Adults know a lot about the structure of the world and social relations. They are not surprised by simple things like the stirring of leaves or the howling of the wind. This, oddly enough, is the cause of many conflicts between parent and child. After all, the baby is in this world for the first time, for him literally everything is new here. Parents, on the other hand, tend to forget that a child can be frightened by an elementary change in their own mood. Just because he doesn't know what's going on with him. Therefore, when a new stage begins in the development of the crumbs, this is invariably accompanied by a crisis - and parents begin to blame themselves for poor upbringing.

A kind of "transitional age" in children begins at birth and lasts right up to seven years. Each year is accompanied by new phenomena in the psyche of the baby, he learns to cope with new information and tests the environment for strength.

Crisis of the first year of a child's life. Why are children naughty?

During this period, all the abilities to feel the physical and mental are finally formed. The child begins to see, with age everything is clearer. He learns to distinguish between individual objects, remembers the voices of mom and dad, learns to smile, frown, use emerging teeth - in general, this is how his basis is created as a full-fledged personality.

As the child grows, so does the brain. New neural connections appear, the brain emits new waves and, thus, learns something previously unknown. There are several so-called developmental leaps in which the baby grows mentally. This is not due to the appearance of his teeth, growing a few millimeters or other external manifestations of growth. mental development happens in the brain. At one time, scientists, following the development of many babies, singled out certain weeks of such jumps and painted what exactly happens in them.

For example, at the eighth week after birth, the child begins to see not just solid objects, but also patterns on them. Wallpaper, blanket, bed, clothes - in his eyes, literally every object begins to look completely different. Imagine that one day you woke up and the planet began to look different. However, you are still not connected. appearance objects with their purpose. That is, you cannot say that this is a closet, because there are clothes inside it, even though it looks unusual. No, for you the whole planet is new, you have no idea what is happening, where everything familiar has gone and how to live now. Few people do not start to panic in such a situation. So babies, whose whole world has just turned upside down, become capricious.

Each developmental leap is characterized by increased tearfulness. This worries many parents: someone thinks that their baby will grow up harmful; someone thinks he is ill. The baby just needs the increased attention of the mother. He had just discovered a new facet of the world, he had just been able to see or do a little more than he could before. It is not exciting, the baby is not yet able to understand the concept of attraction. It is very difficult for him. Children are frightened by such discoveries and are instinctively drawn to the only thing in this world that has remained familiar and unchanged - to their mother.

How many developmental leaps do babies have?

In the first year and a half, there are ten jumps. No baby without malformations can avoid such phases of growth and moodiness. Even if you have the most calm child in the world, during the period of a new leap, he will be more drawn to his mother, cry more and behave generally “badly”. In the first weeks of life, the phases quickly change, so you can think that the child’s character is capricious and restless, and when the baby grows up, it turns out that he is generally phlegmatic.

Calendar of child development crises up to a year

Graphically, it looks like this:

  1. The suns mark the quietest periods of development.
  2. White and gray weeks - the study and application of new skills, conflicts and whims are possible.
  3. Black weeks are the active development of the next jump.
  4. Clouds are the most difficult weeks.

1 jump. 5 week.

What's new:

Improved metabolism and sense organs; maximum visibility increases from 20 to 30 cm; there are smiles and tears.

What to do:

  • pay more attention;
  • more physical contact;
  • it is better that he does not sleep alone; allow the child to look at what he is interested in; with the help of laughter, determine what the baby is delighted with and please him with this;
  • talk to him more often
  • pause in games (babies get tired quickly, but also recover quickly).

2 jump. 8 week.

What's new:

The child begins to distinguish between objects that he previously perceived as a whole; he holds his head, turns over, moves his arms and legs, explores his own facial expressions; touches and hits a toy preparatory stage before learning to grab it); shows interest in moving objects; enjoys listening and making sounds.

What to do:

  1. praise more often
  2. show closer what he reaches for;
  3. close his palms around the toy;
  4. respond to the child's voice and "keep the conversation going";
  5. diversify his environment (he will get bored surrounded by the same objects).

