The child sleeps in a separate room from birth. When should a child have their own room? The opinion of a psychologist. Opinion of moms from forums

For their beloved baby, parents are ready for anything, but do not overdo it in decorating a room for a newborn. You don't need too much furniture, toys, clothes. Just try to keep everything safe, of good quality, from natural materials.

By the age of three months, it is recommended to hang a carousel over the bed (it is also a mobile). The child looks forward at bright toys, which contributes to the normal development of vision. Choose a carousel with nice music and large toys, and make sure it doesn't hang too low. When the baby begins to reach for the toys, it is better to remove the carousel so that it does not fall on him.

Now about electronic assistants. A wonderful invention of the last century - a baby monitor! Mom can freely do household chores, go to the bathroom and be calm for the baby. The video function in the baby monitor will not be superfluous. But only a mother needs a night light to find a baby in the dark, although you can just go crying! A toddler must get used to sleeping in complete darkness, and then recent studies show that sleeping with a night light leads to irritability, sometimes even mental disorders, since the brain does not rest properly.

Now all sets of children's bedding include a canopy - also a dubious item. Of course, the crib looks very cute with him, but there is a risk that the baby will get entangled in the fabric, and the fabric collects excess dust. If, nevertheless, you cannot do without a canopy (to protect the child from insects flying through the window), choose reliable fasteners and make sure that the ends of the fabric do not sink into the crib.

When choosing a crib, give preference to transformers. When the baby is very small, the bottom should rise high up so that the mother does not have to dive inside, and it is also very inconvenient to immerse the baby so deeply without disturbing him or injuring her back. By the age of two, it is better to remove the front board, since the child already gets up on its own, sometimes, earlier than the parents. If he tries to get out, he may fall and get hurt. As for the changing table, this is not the most necessary piece of furniture in a newborn's room. It is quite possible to get by with an ordinary table. Just place a box or basket with the necessary hygiene products next to it.

Watch out for sunlight from windows. The newborn should not be in direct light: overheating at this age is more harmful than hypothermia. Do not place the crib in a room next to a window or near a radiator. In winter, the air in the room is dry due to the operation of heating devices, which has a bad effect on the mucous membranes of not only children, but also adults. Here it is necessary to humidify the air either with special devices, or simply by placing a wide container of clean water on the windowsill above the battery.

First of all, you need to do a general cleaning of the entire apartment, and the room for the newborn requires special attention. There should not be a single gram of dust left on the chandelier, or on the curtains, or on tall cabinets. Damp all surfaces with a safe product. It is better to do this not to the expectant mother, so as not to overexert herself and not inhale chemicals. Subsequently, do wet cleaning at least every other day, as dust can harm the baby's developing respiratory system.

Most often, the baby does not have a separate room, but part of the parents' room. This is facilitated by the housing issue, which is so popular in our country. On the other hand, this is more correct, since a newborn needs care 24 hours a day. If the mother is far away, she simply will not hear at night that the child has woken up. It is best for mom to prepare for a long move from a shared bed with her husband, if they decided to make a room for the newborn separately. Alternatively, the child can sleep in the same bed with his mother, now it has been proven that such an experience has a positive effect on the emotional and physical development of the baby.

It is better to plan a room for a newborn 2-3 months before delivery. Start by studying information in magazines, the Internet, read reviews about potential purchases, listen to friends, because you have a rather difficult job: you need to choose furniture, clothes, hygiene products, the first toys.

Arrangement of a newborn's room, to which the most long-awaited tenant will arrive, is one of the primary tasks of future parents. This is such an interesting and exciting process that a pregnant woman forgets about the fear of childbirth.

Color spectrum

Leave bright saturated colors until the time when your child grows up. You can refresh the interior for a baby with natural ornaments on wallpaper, curtains, frames with photographs, simple drawings on the walls.

If the bed is in dark colors, then make the walls, ceiling and window opening as light as possible. For accents, simple geometry of darker shades is suitable. For example, squares.

