Humanistic attitude of a person to a person.
Humanistic ideas of the relationship of man to man in social pedagogy require special attention.
This is clearly reflected in his works by A.V. Suvorov. Considering the concept humanism, he compares it to concepts mercy and charity. Mercy- this is a willingness to help someone or forgive someone out of compassion, philanthropy; charity- activities aimed at providing gratuitous assistance to a person in need of it.
It would seem that in relation to people who have developmental disabilities, a humane society should take care in the form of charity and mercy. However, in his works A.V. Suvorov evaluates these manifestations of society differently. He understands mercy towards a disabled person as pity. Humanism, on the other hand, is compassion for him as a person in a somewhat more difficult situation than other people.
Let's consider the principle of humanism by the example of the attitude towards people with limited physical and mental abilities.
"Mercy- this is a unilateral custody of a disabled person, turning him into an object of service. Thus, a disabled person is deprived of all rights, except for one - the "right" to gratitude for a good deed, for the fact that in general out of "mercy" he is allowed to exist physically. Humanism is a joint (helping and needing help) comprehension and solution of all emerging problems. Mercy, in his opinion, actually separates people with disabilities and non-disabled people: "they" - Big world normal people and "we" - a miserable invalid world, a common human culture and a disabled subculture.
Humanism- on the contrary, it is integration, unification. The merger of all people in one common human collective, where each temporarily or permanently may have any difficulties, problems, no matter what kind of person it is. Only the solution of these problems can occur in different ways, taking into account the characteristics of a particular person. Humanism is a fundamental recognition of the equality of all and personal usefulness, carried out in spite of, but taking into account certain deviations.
Thus, according to A.V. Suvorov, a disabled person is perceived by mercy as a passive object of service, in the case of humanism - as an active and even the main solver of one's own problems with the help and mutual assistance of others.
Unfortunately, in our society there is a widespread attitude towards a disabled person as a person who needs mercy. This attitude of society towards people with problems, indeed, distinguishes them into a special group, at the same time it forms a certain, dependent psychology in these people themselves, focused on receiving any privileges, benefits, charity from society and specific people.
A humane attitude towards this category of people requires, first of all, a dignified, equal attitude towards them, in which mercy can and should act as an aid in overcoming the difficulties arising for a disabled person.
The same is true for children with deviant behavior. Such children cause feelings of pity and compassion in the majority of the population, and therefore the first desire is to show charity. It is no coincidence that children who find themselves in reception centers (centers for the temporary isolation of children) expect from each visit of adults what gifts they will bring. And the activities of the society are aimed at this. Representatives of various confessions, representatives of power structures, just citizens who want to help such children, first of all, provide them with material assistance, while a humane attitude towards these children requires respect for them, recognition of their human dignity, and finding ways to help them overcome their problems. A humane attitude towards children includes love for them, an interest in their fate, an optimistic belief in the child's abilities, communication with children based on trust, the absence of direct coercion, the priority of positive stimulation, and tolerance for children's disabilities. A humane attitude presupposes respect for the child's right to free choice, a mistake, and his own point of view.
The principle of humanism requires compliance with the following rules:
1. a decent attitude of society towards all people, regardless of what physical, material, social situation they are in;
2. recognition of the right of every person to be himself, respectful attitude towards them: to respect means to recognize the right of another to be different from me, to be himself, and not my copy;
3. helping a person with problems in the formation of respect for himself and the people around him, the formation of the position "I myself", the desire to solve their own problems;
4. understanding of mercy as the first step of humanism, which should be based not on pity and sympathy, but on the desire to help people integrate into society, based on the position: society is open to people and people are open to society;
5. the desire not to single out people with problems in special groups and not to alienate them from normal people; if we want to prepare disabled people for life among healthy people, the system of communication of such people with other people should be thought out.
So, the humanistic attitude of a person to a person involves the recognition of the value of a person as an individual, his rights to freedom, happiness, protection and protection of life, health, creating conditions for the development of a person, his creative potential, inclinations, abilities, helping him in life self-determination, integration him into a society, full-fledged self-realization in this society.
D children from the very early age begin to show interest in their peers, already at the age of 2-3 years, children are able to establish some kind of relationship with each other.
The relationship between children in early preschool age are already selective, i.e. the child plays, gives toys, talks with certain children, although, of course, he still cannot explain what caused the sympathy. "Friend" at this age changes very often.
From the age of 4-5, the children begin to form friendships. This usually manifests itself in the process of playing, because it is play that is the main activity of the child. Through the game, the child learns the rules of behavior, learns to communicate and negotiate with other children.
Closer to senior preschool age the child can already justify the choice of his friend or, on the contrary, explain his dislike for someone, give a characteristic: "Vanya is kind, not greedy", "Tanya is harmful, teases", etc. Yourself a child preschool age, as a rule, evaluates very positively and wants to stay that way. This desire just needs to be encouraged in the child, focusing his attention on positive qualities.