If the baby looks away, it means that he already has an overabundance of sensations, and he is looking for peace. You need to pause and let him rest.

3 jump. 12 week.

What's new:

Now the baby can do smooth transitions from one state of the body to another; from one voice intonation to another; sees the whole room and can move from tracking a single object to a full panorama.

What to do:

  • listen to the child and demonstrate attention to his babbling;
  • read fairy tales to him with a transition of intonations;
  • show materials of different structure and describe them in different voices;
  • repeat the sounds of the child - this motivates him to continue to develop speech apparatus; show him smooth movements.

4 jump. 19 week.

What's new:

The child learns to make complex movements (not only to grab the toy, but also to turn it, stroke it, pull it); now he not only follows the events, but also wants to influence them; may begin to learn to crawl; the sounds produced become more complex.

What to do:

  1. still encourage
  2. entertain,
  3. to pay attention.

5 jump. 26 week.

What's new:

Noticeably better body coordination; the child has learned to be aware of the concept of distance; now he understands that mom can go far, far away (and this is very scary).

What to do:

  • give the child more space and opportunities to overcome the distance between him and the desired;
  • do not leave for a long time, leave the child the opportunity to crawl after his mother.

6 jump. 37 week.

What's new:

What to do:

  1. introduce a tactile board with bells, ropes and other interesting things into the game; to walk alot;
  2. dressing the child in front of a mirror;
  3. name the objects that the baby points to;
  4. learn to use the voice to ask questions (ask instead);
  5. play catch and hide and seek.

7 jump. 46 weeks.

What's new:

The kid is aware of what the sequence is (to fold the pyramid, you need to do this, this and this).

What to do:

  • when changing clothes, ask your baby to help you;
  • let him comb his hair and wash himself;
  • Stop feeding him with a spoon and teach him to eat on his own.

8 jump. 55 week.

What's new:

The child understands the tasks, that is, that different methods can be used to achieve the desired result.

What to do:

  1. let the baby help you with cleaning, cooking or going to the store (only if he likes it!);
  2. play search for items.

9 jump. 64 weeks.

What's new:

The child is able to make plans and strategies; knows how to choose the most convenient manner of behavior for achieving the goal; more independent.

What to do:

  • teach him the concepts of "mine" and "yours";
  • negotiate with "yes" and "no";
  • teach rules of conduct.

10 jump. 75 week.

What's new:

The kid is aware of the concept of the system (family, society, or more specific: car, clock); he develops a conscience; he understands that his actions lead to consequences; becomes less self-centered; testing the boundaries of what is permitted.

What to do:

  1. encourage good behavior;
  2. show him various systems and explain their arrangement;
  3. define the boundaries of what is permitted.

Child crisis at 2 years old

Constant tantrums - main feature, displaying the crisis of 2 years in a child. Switching attention here no longer works, the child rests on his own Wishlist and arranges a real performance. He can break toys, tear out pages of books, fight and destroy everything around. Parents begin to complain about the uncontrollability of the baby.

The reason for these tantrums lies not in poor upbringing and not in an excess of energy, but in the developing independence of the child. Side effect such an event is that sometimes it seems to him that he is being infringed as a person.

The child needs boundaries. As he explores the world, he sees a connection between what he has done and the subsequent effect. If the effect is the same, the baby is calm and feels safe. If on some day he performed the usual action, but received a different reaction, he begins to panic.

Boundaries are needed so that the baby feels familiar resistance. Yes, he should not be allowed everything, especially since some of the children's requirements are generally impossible to fulfill. At two years old, he should already understand that doing something is forbidden or does not make sense.

Before the storm

It is best to "catch" tantrums before they start. While the child can still adequately think and think about the problem, you should talk to him on an equal footing - for example, say: “I see that you are dissatisfied with something. Come on, tell me what you need, and then together we will think about what we should do. If you don’t immediately start yelling at the baby, he will understand that he is not obliged to cope with the problem himself, because he has the support of his parents. Logic is quite accessible to children, so it will be possible to do without screaming and crying.

