hands. If it does not work and you still feel sorry for yourself and you want someone instead you corrected the situation, then it's time to get angry! Wrong on yourself, on the offender - you have a feeling of self-esteem and pride, in the end. The feeling of anger helps to part with the fact that no longer relevant - with people, situations, and themselves, and take a step forward.

Now step over to a new level - from suffering and pity for activity. Search for new ideas, goals, hobbies, just interests, impressions should take your brain, your strength. Learn to live by the present, and not return to thoughts to experiences about the past. Look for new joys and opportunities in the current position. Use time with benefit for yourself, do not waste your life for useless experiences. You probably have needs, hobbies and goals that you completely forgot. It's time to implement them!

Probably, every person had a depressive period when Apathy took the top and did not want absolutely nothing. Accordingly, after such a mood comes sadness. It is not so important that it was precisely it caused - the memory of someone, about something ... in principle, this is not the essence. But it is important how to deal with it, what to do and how to cope.

Instruction

The sadness itself is dangerous in that it can be dismissed again. And this, in his own, turn, will again cause Apathia. There will be a tendency to self-dispersion. And this is not good.

Unfortunately, in Russia, hiking is not so popular, as in America. If you think about it, then just talk to a person who is trained to help people deal with themselves - it would be a great way out, as it would no longer need to carry out surplus of feelings and emotions.

If not satisfied with the option with a psychologist (expensive, distrust or other), you can seek help for your friends. A small party will fully help a little bit of consciousness, make the body move, get a little pleasure. And if at least a bit of joy and pleasure is obtained, then the body begins to distinguish endorphins and dopamines, which literally "attack" the brain. These are the hormones of joy, pleasure, and after such a "bombing" all the existing sorrow as a hand will remove.

If no one wants to see - Welcome to the cinema. Purchase Pop Corn bucket, a large glass of soda, and arrange more comfortable. What is the essence of this reception - this is an opportunity to feel a little among large number of people. Sitting, you can think about it, weigh all your views, which could arise, and try to find a way out of the current situation.

Fighters of combating sadness, depression is a huge amount. The main thing is not to despair and do not lean on alcohol. After all, there will be even more problems from alcohol, more thanks. According to the wise men of antiquity, it is necessary to drink on joy, then its meaning will increase. The same is true for sorrow. It will only worse. And in such a mood to the loop not far away.

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Almost every person in life had to face treason, parting or falling in love with a person who did not meet reciprocity. In such situations, I want to forget about the failure as soon as possible, drown out pain and start living with a clean leaf. The process of crossing the beloved person from his life is hardly tolerated and men and women. The following tips are suitable for representatives of both sexes.

Instruction

Avoid loneliness. Select the cinemas in the clubs, in the circus, on sports, etc. You simply need a splash of energy and emotions, otherwise they will turn into negative, and you will begin to engage in self and criticism.

Probably, each of us came across such a problem, someone on her own bitter experience, and someone, comforting a girlfriend, which "did not work out." Anyway, each thought about how to forget the person who loves not to see dreams at night and do not cry into the pillow. It is clear that you quickly forget your loved one, no matter how try, it will not come out, it takes time and the more, the better. But you can speed up the process, using the time as efficiently as possible. Let's look at ways as you can forget your beloved person forever.

Step 1

The first thing to be done is to forget your loved one, it is more clearly realized that it has already been a former stage in your life. And come back there is no meaning. Do not walk in a circle all my life. And since we decided to forget, then you need to do it immediately, you should not be interested in the life of the former, call and arrange scandals. Just remove the phone number and prohibit common friends Notify you about his life, she is not interested in you now. True, answering the question of how to forget your beloved person forever, some psychologists give advice to call former men. But only sometimes, and only in the case, if you want his number very much. Unrealized desire can lead to depression, and therefore it is necessary to call, but only to talk in a friendly. If you do not feel such abilities in yourself, then forget its phone number, email address and other contacts.

Step 2.

Tips of any psychologist, how to forget your loved one, will definitely support the next item: "Do not keep emotions in yourself." This means that you need to find a grateful listener and thoroughly break, tell you how you hurt and so on. If the listener was not found or spilling out emotions for any reason it does not go out, try to give them another way out. For example, feel anger on the former? Rove his photos in shreds, shoot stuffed Toysdotted by him, darts, throw it out of the balcony (only in passersby are not killed), anything.

Step 3.

Do not know how to quickly forget your loved one? Psychology advises us to think, and if he was good, to disassemble all his positive and negative features. Remember such an old reception: we divide the sheet in half and in one column we write the advantages, and in another cons. Often, this method helps if you do not forget your beloved, then it is for sure in it. Offended woman So many flaws find that at the end of the filling of the table, the division is given, as still lived with this monster.

Step 4.