For every child to feel comfortable in the team, it is very important that a friendly, positive atmosphere reigns in him. Of course, first of all it depends on the teacher. This is not always successful in practice. There are several children in each group who are the most active. It is on them, as a rule, that educators are guided. Such children are distinguished from others. This leads to the fact that the "ringleader" develops a desire to be ahead by all means, a patronizing attitude towards other, less active children, and an overestimated self-esteem. Other children either try to achieve the "friendship" of the leaders at any cost, or close themselves up (the so-called "quiet ones"). Thus, in some children's groups, children may even develop such negative qualities as selfishness, aggressiveness, arrogance, etc. By the behavior of the pupil in the group, one can say what basic personal qualities he possesses. At an older age, children already know exactly what is good and what is bad and how to behave in a given situation. But in a team, the actual actions of children are often at odds with the "theory". Teachers and psychologists should pay attention to this in a timely manner. Adults should set a pattern of behavior that develops respectful and kind attitude towards others, and at the same time a value attitude towards oneself.
In their children's collective, children must "go through" all types of relationships between people, including quarrels, conflicts, and their resolution. All these moments of interaction with peers form a child's model of behavior in society, a system of values, the ability to understand others, empathize with another person, and at the same time not be afraid to have their own opinion, even if it is different from the opinion of the majority.
In order for the child to develop normal friendly relations in the team, it is very important to always "keep your finger on the pulse." It is necessary to constantly talk with the child, to know what worries and worries him, whether he has friends. Observe the play of minors with other children, participate in and organize children's games, set the tone for the relationship between children. Encourage friendship between children in every possible way.
Foster humane feelings in minors. Form ideas about truthfulness, about justice, about courage, about modesty.
To form pupils to be responsive to their peers, to show attention to their experiences, to provide assistance, to rejoice in the successes of their friends and their comrades, to empathize in cases of failure. Develop friendships.
To teach children to express their attitude to the actions of their peers, to correctly evaluate their actions and the actions of their comrades.
1. If a child forgets speech etiquette formulas (forgiveness, greetings, gratitude), then he can be prompted in poetic form: “Lena, you know that even an ice block will melt from a warm word ... (thank you)”, “ Misha, you forgot to say something, but in France and Denmark they say goodbye ... (goodbye) "," But it's been a long time since ... (child's name) I don't hear a word ... (hello) , but what a word, very expensive. "
2. To develop the ability to establish contact with the interlocutor, offer the children the following exercises.
- "Smile" - children sit in a circle. They join hands and look their neighbor in the eye, give him the most dear smile, which have.
- "Compliment" - the children stand in a circle and, in turn, looking into the eyes of their neighbor, say a few kind words, praise him. ("You always share, you are funny, you have a beautiful dress ..."). The host nods his head and says: "Thank you, I am very pleased!" Instead of praise, you can simply say "tasty", "sweet", "milk" word.
3. To maintain desire and improve the ability to express your mood:
- invite the children to start a Mood Diary. In it, the child will be able to depict natural phenomena, objects that will characterize his mood. At the end of the week, you can play with the children a game called "Magic Sacks". In one of them, invite the children to fold Bad mood, in the other - good, before that you need to look in the diary and count how many times the child was in a good (joyful, cheerful) and bad (sad, sad) mood.
- offer the children games and exercises "Pass the mood", "Baby and Carlson", "The dog is waiting for affection", "Breathe like ..."
- “Faces” - children draw faces with different expressions of mood on a sheet of paper: cheerful, gloomy ...;
- "Mimic gymnastics" - children frown like an autumn cloud, like an angry person; smile like the sun, like a sly fox; get scared like a hare that sees a wolf; angry like a child who has had their ice cream taken away;
- "Masks" - one child depicts the mood with the help of facial expressions, and the rest of the children determine whether they succeeded in depicting a mask;
"Eye to eye" - children are divided into pairs and, looking into each other's eyes, silently convey different emotions.
An active humane attitude towards nature is maintained and strengthened when children form an awareness of the aesthetic value of natural objects, their everlasting and unfading beauty, which is why the upbringing of aesthetic feelings, in our opinion, is one of the necessary conditions environmental education that includes love for nature.
It would be wrong to think that only one constant communication with nature (excursions to the forest, to the river, walks, viewing paintings, illustrations, etc.) can awaken and develop an aesthetic attitude towards it. It is necessary to draw the attention of children to the beauty of nature, namely: to carry out thematic walks, for example, "Still transparent forests seem to turn green with fluff," "Cherry orchards are drenched in milk"; to teach to observe the condition of plants and behavior of animals, getting pleasure from it and noticing the beauty of life “What do you like most in a corner of nature? Isn't this flower extraordinarily beautiful? ”; to realize that beauty is in no way determined by a utilitarian approach (many children believe that what is beautiful is good, what is harmful is ugly). The main thing is to always remember: before teaching children to see beauty and understand the essence of beauty as an aesthetic category, it is necessary to develop their emotional sphere, because the feelings of preschoolers are not yet sufficiently stable and deep, they are selective ("I like it, but this is not") and subjective (for example , I like the hare, because it is fluffy and agile, I do not like the hedgehog - it is prickly) character.
We have already mentioned walks and excursions, during which children learn to see the beauty of the world around them. But their undoubted value lies in the fact that in the process, their children acquire the skills of cultural behavior in the natural environment, get acquainted with the most typical plants and animals for a given area, with their habitat, both natural (meadow, forest, reservoir) and created by man. (vegetable garden, garden, park, square), learn to take care and value it, understand what is necessary for the plants and animals they care for in a corner of nature and on a plot.