If the tantrum has already begun

Do not under any circumstances give up. Even one small indulgence will allow the child to feel real power. As a result, he will no longer respect you, will feel superior, and behave like a capricious king.

To prevent this from happening, you should keep in mind (or even on paper) a clear list of what is allowed and what is prohibited. Any demands of the hysteria must be met or suppressed only according to this list.

Distraction of attention in two years no longer works, but only postpones the solution of the problem. It's better to try other ways.

The tone of the parent should be calm. No need to appeal to logic and indulge in lengthy explanations, Small child, raging on emotions, still will not understand a word. If calm and simple explanations on the topic “Why can’t I give you this” did not help, the best way to calm the child is to leave the room. Without an audience, the child quickly calms down. It is desirable that after that he first made contact with you.

It is normal if the child talks to you as an equal person. It's not normal if he thinks he has more rights than you.

Crisis of three years in a child

This will require a lot of patience and calmness. This crisis is accompanied not only by tantrums, but also by constant arguments and stubbornness. The kid is ready to fiercely defend his desires. The requirements of the parents are fulfilled on the contrary, a lot of “no” and “I don’t want” appear in the lexicon.

What to do?

You can’t indulge the child’s demands, but you can’t break him either. During a tantrum, the best way to cope is to calmly say, “We'll talk when you're calm,” and stop reacting to the child. The conversation after the tantrum must take place (in general, always give the baby only those promises that you really fulfill). Explain that tantrums are a completely ineffective way to get your way.

At three years old, children are very fond of denying. Therefore, all questions and instructions should create the illusion of choice. If you say: “Now you will eat porridge,” expect a cry: “I don’t want porridge!”. You should ask: “Will you have porridge with raisins or jam?”.

Build positive behavior patterns in your child. Praise him for his independence, share his successes with his relatives in his presence.

Child crisis at 4 years old

In many ways, this is a “transitional” crisis between 3 and 5 years of age. Some psychologists call this crisis a protracted crisis of three years. To the tantrums here is added the desire for solitude and increased selfishness.

There are children's tantrums largely due to the fact that the child feels a lack of attention and wants to communicate more. Also, children get tired of spending their leisure time in the same way.

In this way, the best way fight this crisis - to diversify the life and entertainment of the baby. You need to find him a lot of interesting and active classes, and alternate them. Also important psychological comfort crumbs: if he cannot trust his parents, then he will not tell what worries him, and the behavior will be just as bad. It is advisable to teach the child to share their experiences and, together with their parents, look for solutions to problems.

Overprotection in this crisis will only hurt. Yes, the child needs your help in solving his problems - exactly help, and not a sole decision for him. It is also not necessary to shift his daily affairs onto your shoulders, develop independence.

Physical punishment is unacceptable, but you can limit the child in entertainment.

Crisis of a child at 5 years old

The main obvious sign of the crisis is that the child began to invent a lot of fables, he may have imaginary friends. You should not scold for lying, as this is a kind of manifestation of fantasy.

A less noticeable symptom of the crisis passes inside the child: he really wants to be like adults. This makes some children give up toys, girls are drawn to their mother's cosmetics and try on her shoes. At the same time, the child is in dire need of communication with children of his age.

What to do?

If a child so passionately wants to feel like an adult, you should give it to him, and in all conflict situations speak as equals. It is necessary to give him the opportunity to perform certain simple duties around the house. Moreover, it should be explained that this is precisely a duty, and not a whim: the task will have to be performed constantly.

One should not “knock out” frankness from a child with conversations (and even more so physical punishment). Confidential conversations will sooner or later reveal the reason for it. bad mood and closeness. It is important to be able to calm and dispel the fears of the child. For example, at the age of five, there is already a fear of the death of loved ones, or one's own. If you are not sure that you can cope with the explanation of such difficult topic You may need to consult a psychologist.

Do not take your child there, go yourself and just find out what to say and how to behave with such fears from the child.