Zoning

A newborn spends most of his life in a crib or in his mother's / father's arms. If the baby has a separate room, then it needs a sleeping area for the baby, a changing area and an area for staying with mom.

Also consider a storage area. There are several options. This is a separate wardrobe, a changing chest of drawers, shelves in the parents' closet, drawers in the crib. As much as possible living space and imagination.

The care area (changing room) is the place where the baby is changed and hygienic procedures are carried out. This usually requires a changing table with shelves or a chest of drawers. A more compact option is a chest of drawers. She can be a transformer for an older age.

Finishing materials: 3 important qualities

A newborn person is very gentle and sensitive. He is just developing immunity. Therefore, interior items and especially should be as natural, environmentally friendly, and hygienic as possible.

Environmental friendliness. Choose quality building materials for decoration. Natural or with a minimum content of toxic substances. Such materials are usually sold marked "suitable for decorating a children's room."
Naturalness. The bed should be made of natural wood. Paint and impregnation are non-toxic. Also choose textiles of natural origin: linen, cotton, bamboo.
Hygiene... Any decorative elements in the baby's room need to be washed often, cleaned from dust.

Choosing a style: Provence and country

Provence and country styles suggest a rustic atmosphere. Elements of this style can be used in the design of a room for a newborn. This furniture is stylized "old fashioned", white or pastel base tone, natural curtains, natural wood floor.

Such an interior will refresh and place color accents with floral ornament and a cage on textile elements and wallpaper.

Scandinavian style

The main tenets of the Scandinavian style are environmental friendliness, functionality and minimalism of decorative elements. This is a very ergonomic solution for the baby and his parents. What elements are suitable for a newborn's room?

A cot made of natural wood, a white changing chest of drawers, a rocking chair for comfortable feeding, relaxation, a light window, decor made of natural materials.

The walls are plain pastel, pale pink or light cornflower blue. Wall decor in the style of children's drawings, large multicolored letters. Big siblings or children of friends can help create this design element.

Hang simple shelves, rectangular or house shelves on the walls.

Classic style

Princess Pink World

The walls can be pasted over with pink paper wallpaper with a pattern of white, olive, gray. It can be stripes, circles, polka dots, clouds, flowers.

White furniture made of natural wood will look harmonious in the pink nursery.

If the room turned out to be monochromatic, a brighter textile finish will add expressiveness. For example, curtains, roller blinds with a pattern.

For boy

The most popular classic style baby boy tone is light blue. But even this color in the interior of the baby's room can be diversified by combinations with light and dark decor elements.

White trim on a blue background will add lightness and space. Floor-to-ceiling vertical images will visually raise the ceiling.

Universal themes

Many young parents choose to keep the sex of the baby a secret until birth. In this case, it is appropriate to arrange a room for a future resident in a universal color scheme.

White- a very fashionable color for the decoration of the nursery. The more we get tired of city smog, the more popular this color becomes, despite its impracticality in terms of cleaning.

In combination with undiluted colors of the main color scheme (yellow, green, blue), white is perfect for the design of a newborn's nursery.

It is in harmony with all tones of unpainted natural materials.

Various pastel shades are harmoniously combined with each other.

The combination of white or in the interior of a nursery for a newborn baby looks stylish and modern.

Even mouse gray combined with white furniture and accessories creates a comfortable atmosphere.

Fresh green.

Childhood corner in a studio apartment

It often happens that a young family lives in one room. When another resident appears, the parents are faced with the question: how to organize the territory of the baby?

A shelving partition or a light textile, plasterboard partition will separate the children's and adult areas and add storage space.

Accessories and lamps

The walls can be decorated with frames with photos, casts of the baby's legs and arms. Maintain balance, do not overwhelm the environment, especially in a confined space.

Interior stickers or wall murals will enliven the interior and add visual impressions to the baby. After all, very soon the child will become interested in the situation around. Choose wall decorations with simple, uncomplicated images of 2-3 different colors.