How to try to forget your loved one? But in no way, stop already, in the end, try hard to rely on it from your memory. Just live further, there are so many good in life, and it was, and there will be. Do not stop at the past. Well, so that unnecessary thoughts do not attend you, fill out your day by business to the limit. This does not mean that it is necessary to turn into a workaholic, for the concept of "case" excellent walks in the park (shops), meetings with friends, fitness classes (in a circle of cutting and sewing, modeling plasticine, any hobby is welcomed). And after a saturated day, no sad thoughts have time to settle in your mind, the body will urgently require rest and no love dramas at that moment it will not be interested in it.

Step 5.

Often breaking up with your beloved, we can not understand for a long time that a place remained for joy. To cope with the despondency, learn, every day notice those little things that made you smile. It doesn't matter what it will be flavored coffee With a cake, reserved in a cozy cafe, a kitten with surprised eyes, looking at the butterfly or a successful report. There is happiness, and it is in these unites. Every evening remember what happened good per day. So you will get used to smile to the world again, and he will definitely smile to you in response.

When the relationship breaks, the impression is often created that life stopped. The man was for you everyone, and now I don't want anything at all. But it's not right. By changing your surroundings, streamlining thoughts and taking themselves with the affairs, you can easily leave this person in the past. Try to follow the advice from the article to forget the person and move on to the new and happy life.

Steps

Part 1

Avoid negative reminders

    Stop physical contacts. It is impossible to forget the person if you constantly see it or hear conversations about him. Consider the following options:

    • Plan a case so as not to intersect with this person in life. If you go to one store or your way from work home coincides, then it is better to change a little schedule and habits to reduce the likelihood of a meeting.
    • In the near future, try to avoid events where this man. Politely explain to people that you can not come yet, because you would not want to let a painful meeting.

  1. Close the door to your email life. Today with many loved ones and expensive people We communicate not only in life, but also through the screens of electronic devices. Even without seeing a man, you can follow his life. It will not be easy, but you should delete it or it from all social networks and electronic applications.

  2. Ask common friends to stop talking about this person. Perhaps something very interesting happened, but you do not need to know about it. If your friend is forgetting a request and accidentally remind you of this man, then politely ask to avoid this topic and try to direct the conversation to another channel.

    • However, you can ask to inform you really important information: Sometimes, having learned some facts, you can become easier. Perhaps this man quit smoking, went to another city or lost his job. Tell your friends that if they believe that certain information will help you cope with situations, it is better to tell you.

  3. Get rid of reminders of this person. Remove everything from life with painful memories of this person. The absence of everyday reminders will help you live on.

    • If you can't get rid of some things, put them in one package and ask a relative or close friend Save the package in yourself, away from you. Six months later, you will be different to these things.
    • Delete all songs that resemble people from the player. Replace them on encouraging, optimistic tracks that give you confidence and give a good mood.
    • If you have with this person common child Or a pet, it is obvious that you do not remove them from your life. On the contrary, focus on them and try to give them a decent life.

Part 2

Change the situation

  1. Do not let the feeling of revenge to master you. It should be understood that wanting to take revenge (forcing jealous, regret or get upset), you continue to think about this person. It will not work further and forget everything if you are looked at ignition, so just release this feeling.

    • If you believe in the highest strength, karma or another form of universal justice, then understand for yourself that this person will also get his own.
    • If you do not believe that everyone gets deserved, then reconcile with the thought that life is unfair. It is possible that you are unfairly offended, but it does not give you the right to revenge.
    • Do not forget the words of George Herbert: "Happy life is the best revenge." If you live a full life and not allow yourself to fall to the level of this person, then he or she will understand that you have not lowered your hands after what happened and forgot about it, as not so much an important event in life.

  2. Highlight the time to express your feelings. If you still fail to forget about a person, then try a new approach. Highlight a limited amount of time (hour or two) to sit down and record all your feelings about what happened. When the time comes out or you will have nothing to add (depending on what happens first), close the notebook and set it aside. With the following thoughts about this person, tell me: "No, I have already expressed all my feelings. I will no longer spend time at this time. "

    • If you do not do without it, you allocate for emotions for 10-15 minutes a day. When they exist, tell me that they will return to it again. Every day you will think about it less and less. Even this fact will begin to bring you relief.

  3. Get distracted. Fortunately, we can control our thoughts. If you do not want to think about something, it is not necessary. Immerse yourself in study, work or occupation requiring concentration. When you have than to occupy your head, sad thoughts are moving into the background.

    • If you come back to these thoughts again, then switch attention. We are all dreaming in reality and often wonder what we think now. As soon as the brain switches on this topic, convince himself not to think about it or promise to think later (hint: then it will not be necessary). Take yourself a conversation, game or distract the attention in a different way; Literally a few minutes - and you are saved.