Crisis of a child at 6 years old

This crisis appears in connection with a new role model in the child's life. Now it's time for him to go to school, for which he may not be psychologically ready.

At the age of six, children are divided into two types:

  • Ready to learn, love to learn new things. They are bored at home, they want new acquaintances, knowledge, impressions. In this case, the school will become a deliverance from the crisis.
  • They love games and are not ready to switch to new form learning. For some six year olds this is too much early age to go to school. It might be worth waiting until seven.

What to do?

Give your baby more freedom of choice where he feels at ease. Let the house itself chooses clothes from the proposed, or food from some options. Let the decision to congratulate someone on their birthday be their own, and not because they "have to." Make sure that the tasks you assign to your child can be completed. Otherwise, in later life, he will be afraid to take on something new.

Crisis of a child at 7 years old

The main manifestation of this crisis: the child begins to behave completely differently than he did before. He was calm - became overly active, shared everything with his mother - stopped doing it, and so on. He began to explore his influence on the structure of the world, so toys often break, and he understands their structure. The child is drawn to communicate with older guys.

What to do?

If the child forgot to prepare something for school, put some thing or finish the lesson, you can not do it for him. The parent now takes on a guiding role. Point out the mistake to the kid and let him deal with it.

As a result, to protect the child from mistakes Everyday life also not needed. Warn him what will happen if he performs a certain action, and let him deal with the information received.

Reward is more important than punishment. If you check the lesson and see that some point turned out well, and some bad, you are focusing on the good. It is very important to concentrate the child on success instead of failure, this will give a strong positive impetus in later life.

There is such a calendar of crises (jumps in development, it is better to say) for children under one year old. It helps a lot: when you don’t understand why the child behaves incomprehensibly, suddenly he began to cry a lot, he constantly wants to be in his mother’s arms, what happened to him? You look at this calendar, but it turns out that he has another leap in development, you read what is happening to him at this time, what he is aware of, and you see: this is how it is, how did I not notice right away? And immediately you calm down and everything becomes clear.

Information about this calendar is scattered all over the Internet, it's not very convenient. In this post I will try to structure everything.

The calendar of crises itself is based on the book "The Wonder Weeks" by Hetty Van, Frans Plooij (Russian: Hetty Vandereit, Frans Ploy "Naughty? So it develops") and translations of its chapters are given. Below about everything in order.

Briefly about what crises are:

When changes occur, all babies cry more often and for longer, and some cry even more often than most. Some children may be especially difficult at night, others are very restless during the day. But all children during crises are usually less whiny if they are surrounded by warmth, love, care, if they are paid extra attention. Although even with this, you can expect that the child will burst into tears at any moment. Some children return to normal behavior in a day, others may take a whole week to become calm again.

The time of the brain growth phase is approaching if:

- the child cries, requires more attention;

- may eat and sleep worse;

- becomes more shy with strangers, does not go hand in hand;

- "glued" to the mother;

- may suck fingers, be sad and lethargic.

He cannot tell you anything, and in the first weeks he cannot even stretch out his little hands to you. But he may well scream at the top of his lungs and become more restless than in ordinary life. For small child it's a way of letting you know he's "unsettled".

He quickly gets tired, but he cannot return “back” to calmness on his own - the brain continues to work actively, demanding new “food”, and this leads to sleep and wakefulness disorders.

Up to 9 months, and especially during periods of rapid brain growth, the child needs to create conditions that are as close as possible to the safe conditions "in the womb" - this is especially true for close mother's hugs.

Read more about what developmental leaps are and.

You can create an individual calendar for your child by clicking on this link. I advise you to then make a Print Screen of the page and save this image for yourself or print it so as not to make a calendar every time. As you can see, very simple icons and colors indicate what mood your baby is most likely to have.

Information about crises by week:

5th week(4-5 weeks)

8th week (7-9 weeks) -

Babies grow very fast. Parents sometimes do not even have time to realize this phenomenon. The most crucial period is the first year of life. Children require maximum protection from their mother and cannot cope without her help. Rapid development is characteristic not only of the body, but also of the brain. Every month a large number of new connections appear in it. A growth spurt in infants can be taken by surprise, because not all parents will be able to answer the question of whether this is normal.