Any meeting in life is not accidental. Each for something and for some reason is given to you. Each one lays its imprint on your destiny.
According to the Law of Connections, all meetings in life are conventionally divided into nine categories according to the degree of influence on the fate of a person and according to the degree of approximation of connections:
1. Children (they are the closest and most important people in life);
2. Favorite;
3. Spouses;
4. Parents, brothers and sisters;
5. Relatives;
6. Friends;
7. Colleagues;
8. Acquaintances;
9. Casual passers-by.
Let's start with the farthest category that affects us most weakly; it includes people with whom we have the most minimal fateful connections.
Relationship laws
PASSENGER
We do not give everything to the first person we meet and do not go to the ends of the world. With casual passers-by, to have only contacts corresponding to this category - there will be more sense. The main way of interacting with a passer-by is an equivalent exchange, which is an indicator of our benevolent attitude towards the world.
If you need to make a decision about the person you are seeing for the first time, for example, whether to provide help for which you are asked, whether to buy the things that are offered to you, listen to your feelings.
Try to understand whether a pleasant or unpleasant energy impulse comes from a person and how this impulse in you responds. For example, from those who impose their goods on the street, there is often a good energy impulse (they learn this specially), but if you listen to yourself, then a vague unpleasant feeling arises.
FAMILIAR
These are people with whom we often or not very often, but meet in life. We cannot put them in the category of friends, because we do not feel much intimacy with them. In general, we do not know them well enough to understand who they are to us, other than that they are just acquaintances.
These are friends, neighbors, a permanent hairdresser, a bath attendant, school teachers of our children and parents of school friends of our children. This category is the most extensive in our life. And how differently we behave in the bathhouse and at the parent meeting, so differently we build our energetic relationships with different acquaintances.
All of us, inhabitants of the Earth, are united and alike, and we have common tasks. The whole life of society as a whole, and therefore each of us, depends on how each person lives.
The energetic interaction with the category of acquaintances is very diverse. We can perceive acquaintances as very close and pleasant people, love them more than relatives, be spiritually united with them, and we can even perceive some of them as hostile. Depending on this, we build our relationship with them.
SERVANTS
People connected with us on business are closer than just acquaintances. But they should never be confused with friends and relatives. Otherwise, business relations, friendships and relatives may suffer greatly. Not to mention the fact that the case itself can crumble to dust. Interaction with colleagues can only take place on an equivalent exchange.
The venerable lady, the director of a shoe store, "out of friendship" hires the daughter of her school friend. By a strange coincidence, the girl finds herself in a situation where she becomes the cause of enormous trouble. The store manager almost goes to court. Everyone is shocked. A school friend becomes a hated enemy. Meanwhile, only the venerable lady herself is to blame. Business relations should be built only on a business basis. But the lady did not fully understand her mistake, because the conclusion she learned from the lesson was: do not do good to people.
FRIENDS
The fateful category of friends opens up a series of close and dear people. And relations with them are built in a completely different way. In the previous three categories, relationships were built on the basis of mutually beneficial exchanges. Friendship relationships involve selfless support, help without regard to what you get in return.
Why is fate bringing us together? Why, meeting one person among thousands of people, suddenly we feel the kinship of our souls? Because this relationship really exists. We do not always remember and understand this, but we always feel that we are chickens from the same basket. We understand each other, we think similarly, we have the same life values. We are cosmically from one basket. How and why does this happen? The question is for tomorrow.
There is an ancient truth: it is better to be deceived by friends than not to trust them all your life. If your friends deceived you, well, then you were mistaken and mistook the wrong people for your friends. Only you are to blame. Learn to distinguish between categories!
RELATIVES
We came to this World not by chance, but according to cosmic laws, which we are not given to fully comprehend. We are a part of the entire society of the planet Earth, therefore, the state of the entire society as a whole depends on the state of our soul.
Directly and directly this is expressed in the fact that we "cleanse" the fate of a kind. That is, we are obliged (by birth) to solve the problems of our family, help relatives, accumulate the positive energy of the clan, freeing subsequent generations from generic diseases and problems.
The family we came to interacts with us in different ways. To some he is given as a guardian. The genus protects from adversity, helps on the path of life, directs and in difficult moment gives strength. It means that we somehow deserve such support! Such roots must be preserved, passed on by inheritance, multiplying traditions.
For others, the race is given as a test. In overcoming generic problems, and sometimes curses that lie on him, the soul grows stronger, hardens, gains strength and thereby cleans the roots, because the person himself is a particle of the genus. Overcoming the negative in himself, he thereby purifies the genus as a whole.
However, there are people who depend very little on the fate of their kind. Apparently, because they have a very serious personal task and a difficult life purpose according to their own destiny. Such people leave their parental shelter early, move far from home, quickly acquire independence and independence, even with close relatives they maintain a very weak connection. They often have a difficult life path, and usually they have big complicated things ahead.
Unfortunately, too many people, playing on family feelings, are ready to morally destroy their loved ones and not even feel that they have done wrong. These are energetic "vampires", one should close oneself from them. And yet, be that as it may, if even the most distant relative asks you - do not refuse, do everything in your power. This is your tribal structure, your children and grandchildren will carry it, it depends on you how clean, favorable and strong roots they will get.