  4. Avoid emotional music and movies. Attempting to forget the person - the soil for the change of mood and depression. Now you feel vulnerable. The last thing you need is external incentives provoking unnecessary emotions and experiences, so listen only to positive music and see cheerful films.

    • Remind this to your friends. Their behavior sets the tone to your mood. When you need a shakement - you just need to call friends, and they know how to raise your mood.

  5. Appreciate yourself. The person you are trying to forget, enjoyed with you unfair. In the end, he or she did not appreciate you sufficiently. Such a person is not a place in your life. To understand this, you need to learn to appreciate yourself. You simply did not apply to you. Surrounding ourselves right.

    • Self-esteem is the key to a happy life. Remember: You are beautiful! Before you lies the whole world that is full of features. What will be your next step?

Part 3.

Return joy to your life

  1. Do what you like. To tune in to the desired way, do a new thing at that time you were spent on this person before (or could spend on the thoughts about him / her). Start a hobby that has always attracted you, sign up in the pool or find a lesson at home. Whatever it was, the lesson should bring joy and absorb you so that you are not distracted by anything else.

    • New skills and work on themselves will give confidence. You can even feel the new, even the best person who respects himself and worthy of the best. Work on yourself is the best solution in this situation, which will raise self-esteem and bring peace of mind.

  2. Proper nutrition and physical education. Did you have such periods when you just want every unhealthy food and watch TV without getting up from the sofa? But the most terrible thing that it does not bring you joy - the tape and harmful food do not improve well-being. Proper nutrition and physical education will fill you with the necessary energy and positive thoughts.

    • Fill the diet to fruits, vegetables, wholegrain products and lean meat. Balance the amount of fiber, proteins, complex carbohydrates and useful fats (fish, nuts or olive oil) in food. Refuse harmful food that may seem delicious but completely useless for the body.
    • Exercise half an hour's physical education a day, be it walking, swimming, running, dancing or easy cleaning in the apartment. Divide this time to several approaches if the schedule does not allow half an hour without interruptions. Even minor efforts like parking in a couple of quarters from the destination and walk on foot with time will prove their utility.

  3. Take time with friends and loved ones. The best way Take your thoughts and time to surround yourself with the best people who sincerely worry about you. It may be mom with dad, brother or sister, best friend, sports team or just like-minded people. They will finish you to smile and show thousands of new meanings in life.

    • When you want to cover with a blanket and be alone, you can highlight a couple of hours, and then put an end to this and take the received invitation to go into people. First you might think that they did wrong, but in the end you will be glad that they did not stay at home.

  4. Give yourself time. The human brain can heal himself. The old proverb that time heals is relevant even today and is always always. Naturally, our brain concentrates on things that are important here and now, forgetting the past and changing attitude towards him. Do not rush and relax. For this you need time. Show patience and brain will do everything for you.

    • Sadness is a natural state through which necessary Pass in most cases. The passage of all five stages can take time, but this is a natural process. Manage patience and gradually everything will work out.

  5. Sorry and forget. It is important to understand that you can only forget the person if you do not keep evil on it. If you have completed everything, as described above, but still can't forget a person, then focus on forgiveness. We are all people who are mistaken. Life is going on with her!

    • Do not forget to forgive yourself. Very often, people are angry at themselves much stronger than others. At that moment you did the way you seemed correct. Other people came in the same way. You do not need to blame anyone or seek perpetrators. What was, then passed. Freed from the burden of the past, you can move freely into the future.
  • Forgetting a person, you can move on, but try to extract a lesson from what happened. The time did not pass in vain if you have gained invaluable experience.
  • Never even try to turn to this person. He may try to contact you, but stick to my decision or step back. Remember why you left him.
  • It is always difficult to forget long-term relationships, but know that you deserve the best, and no one is perfect. Realize that life continues, and our environment is also changing.
  • Do not stretch the separation process. Tell all connections immediately and do not give up the temptation of theatrical separation (for example, the extensive " farewell letter"). Just stop.
  • Take care what you could not do before. Start a new life.
  • Do not try to pick up all your things back. If this is not a diamond ring or something personal, the only one of its kind, it is better not to contact this person in order to return them. DVDs, clothing, toothbrush ... Leave them. These are only things. Should I experience an extra pain from the meeting only in order to return ordinary shorts? Do not change your dignity for ordinary things.
  • Do not hurry to make new relationships in order to forget the old ones. This will not lead to anything good.
  • Never try to hate this person; If you try to hate him, he will rule over your thoughts that will tempt you to think about it day and night. Accordingly, you will not be able to forget this person and will constantly feel irritation.
  • Some people occupy a place in your heart for a long time (or forever) and this is also normal.
  • No need to constantly go to the pages of his / her friends in Instagram, Facebook or other social networks. You can stumble upon happy shared photos that will only upset you.