Scientific rationale

Many researchers have spent their lives studying the first few months of a child's life. At the same time, physical development and the microclimate in the family were taken into account.

Thanks to this, it was possible to obtain data according to which the baby does not develop smoothly. Most parents pay attention to this during the first year of life. Physiologists have confirmed that the process of bone growth is also produced by jumps. This is directly related to the energy consumption of the child. The body needs a certain amount of resources in order to grow. For example, in one night a child can immediately grow by several millimeters.

Scientists were able to establish that the psycho-emotional state is also subject to jumps. They coincide with growth changes and resemble steps. Any growth and development requires a lot of energy. That is why children up to a year sleep most of the time. They do not yet understand what is happening around and cannot explain their needs to their parents.

Features of periods of development

Growth spurt symptoms are familiar to every mom. For example, the baby gets off sleep and rest. Additionally, during this period, he may be in an angry state, eat poorly and constantly cry. Mom has to hold him most of the time. In this case, the baby feels emotional participation and ceases to worry about every little thing.

Parents without proper experience in dealing with young children cannot understand the cause of this concern. They try to feed and cheer the child, but this does not always work out. Some mothers even go to the pediatrician's office. However, there is no reason to panic. The baby spends a large amount of accumulated energy, so he constantly feels tired and wants to sleep.

During the growth spurt, the child acquires new skills

Growth spurt in symptoms is very similar to the usual whims that everyone has. infants. At the same time, other symptoms of malaise are completely absent. The baby has a normal stool, no fever and cough.

However, a number of features can be noticed in his behavior:

  • Parents cannot find the reason for constant whims.
  • Sleep becomes short and sensitive.
  • The child begins to eat poorly. At the same time, parents can observe the refusal even of their favorite dishes.
  • The baby tries to spend all the time in the arms of the mother. He demands constant attention.

With these signs, parents can be completely sure that their baby is going through another crisis. His body has to give a large amount of energy.

Duration and frequency of jumps

The period of active growth is also characterized by changes in the functioning of the brain. Each time the brain waves become more active. Other processes in the cortex also begin to take a shorter period of time. Some scientists compare this mood to a woman's premenstrual cycle. During this period, hormonal changes take place in her body. She makes all decisions through emotions. That is why a woman can be observed severe irritation and tearfulness. Not all decisions can be called reasonable. However, if we are talking about an adult woman, then she may well take responsibility for her actions. The newborn does not yet have such experience, therefore it cannot rely on reasonable arguments.

An adult woman has already learned how to correctly express her thoughts and control her feelings. The child is at an age when everything unfamiliar seems dangerous and scary to him. That is why he seeks to spend more time in the arms of his mother. This place seems to him the most reliable and safe. It is impossible to make an exact plan for months, because each baby has its own characteristics.

The jump period can last from several days to a week. It is also characterized by relative suddenness. It is impossible to accurately predict its beginning and end. After a few days of whims good mood returns to the baby, and he continues to behave as before. Mommy will certainly be delighted with the return of her ideal child.

The baby begins to eat, sleep and play well. However, after the end of a new crisis, parents may notice in their crumbs the acquisition of a new skill that will remain with him for life. For example, after such a “shake”, the baby begins to smile, sit or hold his head. Later, he will need some more time to consolidate and improve new knowledge.


The growth spurt calendar will be useful to all parents. Thanks to him, they will be able to understand their baby. This also makes it possible to prepare mentally and not react to the next whims.

Scientists managed to establish that during the first year of life and the child there are eight crises. Even many adults cannot handle such shake-ups, but children are guaranteed to cope with them. Obvious changes are observed during the first six months of life. Further, their appearance can be seen only in rare cases. After 12 months, the next crisis awaits parents only in three years.