Equivalent energy exchange is rarely possible with relatives. Either we use their energy, or we give them ours. We often recycle each other's negatives. Sometimes we have to close. And all this is normal for this category of relations due to the specificity of generic energy processes.
PARENTS, BROTHERS AND SISTERS
The relationship that you develop with your closest relatives is the most striking indicator of your attitude to your family destiny. If there are several children in the family, then each of them may have their own relationship with the family and, therefore, their own indicator of connection with the family fate.
Our world is arranged in such a way that one of the children can be the full bearer of the fate of the father, the other - of the mother, and the third remains clean of these debts. Much more complex interweaving of family lines between brothers and sisters is also possible. Two daughters can carry the fate of the mother, and the father passes on the pure genetic line to his grandson. The brother and sister inherit their father's problems, and the mother passes on her creative talents to her grandson. There are as many options as there are families in this world.
A favorable relationship between brothers and sisters, disinterested and benevolent, - great gift destinies and invaluable support, bestowed by heaven.
But if the relationship is developing badly and even very badly, we will not forget even then that these are our brothers and sisters, given to us from above. And no matter what happens, we must humbly accept what is given to us. Let us be reasonable support for our loved ones - this is what we owe them somewhere and are now giving back.
If an alcoholic brother asks for money to drink it away, our duty is not to give him everything we have, but to do everything to save him. However, not against his will. Everything that is done against the will of a person is done for evil.
If there was a disagreement between sisters and brothers, forgive the offenders, we deserve these offenses, maybe we are more to blame for our mutual misunderstanding of each other. Let us give in and go to reconciliation - this is working off the fate of our kind. By working it out, we will clear the way for our children and grandchildren.
No matter how our relationship with our parents develops, we will forgive them and ask for forgiveness for not understanding them. Whatever it was, these people were given to us by God - therefore, we deserved this and must humbly accept what is given.
Spouses
Marriages are made in heaven. Spouses are people who have to build their destiny together. Dependence on a spouse is much more than dependence on parents. Failure in marriage is often much more difficult than a “difficult” childhood. She is perceived as a collapse of the plans and hopes of youth. Not everyone manages to find the strength to start all over again, sometimes not young age... Joint children continue to tie spouses and divorced.
You have chosen a person as your spouse, and now he (or she) absolutely does not suit you. But you yourself chose - does it mean that this person corresponded to something? It turns out that you chose what you matched yourself at that moment! Now you need to figure out why fate brought you together. What should you give to each other, what to teach and learn through your meeting.
The energetic relationship between spouses knows no boundaries. It is almost impossible to “close” from a spouse. The fate of the two grows together and becomes common. The energy of a harmonious married couple is so great that they are practically invulnerable. Alien, disharmonious influences can only intrude for a while, the energy of two displaces everything that interferes, destroys all negatives.
But if on the second day or the second year after the wedding you found a serious disharmony in your relationship with your spouse, then your task is to do everything to make them as harmonious as possible. You can't just pick up and leave. The spouse is not a casual passer-by. This is a different level of relationship.
When you answer yourself all the questions and complete all the difficult mental work, you will have a feeling of emptiness. There will be no irritation, no annoyance, there will be no offense, you will know that everything is your own fault. Then you will become free, you will have the right to make a choice, you will have the right to break off relations that bring no one joy. But your work must be done "one hundred percent", you cannot deceive yourself. The problem is solved when emotions leave and a reasonable, light attitude to everything that happens.
Marriage is the experience of serving another person. This is a test of the ability to love and empathize, the ability to accept someone else's point of view, to listen to it, despite any difference in views.
How much your soul gains if you serve diligently and selflessly, with humility and love for a person. How happy people are when, having eaten a pound of salt together, they finally harmoniously grow into each other, accepting a spouse as he is, loving with all his heart his merits and his demerits. Do not think that this is simple humility before life or fear of it. If people achieve harmony, it is always the result of the great inner work of both.
FAVORITE
It is good when loved ones and spouses coincide in one person. It is more difficult when they are different people. Relationships with loved ones are built in much the same way as with spouses. But if marriage can be a difficult fate, love is always happiness, and it is given as a reward, it must be cherished as an invaluable gift.
If true love turns out not to be mutual, it gives us even higher states of the soul, when we are able to wish our beloved happiness with another, with the one whom she loves.
There can be only one energetic interaction between lovers - a gift. Give the whole world, give yourself, give every drop of your energy. To feel how with each new breath the invaluable gift does not disappear, but only multiplies, grows, acquiring new strength.
CHILDREN
The main duty of a person living on Earth is a duty to a child. The concepts of Peace, Good and Evil are usually assimilated from parenting, they are absorbed somewhere deeply, on sensations even when they are not spoken about aloud.
Which way of interacting with your child you choose is a matter of your taste, character, education, but most importantly, ask yourself more often: "What am I stimulating in him with this action, given a specific word?"
You punished your child - what did you show him? An example of cruelty, the firmness of a hand that has power, or how you need to be free and take responsibility for your actions? How much sensitivity, how much subtlety is required for a parent to feel what exactly responds in a small person in response to the actions and words of adults. Only the endless energy of love for a child can help in this difficult, sometimes intuitive work of the soul.