Organize lighting natural. That is why the walls should be light. One powerful lamp in the middle of the ceiling is enough. If there is no dimming, hang up a night light.

Decorate a small window with curtains that will leave the window opening free (blinds, blinds).

For a bright room, classic curtains are suitable.

Textile accessories will add charm and joy. You can hang big letters on the wall - the name of the baby or some phrase with a meaning like “our baby”, “our princess”. A bright baby blanket for newborns will also dilute the interior.

2. DO NOT use halftones, purples, deep reds in large quantities.

3. Do not hang the lamp or wall decor directly above the crib. It is dangerous and absolutely unnecessary.

Compact furniture

If the room for the baby is small or even shared with a brother or sister, then a compact bed-chest of drawers with lower drawers will help.

For a common room with an older child, a bunk bed with a lower bunk for a newborn is suitable.

Calmer - so that mom and the whole family get enough sleep. So it appears in the life of a child. The baby is growing, and it seems to parents that he is ready for more independence and can sleep in his bed. But the habit of sleeping with the parents is already formed, and it is not so easy now to put the child to sleep in a different way. What to do, says psychologist Larisa Surkova.

Sleeping together: 9 popular questions

Before the baby is born, most parents-to-be are categorical: "Children should sleep in their own bed." After that, the parents are divided into two camps - for or against sleeping together.

To begin with, there is no correct answer to this question. Each family chooses its own path and its own decision - this is normal.

The child's personality matures during the "three-year crisis", but even then passes only the first stages of maturity. Until this age, the baby identifies only with loved ones, considers himself a part of them. Imagine for a second that you are tired, your strength has left you. At this moment, you will want to fall into the arms of your husband, feel warmth and attention. So it is with children. For them, sleeping together is, first of all, an emotional recharge. They are safe, comfortable and calm next to their mother.

Whether the child sleeps alone or with you is a matter of your convenience. Many children, sleeping separately from birth, at the age of one and a half, begin to ask their parents. This is understandable: the flow of information grows, the load increases - and the baby hurries to his mother. Next to her, sleep is calmer, and development goes forward.

Nevertheless, heated discussions around sleeping together do not subside. I propose to discuss some popular questions.

Is it possible to put my baby to sleep in a separate room from birth?

It is possible, but not necessary. This is inconvenient for the mother (you have to run back and forth) and for the baby, who does not feel safe. If you have a separate bed, then next to yours.

Is it possible to move a baby to his bed at 6 months, when complementary feeding begins?

It's not about the way you eat your food, but about psychological comfort and a sense of security. At six months of age, a separate room for your baby is early, but a crib next to you is okay.

When is it better for a child to start sleeping separately: before a year or after? What's the best time?

The best time is when the child is ready for it. Usually such a readiness is formed in him for about three years, in the wake of the crisis "I myself". The kid becomes interested in his own room, bright bed linen with his favorite characters or an unusual bed.

And if we are expecting a second child?

Well, the elder is not to blame. Do not expose him to double stress: from the appearance of a brother or sister and transfer to a separate bed. Start sleeping separately 4-5 months before the birth of your baby, in a mild form.

I think all children are different. There are those who sleep from birth themselves, and there are those who, up to 6 years old, run at night in their parents' bed. Maintaining general comfort and lack of comparison between children is important.

Sharing a dream with a baby is the death of the parents' sex life?

Are there really those who believe that sex is something that only happens at night, in the bedroom, under the covers? There are other places and times of day. You can also make love after your child falls asleep. Falling asleep with him? What does a joint dream have to do with it? It's just mom's tiredness!

If a boy sleeps with his mother, he is attracted to her ...

"Thank you" to Freud! In fact, there is no research, other than his theories, on this topic. Personally, I consider these fears unproven, as well as the fact that boys should not be kissed or played with dolls.

Joint sleep inhibits the development of speech.

The development of speech slows down the tablet from 8 months and a bunch of other factors. There is no joint sleep among them.

The child will never leave the parental bed.