This calendar should not be taken for granted. It is also difficult to apply for those children who were born ahead of time. In this case, the approximate number of days left before the planned date of birth should be added to each date. There are also children who prefer to sit longer in their mother's tummy. To calculate the time of their supposed crises, the difference should be subtracted.

Child growth spurt calendar:

  • 4-5 weeks.
  • 8-9 weeks.
  • 12 week.
  • 15-19 weeks.
  • 23-26 weeks.
  • 34-37 weeks.
  • 42-46 weeks.
  • 51-52 weeks.

If the period is indicated in the range, then this does not mean at all that the growth spurt continues throughout it. It was at this time that global changes were recorded in children.

Features of parental behavior

Mommy and daddy get tired not only physically, but also mentally. When a child begins to act up and cry, they begin to doubt their own abilities. However, such changes cannot be completely excluded from the growing up of the child. It is important to be patient and give the baby the maximum amount of warmth and care. Thanks to this, it will be possible to overcome all difficulties.


The baby spends the accumulated energy on the growth spurt

A mother cannot reject a child. He needs her. Parents will be able to provide the baby with a sense of security and warmth. That is why you should not spare time and effort on them. The difficult period will pass, and the baby will receive new skills for him, which he will use throughout his life. Mommy should hug the baby, sing songs to him and lightly stroke. Books and rocking have a positive effect. In infancy, a child may even be interested in a pattern on the wallpaper, which he will consider with enthusiasm. In addition to walking on the street, it is also recommended to look out the window. There are many cars and people passing by that will also seem interesting to the child.

For babies who are breastfed, you will need to breastfeed much more often. Some mothers said that the procedure had to be repeated every 20 minutes. This situation will cause a lot of negativity, because a woman has to do certain household chores. If the baby is already eating complementary foods, then you must first offer it to him, and only then move on to the breast. If mommy is sure that the baby does not want to eat, then you can captivate him with a game. For some, swimming in the bathtub, listening to music, and taking walks in the fresh air help to calm down.

Each child grows and develops at an individual pace. However, everyone overcomes the jumps. Parents should be patient with this and devote more time to the baby.

Most child psychologists agree that age-related crises are simply necessary for a child; without going through them, the baby will not be able to fully develop. In the life of a baby, stable and crisis periods alternate - this is a kind of law for the development of the child's psyche.

As a rule, crises pass quite quickly - in just a few months, while periods of stability are much longer. But, it is worth noting that an unfavorable set of circumstances can significantly increase the duration of the crisis period, sometimes a restless period in a baby's life can last a year or more.

During a crisis, a child undergoes a significant shift in development, the model of his behavior changes, usually these periods are short-lived, but quite stormy.

It is quite difficult to determine the beginning and end of the crisis, usually at this time the child is practically not amenable to education, persuasion and agreements that were successfully used by parents earlier do not work, the baby’s behavior becomes inexplicable, the reaction to various situations is quite violent.

Many parents note that during periods of crisis, children become more capricious, whiny, there are outbursts of anger and hysteria. But, do not forget that each child is individual and each specific crisis can proceed in different ways.

Child Crisis Calendar

For a child, this period also does not go unnoticed, it is difficult for him to find a common language with others, the baby has an internal conflict.

There are several age crises:

In order to know how to behave with a baby in a certain period of life, you need to know when crisis periods occur, the child’s age crisis calendar will help calculate them, it will tell you when your baby will react especially violently to what is happening around, and when you should pay maximum attention to your child.

Let's take a closer look at how the behavior of the baby changes during periods of crisis and how parents should behave.

lactation crises

Lactation crises, that is, a decrease in milk production against the background of established lactation, pass quite quickly, usually within a few days. The main condition in given period- this is unlimited attachment of the baby to the breast, night feeding. As a rule, lactation crises occur in the first month of a baby's life, at 3 months, 7, 11 and 12 months.

Traditionally, this is explained by the fact that the baby has a need for in large numbers milk than is produced by the mother. During these periods, the baby becomes more restless, he cries after feeding, demanding an additional portion. The frequency of breastfeeding during this period increases. As a rule, for crumbs, lactation crises at 1 and 3 months do not pose any threat or danger.