In conclusion, we can say that such a division into categories is very arbitrary. One and the same person can be for us in one case a colleague, in another case - another, in the third - a loved one, a relative, a brother. The point is not to label each individual person as "a casual passer-by" or "the most beloved of all loved ones." The task is to understand, in moments of communication, what is happening, what is permissible and what is unacceptable with a given person in a given situation. published
El Tat
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness - together we are changing the world! © econet
The moral world of man
You know this proverb: "Tell me who your friend is, and I will tell you who you are." I would like to change it a little: "Tell me if you have friends and I will tell you who you are."
When the holiday comes - New Year, May 1st, November 7th - people want to meet him together. The so-called companies are gathering. They are very different in people. of different ages... Girls and boys, naturally, want to meet new people, and it is often on such a festive evening that relationships are struck that can last a lifetime: both friendship and love ...
How to enrich your life with the joy of friendship? "Companionship - friendship - love" is an eternal, favorite theme of youth
A person who changes his views out of pleasing the first comer, we recognize as trashy, vile, having no convictions.
N. A. DOBROLYUBOV
disputes, conversations, questions, doubts. What can you not read in essays about friendship!
"A friend is one to whom you can tell everything about yourself, and he will understand, not condemn, and will not tell anyone." Right? Something is probably true. But this, in my opinion, is not the main thing in friendship.
"A man has only one friend. This is the one for whom a man can forget himself." Right? In my opinion, not very much.
"If a person has many friends, then this is a very good person. Because in friendship, as in love, you cannot only take without giving. And if a person has enough heart to give it to many people, then he is very good." ... Right? Yes, very, very, in my opinion, correct.
Three opinions, it would seem, are similar and at the same time very different. Why is it necessary to tell a friend "everything, everything"? Remember Lermontov: "... can you tell your soul?" And is it necessary? Even the closest person may not have time or be unable to tell everything about himself, but if he is really a friend, he knows you so much that he himself can guess how you will behave in this or that case! It's good that your friend will understand you. But - will not condemn ?! And who will condemn us if not our friends? Whom do we believe so much if not our friends? From whom would we not be offended to hear a harsh word, if not from friends?
Another opinion: there is only one friend. Why? Is it because we love and respect, say, three of our friends, each of them will receive only a third of our affection? Arithmetic doesn't help here. As in the heart of a mother, with each new child is born new love, so each friend takes his rightful place in our life. And you shouldn't forget yourself for your friends. We must remember them - that's all. But we'll talk about this a bit later.
This is very, in my opinion, rightly said: if a person has many friends, it means that he is good ... Yes, friendship requires mental strength, and considerable. ... It requires the ability to remember - always, at every minute of life - that your thoughts, feelings, your concern, your attention, your deeds are necessary and important to friends. And each of your actions turns out to be not only yours: your friends share the responsibility for it with you, and you with them.
The main thing in friendship, in my opinion, is unconditional faith. The belief that my, my own affairs are important to my friends as their own. And the belief of my friends that their affairs are important to me. The belief that we will always make the same decision in difficult times. That if I'm wrong my friends will tell me bluntly and bluntly. That we can never be ashamed of each other. That my friends are proud of me, just as I am proud of them. That's what friendship is, in my opinion.
It's not easy being friends like that. But "it doesn't carry its own burden," says the proverb. And I feel sorry for the people who lost their friends somewhere in their youth, regretted their mental strength. I believe: a real person always has the strength for friendship. Tell me if you have any friends and I will tell you who you are ...
Love will not be washed away by quarrels or miles. Thought over, verified, verified.
Solemnly lifting up a line-fingered verse,
I swear -
I love
unchanging and true!
Do you know who wrote this? Of course, Mayakovsky. A person who has carried through life love, huge, like his poetry, like his voice, like his desire for happiness.
Is it given to everyone? Why does one person carry through his whole life one feeling, high, noble and happy, while another rushes about, cripples the life of himself and others, does not bring joy to anyone and dies without knowing true love? How to find her, the real, the only one? How can I save it if I find it?
It is impossible to give a definite, exhaustive answer to all these questions. Hundreds of books by the greatest writers, brilliant poems, music, paintings by great masters tell us about love in their own way, not like 19 *
told before them. New poets, new artists, musicians, philosophers come and say their own, new. Love cannot be taught. You cannot give a ready-made recipe: how to win love, how to keep it, keep it.
But one can and should think about love, prepare for it, understand once and for all: love is a serious, and difficult, and happy test of a person and his moral qualities.
When a person is twelve or thirteen years old, he contemptuously speaks of love: "Nonsense, inventions, I really need it!" And, it happens, he laughs at the lovers, writes the famous formula in inappropriate places: "Galya + Vitya =?", Shouts after the passing boy and girl: "Bride and groom!"
After two or three years, the person is silent. He reads books: all heroes have love! He watches films: Hamlet loves Ophelia, that's understandable. But Hamlet's mother Queen Gertrude - why does she love the vile Claudius? Love is everywhere: in "War and Peace", and in "Defeat" by Fadeev, in "Seryozha" by Panova, and in that film, which is not allowed until the age of sixteen. Why are they not allowed in? So, there is something bad in love that children cannot know about?
Mayakovsky has these lines: "It is through life that I drag millions of huge pure loves and a million million small, dirty ones." You need to know about this. Love can be different - there is nothing bad in huge, pure love, there is only beautiful, only high. In "small, dirty lovers" everything is low, everything is petty, everything is unworthy of a Human.