Soon you yourself will ask him to lie down with you. As soon as the personality of the child begins to mature and form (about 3 years old), he will want to get his own bed, room and everything else. So watch out for signs of readiness.

Parents begin to think about this problem when all the mistakes have already been made, and the child sleeps only with his chest in his mouth, or with a rhythmic swing on a fitball, or during a dynamic dance around the apartment with him in his arms. That's when they ask the question: "How to put the child to bed without these complex manipulations?"

As always, let us turn to those who have not yet made this mistake: "Dear parents, do not teach your child anything that you will want to wean you from later!"

When the child is very young, there are two basic tactics you can choose for yourself. The first is body contact. The baby eats and falls asleep in his arms or next to you when his mother or father's hand is on top. This creates a sense of presence and fulfills the child's basic need for safety. The second way - the child eats, falls asleep, as a rule, in the arms of the mother, but then the baby is placed in a crib or cradle. Everyone wants to use this method at 6-7 months of age, but then the basic habits have already been formed, and it is difficult to do this.
Child psychologists and neuropsychologists (Weisblut, Estiville) reasonably oppose the traumatic methods of teaching people to fall asleep on their own. First, the "fading cry" in the parents' version often turns into "let it go." Secondly, it threatens with delayed psychological problems at the age of 3-6 years.
It is very important from the moment a child is born to distinguish between the concepts of "day and night". During the day, there is no need to create artificial darkness and silence.
Sleep does not mean food and vice versa. The newborn lives in this particular mode, but at 6-7 months the baby can be safely taken away from this scheme. You gave the baby a breast, then lay down on the bed and stroked his back, then he fell asleep. So feeding will not be the only method of bedding the baby.
The most rational way that shows good results when it is impossible to put the child to sleep in another way is through a sequence of actions and rituals. From day to day, the baby must get used to the fact that bathing is followed by feeding, and feeding is followed by sleep.
Remember the main thing: the psyche and the brain mature gradually, and at 14-20 months the baby is simply not ready for sleep without awakening. Moms often confuse shallow sleep with waking up and immediately put the baby to the breast. Pause for at least 1-2 minutes. Maybe the baby will roll over from side to side and fall asleep again. But if a child under the age of 2 sleeps less than 10 hours a day, screams in his sleep, think about a visit to a child psychologist.
To decide whether to put your child in a separate bed, I suggest using the goal setting method. Think about what is important to you, why did you decide to move the child out of your bed? To herself, or to lead a normal sex life, or because a new baby is about to be born soon, or because the child has already grown up and it's time? Or maybe because “my grandmother and everyone around me shame and say that I am a bad mother”? Analyze your motivation and find the real reason, the one that is dictated by the interests of you and your child, and not the "good aunt."
Respect your child's opinion. Perhaps he does not want to sleep here and now, because he is busy? Is playing? Doesn't want to be interrupted? Give him the opportunity to finish his job, accept that he is a living person and can have his own plans.
Remember that there is no “all at once”. We often want too much from our children. At the same time to wean the child from the breast, not to put on a diaper at night and persuade him to sleep in his bed? Isn't it a bit too much? Prioritize, choose what's more important to you and your child, and go that way!

With the advent of the child, he is given a place in the parent's bedroom, where the interior changes beyond recognition: wallpapers with cute teddy bears, curtains with bunnies, and a crib appear. How to understand that it is time to move the baby to a separate room?

Some families all postpone the resettlement of the baby, while in others this process is accompanied by children's screams, tantrums and stress for all household members.

There are 2 common approaches:

The sooner you move out, the easier it is. Many people practically from birth put the child in a separate bed and soon transfer them to a separate room. In such families, it is believed that the baby will grow up independent if from a very early age learns to sleep alone. We also read: .
The closer the crumb, the calmer. Some parents strive to keep their child close for longer so that he feels protected and, accordingly, grows up calm and confident in himself.

Both approaches have advantages and disadvantages, and it is up to the parents to decide how to deal with their children. Still, it is worth considering the characteristics of each age.