In order for this period to pass as quickly as possible, mom should follow the regimen, do not worry and do not panic. In this case, lactation improves by itself rather quickly. The main thing is not to stop feeding the baby, to apply it to the breast as often as possible. Do not supplement or supplement the child during this period, refuse to calm with a pacifier.

It is worth noting that lactation crises are less likely to occur in mothers who are confident in their success. breastfeeding and trained proper attachment to the chest.

The crisis of the first year of a baby's life

Almost all babies experience a crisis at the end of the first year of life. At this age, many children are already beginning to walk independently, pronounce their first words, try to dress and eat without the help of adults. As a rule, at this time, the child responds with capriciousness to the parents' excessive desire to help him in everything and take care of him.

New skills give the baby the opportunity to feel independent, but at the same time, the child begins to experience fear that he is losing his mother. Girls usually go through this crisis period a little earlier than boys, about a year and a half, but for boys, these worries pass closer to two years.

How to behave as parents during this difficult time? During the first age crisis, the baby feels a great need to communicate with his mother, he wants to be with her always, without stepping back. If the mother needs to go away, then the child begins to be capricious and bored, and upon returning she asks to be held in her arms, trying to draw attention to herself in various ways.

Mom, in order to be able to go about her business, you should first take time for the baby, play with him, read books, talk. Having enjoyed the presence of mommy, the child will soon want to play on his own.

Very often, parents meet with a manifestation of stubbornness during this period of their crumbs' life. The child may refuse to eat, walk, protest against dressing. Thus, your baby is trying to prove his adulthood and independence. The child's favorite toy can come to your aid: a car or a doll are going to walk, and a bunny behaves well at the table.

At the end of this period, your baby will gain new knowledge about himself, his abilities and the world around him, and previously unknown character traits will appear. Remember that if this period passes unfavorably, then a violation in the correct development is possible.

How to survive the crisis of two years with a baby?

At this age, the baby begins a stormy research activities trying to figure out what can and cannot be done. This is necessary for the child to determine for himself the boundaries of what is permitted and to feel that he is safe.

Psychologists explain this quite simply: the baby’s behavior model is formed on the basis of the reaction of mom and dad to one or another action on the part of the baby, if the reaction is natural, then it is postponed in the child as a norm, if the reaction of the parents differs from the usual one, the baby will not will feel safe.

It is important for parents to understand that such a check on the part of the baby is not a whim, but a desire to make sure that everything is in order. It is worth remembering that over time, your child will have to face the resistance of other people and the environment.

Parents during this period of development It is worthwhile to clearly establish the boundaries of what can be done and what cannot be done categorically. Under no circumstances should this prohibition be waived. If you succumb to pity, allow something from the forbidden, then the child will instantly feel his power and will try to manipulate you.

Each parent must find ways to influence the baby on their own, guided by the individuality of the child, because someone needs a hint, someone reacts only to a shout, and some understand the requirements of the parents only after the conversation.

It is worth noting that the most in an efficient way the absence of the public is recognized as the cessation of hysteria, therefore, psychologists sometimes recommend disregarding the whims and tantrums of the baby.

What should parents do if the child has a tantrum? First, you should not satisfy the desire of the child, you must steadfastly adhere to your prohibitions. Secondly, do not try to switch the attention of the child, this method is only suitable for very young children. Thirdly, try to briefly and succinctly explain to the capricious why his demands will not be met. If the child comes to you for reassurance, do not push him away and try to discuss the situation when the baby returns to normal.

3 year baby crisis

Almost all babies experience behavioral changes between the ages of two and three, known as the three-year crisis. At this time, children become capricious, their behavior changes far from for the better: tantrums, protest, outbursts of anger and aggression, self-will, negativity and stubbornness - you have never seen your child like this. All these manifestations of the crisis are connected with the fact that it is at this age that the child begins to position himself as an independent person, and shows his will.