On August 12, 1964, the newspaper "Komsomolskaya Pravda" published a long article by the well-known playwright Viktor Rozov "Happy Love!" A writer who knows and loves young people, shared with her his thoughts on the most beautiful, but also the most difficult of human feelings. What does V.S.Rozov write?
"... If everyone is capable of love, then not everyone knows how to love. Perhaps even
It's time to stop waiting for unexpected gifts from life, and make life yourself.
L. N. Tolstoy
From the pleasures of life Music gives way to love alone. I But love is also a melody ...
A.S. Pushkin
it is rare to find a person who knows how to love. For many, love proceeds according to the principle: "sail, my boat, at the will of the waves ..." To be able to love is, first of all, the ability not to dissolve oneself. "
And then V. S. Rozov says: "I consider love primarily as an act of creativity. True and natural love especially contributes to the identification of individuality, characteristics of a person. And when I talk about love as an act of creativity, I include here and increased human activity in its most diverse manifestations.
... Love can be creative and
can be destructive ...... Being a noble person in love is not always easy. Here, great inner efforts are required from a person. Both beauty and dignity are measured in life and by how a person loves. "
That's all you need to think about. It turns out that love, like comradeship, like friendship, does not come by itself - it must be earned, it must be achieved, one must learn to love. You can create your love - pure and sublime, or you can destroy it. It depends on ourselves.
A book is a spiritual testament from one generation to another, advice from a dying old man to a young man who is beginning to live, an order transmitted to a sentry who goes on vacation, to a sentry who takes his place.
A. I. HERTZEN
Look at this girl. Here she is going for the evening. She has the most fashion dress, the most beautiful shoes, great hairstyle. She is lively, her eyes are shining, her cheeks are burning - she is charming, attractive. Of course, someone will like it. Of course, someone spends it this evening, and maybe tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow, and in a year. And one of the girls who are sadly standing at the wall today will envy her, say: "Here - she was born beautiful, she is happy!"
No, they are not born beautiful. They become beautiful. And we don't know anything about this girl yet. Maybe love for her will go out as quickly as it flared up: she is bored with her, she has nothing behind her soul - she is all in sight: dress, shoes, hair, and then what? Emptiness. Maybe so. Or maybe for external beauty hidden in the inner self, the one that a person creates in himself. Maybe her life is full of interests, daring, thoughts, searches, kindness, nobility. And the one, happy, to whom this world of inner beauty opens up, will no longer be able to get away from
him, forget about him - he will divide this world. Love will arise, huge, pure.
Have you figured out how to earn love? Internal, spiritual. wealth that can be given to a loved one. It's not a pity to give. You get so much in return! This is a simple secret. But not everyone knows about him, or rather, they want to know.
The richer a person is spiritually, the fuller his life, the more interesting, it is more attractive to other people. The more a person can give goodness, attention, care, warmth, thought, knowledge, feelings, the more he will receive from others. This means that the ability to love is, first of all, the ability to give away the spiritual wealth you have accumulated. Learning to love means learning to be a good person.
Anyone who does not know how to love will never understand this. He can also experience love, but it will not be noble, it will not help him live, work, show his individuality in creativity. It will not bring joy. And true love is always joy, even if it is not mutual. Because it is a joy to give yourself to your loved one, think about him, take care, remember every minute, bear in front of him the inner responsibility for your actions! And in true love there is no place for distrust, despair, resentment, anger ... True love is noble: it is all a striving for the happiness of the one you love.
There are people who have not experienced true love and therefore do not believe in it. Everything is simple for them. What is there - inner wealth, spiritual closeness, the ability to be a friend to a loved one, to give him your thoughts, feelings, your time, your creativity. These are all words! But in reality: if you liked each other, fell in love; stopped liking - stopped loving, what's so difficult! These people are cynics. They don't believe in anything.
There are others. About these fighters for morality! For example, a boy and a girl go to school and from school - "Oh, shameless! Fall in love from that age! Disgraceful!" Or maybe they are friends, and that's all! Our defenders of morality do not understand this. Or: a graying man fell in love with an elderly woman. "I wonder what kind of benefit he's pursuing?" Or maybe in the lives of these middle-aged people there was so much pain and joy, and loneliness, and searches - they have accumulated such wealth, so generously endowed them with each other, brought such happiness to each other ... "Of course, happiness! She just has a separate one. apartment. It's not good, it's a shame: how can one fall in love at forty! " People who say that are bigots. They are harmful, because in words they protect love, but in deeds they destroy it. Do not trust either cynics or prudes. Don't listen to them.
Is love! And at sixteen and forty. And please don't laugh at the lovers - respect them. There is nothing higher than love, it was not for nothing that Gorky said: "All that is beautiful on earth came from love for a woman."
And the line that this chapter is named with - do you know where it comes from? It ends with one of the most amazing hymns of love created by mankind: the introduction to Mayakovsky's poem "About It". Here's the end of the intro:
This topic has come
wiped off the rest
and one
became completely close.
This topic went up to my throat with a knife.
Hammerman!
From the heart to the temples.
This theme has darkened the day, into darkness
pound - ordered - with the lines of their foreheads.
Name
this
subject
.....