Up to a year

Moving an infant into a separate room is a serious decision. At the age of 1 year, the baby really needs mother's milk, the warmth of her body and constant care.

There are other negative aspects to such an act:

Difficult to maintain in a separate room.
Parents are not around to cover or reveal the baby in time.
Mom will not get enough sleep, constantly running into the room to the little one who asks for attention.

Nevertheless, many parents who have chosen this option are satisfied and point to its advantages:

The kid immediately gets used to his room, and then nothing has to be changed.
The children's bedroom is always quiet. Nothing prevents the baby from resting calmly, and mom and dad can watch TV, talk and go to bed whenever they want.

When deciding to move your child to a separate room, think about his safety. The baby has not yet learned to crawl - what if he accidentally buries his nose in the blanket? Do not leave soft objects in the crib, remove the pillow. Place the crib itself away from outlets, electrical appliances and batteries. For the safety of the child and your own peace of mind, you can install a radio or video baby monitor so that you always know what is happening with the baby.

1-2 years

Most often, children are relocated to separate rooms when they turn 1-2 years old. This is due to the fact that at this age:

breastfeeding often stops;
the regime has already been formed;
eat less at night.

Most children aged 1.5-2 years easily get used to their rooms. To facilitate this process, parents need to do everything gradually:

initially ;
then start putting the crib in the nursery for daytime sleep;
for some time mom or dad should sleep next to the child during the day (a child is in his crib, an adult is on the couch).

If the child is capricious, then it is difficult to come to an agreement with him, because persuasion and explanations do not work for him yet. Therefore, if the baby starts peeing in his pants again, often throws tantrums, gets nervous, bites his nails, or does something else, then it is better to postpone moving to a separate room.

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2-3 years and later

When the baby is already about 3 years old, it is much easier to negotiate with him. You can come up with a fairy tale about a hare who needed his own hut, explain that dolls or cars are cramped in the parent's bedroom. Physically, a three-year-old child is absolutely ready to move: all children of this age sleep the whole night without waking up, they no longer need nighttime snacks and pacifiers. Only such children quickly understand what is happening and begin to cheat, coming to their mother's bed in the middle of the night. If the parents don't mind, it will become an uncomfortable habit.

There are several important nuances associated with moving a three-year-old to a separate room:

Do everything gradually, as with younger children;
If a child comes to your bedroom at night, do not allow sleeping in your bed. Hold him on your knees, pat him on the head and calm him down, and then take him to the nursery and put him in the crib.

Children have their own characteristics at every age. Psychologists recommend settling the child in a separate room when he begins to strive for independence. It is only important to take into account that each baby is individual, therefore, some have the desire to do everything themselves already at 2 years old, while others - only at 4. There are no universal recommendations for moving to a separate room. The main thing is that the whole family is prepared for this - both the child and his parents.

Opinion of moms from forums

Nastiafi: My daughter immediately slept in a separate room. I hear every rustle thanks to the baby monitor. I don't know what it would be like if we settled her with us. But this state of affairs suits all family members.

marquis of angels: My little son will already be 6 months old, I want to move his crib to the nursery, let him sleep in his room, especially since he somehow sleeps better there.

Milena Farmer: From birth, the child should have his own room. Your space.
I understand that when he is sick, of course, you need to be close to him. And while it is very small.
We made a separate room for the baby right away, but I’m sleeping with him in the room. The husband is in the bedroom. Senior re is in his other room.

Screw: Since birth, our daughter sleeps in her room, sometimes I want to put her next to me and fall asleep, but my husband categorically does not allow.

Lovealisy: My opinion is that after 3 years it's time. We are waiting for an apartment to embody this idea. For 3 years in the same room, honestly, I myself was already a little tired. There is simply no personal life….

Marine: From birth, both had their own room. They always slept separately in their own bed in their own room, only at the temperature I take them to my bed.

AlenaSh: We resettled our children at 2 years old, everything went smoothly. It can be seen because they were not accustomed to sleeping with us in our bed.

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