The child must be given the opportunity to choose, for this, parents must use peculiar tricks, for example, allow the baby to independently choose the dishes from which he will eat or from two blouses the one he wants to wear for a walk.

Hysterical fits, throwing things and toys on the floor during this period is quite natural. It is worth worrying only if the child cannot get out of the state of hysteria or they are repeated several times a day.

Try with all sorts of persuasion and explanations to prevent the baby from starting a tantrum, because it is often easier to prevent it than to stop it. The most important thing that moms and dads should remember is that the child should not be allowed to get what they want during a tantrum.

Does it happen that a three-year-old child does not have a crisis? Rather, it happens that this period passes quickly and does not make significant changes in the character and behavior of the baby.

A child aged 4-5 is naughty - how to deal with it?

The most difficult childhood age crisis is considered to be the crisis period at the age of three. And now, it would seem, when this period is left behind, a lull should come, but suddenly the child becomes again restless, capricious demanding. What is it connected with?

In psychology, a crisis of 4-5 years is not noted by specialists, rather, on the contrary, at this time the baby should become more resistant to various situations and stimuli, in given age the baby ends the period of speech formation, the child can quite clearly and logically express his thoughts. Right now he is experiencing a great need to communicate with peers.

Toddlers aged 4-5 years have great fantasies, show interest in learning, curiosity. So what can affect the psychological state of the baby at this age? As a rule, a lack of communication can provoke a crisis in a child of 4-5 years.

A crisis at the age of 4-5 years is rarely experienced by children attending preschool institutions, sections and circles. Therefore, if you notice that the child has become capricious or, on the contrary, too closed, then most likely this is an occasion to expand his social circle with peers.

Crisis in a child at 7 years old - what to do?

The crisis of a seven-year-old child, as well as the crisis of a three-year-old, is accompanied by a sharp change in behavior. During this period, it seems that the child does not hear the comments and requests of adults, and the child at this time allows himself to deviate from the permitted framework: he argues, makes reservations, and grimaces. Quite often, a crisis in a seven-year-old child is associated with the beginning of his educational activities.

It is worth remembering that the child's psyche is quite complex and unpredictable, so this crisis period can begin earlier (at 5-6 years of age) or later (8-9 years). main reason this crisis lies in the fact that the baby overestimates his capabilities.

How does the crisis manifest itself at 7 years old? Did your baby get tired quickly, irritability, nervousness, inexplicable outbursts of anger and rage appeared? Then it's time to sound the alarm, or rather, to be more attentive to the child. At this time, the child may be too active, or, on the contrary, withdraw into himself. He seeks to imitate adults in everything, he develops anxiety and fears, as well as self-doubt.

By the age of seven, the game gradually fades into second place, giving way to learning. Now the child learns the world in a completely different way. This process is rather associated not with the beginning of schooling, but with the fact that the child is reconsidering his own personality. At this time, the child learns to be aware of his emotions, now he understands why he is upset or happy. Painfully the baby worries if his inner "I" does not correspond to the ideal

If before your baby was just enough to be sure that he is the best, now he needs to figure out if this is really so and why. In order to evaluate himself, the child monitors the reaction of others to his behavior and quite critically analyzes everything that happens.

Parents should remember that the child's self-esteem is still very vulnerable, which is why self-esteem can be both overestimated and underestimated unreasonably. Both the first and the second lead to serious internal experiences of the baby and can cause his isolation or, conversely, hyperactivity. In addition, now the baby is striving to grow up as soon as possible, the adult world is very attractive and interesting for him. At this age, idols quite often appear in children, while the kids actively imitate the chosen character, copying not only his positive, but also negative deeds and actions.

What should parents do during this time? Of course, first of all, you need to help your child learn to realistically assess his abilities, while maintaining his self-confidence. This will help him learn to adequately evaluate his achievements and will not lead to disappointment in himself. Try to evaluate the actions of the child not as a whole, but by individual elements, teach the child that if something did not work out now, in the future everything will definitely go exactly as you wanted.

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