Everyone who reads these verses says in his mind - no, not in his mind, but rather in his heart: "The name of this topic is love." But the poet did not write the word that we say in our hearts. It's too high and clear to pronounce ... Think about it. There is no need to "talk" about love, it is better to keep a careful respect for it in your heart, then it will come to you, happy and pure.
From talking about love, we naturally move on to talking about family; after all, it was in family relationships This feeling is most fully manifested: maternal, paternal, and brotherly love, and, of course, above all, love between a man and a woman.
You've probably heard the story of a little girl who told her mother: "It was easy for you to marry, you did marry dad, but I will have to marry someone else!" This girl is small. But even in older age, it can be difficult for us to imagine that our parents were once strangers, they are so united in our view. How is this unity achieved? How is a family created? And isn't it too early to talk about this with you, who do not even have a passport yet? And it’s not customary to talk about it with teenagers ... I think you need to talk about everything that you yourself think about. Don't you think about family, about marriage, don't you care about how to build and keep a family?
That natural unity that you see in your parents: the unity of views, tastes, opinions, lifestyle, even habits - it did not come by itself, it was created for many years, it was created because mom and dad tried to yield to each other in something, to convince each other of something, because each of them learned to think more and take care of the other than of himself.
And how many family tragedies occur precisely because people do not know how to be attentive to each other, to put the interests of others above their own! This skill can be learned even at your age, which is why it makes sense to talk to you about family problems now.
Do we know how to think about our parents more than about ourselves? We so often offend them with inattention simply because “we have not learned to be attentive. her affairs, she had to abandon or postpone them in order to "adjust" to her son. The mother managed to think about her son - and he about her? These are trifles, yes, but they educate character. time, about their concern for you, you prepare yourself to be able to take care of and remember another person in your future family!
You have probably seen more than once how boys meet mothers who have come to school: they walk by, sideways, sideways, like strangers. And why? Yes, out of the most ordinary fear: so that no one would say that they are mama's little sons. The fear of silly boyish chatter turns out to be stronger than desire please mother!
Once I saw how my student, a ninth-grader, met his mother at school. He rushed to meet his mother, took off her coat, carefully led her up the stairs ... This boy was proud of his mother, and his mother was proud of him - it was so nice to look at them!
There were four of them in the family: a father, a mother and two sons. The father taught his boys from childhood: the mother is the main one in the family. There are three of us, and she is one. We protect her, we are proud of her, we help her as much as we can. All household chores in this family were divided equally - the mother had time to read, be interested in art, play sports, think, be friends with by different people, including with your own sons, to love your father ...
A good family certainly has its own traditions: family holidays, customs, distribution of responsibilities ... But often children, growing up, break these traditions: they stop helping their parents, violate family privileges. It also happens: a grown-up son hints to his parents that they should go somewhere, for him, you see, his birthday, he will have comrades, mom and dad need not be present ... And this son does not understand that he himself, his own with his hands he destroys what parents have created with love, with attention: a family.
At your age, sometimes it seems like love happens at twenty, well, at twenty-five. And older people have what kind of love there is! Take a closer look at your parents. You will see: they love each other. They have preserved and carried this love through the years and difficulties, now you have grown and must also protect, also cherish their feeling.
It's not just about freeing mom and dad, letting them be together, although this is also important. Respect their love, keep it: do not make your parents worry, quarrel, worry about you. Protect the created by them family traditions and customs. And when you become adults, when you yourself have children, teach them from childhood: you have to build a family, it will not build itself. Teach them to cherish and respect love, yours and yours, future.
We are coming to the end of our conversation. Remember, we have already asked ourselves this question: why does a person live, what is his happiness?
“Man is created for happiness, like a bird for flight,” said V. G. Korolenko, a writer of great kindness and honesty, at the turn of our century and the last century. But you yourself perfectly remember these words of Gaidar: “What is happiness - everyone understood this in his own way. Soviet country ".
Karl Marx, when asked what happiness is, answered briefly: struggle!
What - they all talked about different things? No, about the same thing. Because they are all real people. The happiness of a real person is in the struggle for honesty, for justice, for a bright, full and rich life for all; happiness lies in loving your country and giving your labor to it! In that every day to do better, kinder, nobler, cleaner, know more, be more able; happiness is in friendship, in love that helps you live, work, think, seek and create.
We have already seen how the moral world of man has changed over the centuries. His idea of happiness also changed. For our distant ancestors, happiness was very, from our point of view, narrow: kind nature - that's probably all. The richer the moral world of a person became, the broader, more versatile, and richer became his idea of happiness: a dream arose about justice, about equality, about the brotherhood of all people, about peaceful and honest relations between them, about human mutual assistance ...
... The greatest happiness in a person's life is those feelings that you can give to people and people to you - your close and distant ones, like you.
F. DZERZHINSKY
We live in a country where this dream of humanity has come true. What does it mean that people have nothing to dream about, nowhere to develop? What does the future hold for us?
"I leave the house and get on the bus. It is, of course, free. I come to the city. I walk around the city - all shops, canteens, cafes, restaurants, cinemas, theaters - everything is open and everything is completely free. In the store, everyone takes whatever he wants. . I choose a new radio. The robot will take it to my house ... I leave the store, go to the cinema. On the way I meet a friend, he is not happy: he ate six servings of ice cream and caught a cold. I take him to the pharmacy. There the robot gives us medicine, my friend immediately recovers and we go to the cinema. "
This is how one - though a small - boy described the picture of a happy future. And I got so bored reading this description! Robots, shops, free ice cream - is that all we strive for? Is this the only thing we are fighting for?
The magazine "Koster" for 1963 published chapters from the book by Yuri Yakovlev "The Green Lamp and the Red Star". This book tells about life in the future, and there, too, some "young observers" saw in the future only buttons that must be pressed. I pressed it once - lunch, pressed another - they removed the dishes, pressed the third - the suit was ready. And then we read together:
"... and suddenly I feel that I am used to a free life. I got used not to go into my pocket for money. I got used not to wait for change. Free bread has become for me the same as free water, free air, free sun. And I have already forgotten how money looks and learned to press buttons.
And the fact that everything around me is free and easy does not make me happy. And communism is happiness! "
But the heroes of the book see something else in the future: crying old woman- she lost her son, who flew to a distant planet; scientist - he worked for three days, "tiredness knocks him down, but he does not leave his workplace." Nobody forces
Ignorance has never helped anyone!
K. MARX
people of the future to face dangers and fatigue; they themselves do it - this is life, happiness! The heroes of the book saw in the future people "who have to fight, discover, create. And this has never been an easy thing."
I really like this book; it says the most important thing: communism is happy life, But it is not easy life... The happiness lies in being difficult, to overcome these difficulties, to fight them - and to win. And in order to win, you need to be strong, honest and noble, you need to know a lot, be able to be friends and love -
This means that the person of the future will also need everything that we talked about. But the people of the future are you. You are going to live in a communist society. Prepare yourself to build this society and enter it as full members. Enrich your moral world today, now. By this you will bring the advance of communism closer.
Have we said everything about the moral world of man? Of course no! After all, this topic is limitless, you can think about it, you can argue about it, you can explore it your whole life. We have only outlined the problems that everyone will have to think about more than once.
What conclusions have we come to?
First of all: the moral world of a person does not remain unchanged. It changes depending on the living conditions of the society. And that means that the purest, the richest, the most beautiful moral world will be in a communist society.
The moral world of a person of our era, our country is rich and diverse. The CPSU Program, the moral code of the builder of communism, helps us to understand it. Fulfilling the requirements of the Program, the moral code, we prepare ourselves for the future.
A citizen of our country must be spiritually rich. His moral world should include a creative attitude to work, education, the ability to choose his vocation, love for nature, understanding of art ...
A citizen of our country must love people, be able to take care of them, be a good comrade, a faithful friend, be able to love, build a family.
The happiness of a citizen of our country is a struggle for a bright future for all people on earth.
N.G. Dolinina
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Humanity has become a rare phenomenon in our time. Some people don't even know what this word means. In general, translated from Latin, humanity means humanity, that is, the ability to respect and recognize the values of humanity, the dignity of each individual.
To make sure that modern society very far from humanity, just take a ride in public transport at rush hour, when tired and aggressively opposed passengers are ready to fight for free place... At such moments, it begins to seem that such a character trait as humanity is just a beautiful invention, but, fortunately, this is not so. There are still people in the world who are able to selflessly sacrifice something for the sake of society, who are able to respect and love not only loved ones, but also strangers. For example, in my opinion, the famous actress Angelina Jolie, acting as a UN Goodwill Ambassador and really takes care of orphans, donates large funds for their maintenance and even adopted several kids, can be called humane, in my opinion.
The theme of humanity is widely reflected in world literature. For example, in the story of M. Gorky "Danko" the main character pulls his heart out of his chest in order to light the way for people. Also, the problem of humanity was raised in his immortal work "Faust" by the brilliant German writer Goethe. He showed that a person becomes really happy only when he devotes himself to work for the benefit of others.
So, I believe that humanity is an extremely rare gift that must be cherished because, having it, a person really becomes a Human.
Humanity is a respectful, benevolent, sympathetic attitude towards people, the ability to be restrained in assessing their actions.
The development of humanism has its roots in the Renaissance. It was then that the opinion was expressed that a person should be respected and appreciated as he is. Nowadays, these ideas are widely promoted by politicians and stars through the media.
Humanity, first of all, implies a condescending attitude towards the misdeeds of others, because no one is immune from mistakes. Even criminals have the right to a second chance, the right to atone for their guilt. Therefore, I believe that the cancellation death penalty became another step towards the development of a humane society.
Humanity is synonymous with humanity, i.e. the ability to empathize and help others. Internationally, this aspect emerged after the Chernobyl disaster. Then Cuba, absolutely free of charge, organized special camps for the treatment and rehabilitation of Ukrainian children who suffered as a result of that terrible accident.
Our time is also important to promote a humane attitude towards HIV-infected people, because society simply turns away from such people for lack of awareness about this disease.
The step of national and universal human traditions and values is also a component of humanity. For example, in the poem by I. Kotlyarevsky "Aeneid" it is said that during the war between the tour and Aeneas, by their mutual agreement, the battles were temporarily stopped so that each nation could bury the dead soldiers with dignity.
Consequently, humanity is, first of all, mutual respect and human attitude towards each other. And without this it is impossible to build a highly moral society and a strong state.
