Registration and wedding on different days. On repeated marriages and wedding. What time after the wedding is better

Some newlyweds are waiting for the day of their wedding for so long for so long, but, pursuing when preparing, is dreaming that all this Courtyman ended as soon as possible. Such couples, most often, organize and register, and wedding one day. Others want to create their family to go slowly and stretched for two days ... But who is right? ..

Gallop in Europe or all in one day

The main plus of marriage organization and registration, and wedding in the church is that, indeed, wedding worries are reduced, almost twice. In addition, a one-day celebration can save a certain amount of cash. After all, you do not have to pay for the two-day work of photographers, operators, wedding cortex, hairdresser, makeup artist ... I will not need to buy bouquets and pay for rent of wedding dresses (if you decide to rent a suit or rental dress).

However, in registration and wedding, one day there is a significant minus: everything will happen extremely quickly, without a minute of free time. After all, the registration of marriage in the registry office, and even more wound a wedding by itself quite prolonged acts. But you also need to make a small wedding photo session (for a lot of time you definitely do not have enough!). Registration and wedding is one day - this is a great test for guests invited to the other ceremony. Before the banquet, many of them get pretty tired and hungry. And on an empty stomach, by the way, even a small amount of alcohol can play a keen joke with anyone ... Therefore, if you are going and registering a marriage and get married in one day, then definitely organize for yourself and your guests are some fleeting "snacks".

On one day - registration, in another - wedding

First, it will allow newlyweds to carry out both solemn days not in such a frantic rhythm, as in the first case. And the bride will be extremely glad to put on his wonderful wedding dress. In complete delight, any girl will be from the opportunity to buy another dress - especially for wedding, if finance will enable.

It is also important that the fact that in love with the wedding is needed to carefully prepare, reading special prayers, passing the rites of communion, confession, bees ... All this requires time, patience, removal from earthly problems to attach spiritual. It is difficult to imagine such a debitrary preparation that coincides with the boys, the bachens and other wedding honeycomb. If the registration and wedding will take place on different days, then to plunge into the atmosphere of religiosity and holiness to the church ceremony will be more accessible and easier.

The minus of the two-day version of the wedding is seen only one - extra costs. On services of professionals, lease, shopping, etc.
You can choose for yourself any of the two options, weighing all presented above, "for" and "against". However, remember that if you decide to organize and register, and wedding one day, then, first of all, you need to look at. The registry office paints newlyweds weekly in many days, but the church is crowned by certain days.

Portal site will help to figure out how combine the date of the wedding and wedding. And registration in the registry office, and wedding have their own charm, their magic, their sacrament for newlyweds. But is it worth mixing these rituals and assign everything for one day? After all, in fact, a wonderful wedding day can turn into a hellish marathon with obstacles in a wedding dress. Are you ready for such?

Registration in the registry office and wedding: everything is one day

Registration in the registry office

• Saving. You spend less money for car rental, wedding dress and suit for the groom (if you rent). Also for brides and wedding services (photographer, videographer, makeup and hairstyle for the bride).
• The ambulance wedding. Sometimes the desire to "serve" the wedding is much more than the desire to "enjoy" it. Commit once and forever with noisy fellow relatives and go away in the honeymoon can be given if you design registration in the registry office and wedding On one day. And tribute to fashion on the wedding will also be given.

• Walk marathon. One day is one big minus for all those present, as it is a solid marathon with numerous obstacles. And not a minute to rest, everywhere you have to have time.
• Wedding walk will turn to a quick photo session with red faces, tired guests. And after all this, it is unlikely to raise his beloved bride in the hands.
• Lack of time. AND Ceremony of painting, I. wedding quite lasting in time. So be ready for the fact that very little time will remain on the wedding walk and the walking in the restaurant.
• Drunk and hungry. Yes, and guests will walk hungry and suitable from champagne, because sweets to eat champagne, drunk for the health of young people, are unlikely to be satisfied. And also wedding ahead.
• Preparation for wedding. To the mystery of the wedding, newlyweds must be prepared together and very carefully. And if this preparation comes with the cattle around the planning of the entire celebration (and registration, walks, and banquet), then the magic of holiness can simply evaporate and remain unnoticed.

Preparation for weddings

Registration in the registry office and wedding: two days - two holidays

• The second life of the wedding dress. No bride will never refuse once again to wear your favorite wedding dress and paint it. After all, the second chance may not be. To feel like a bride once again, the girl can agree to all additional costs.
• If the bride does not want to wear the same dress, then this is an excellent reason to purchase the second. The ceremony of painting and wedding is like two weddings with only one and the same person.
• All according to plan. If a wedding scheduled for another day than ceremony of painting in the registry office, That and the wedding walk, and the photo session will be much calmer and dimension. No one will break his head to wear and customize guests, no one will rush and spill wedding champagne wasted. Everything will go like oil.
• Preparation K. wedding. Wedding is a special sacrament that suggests that the bride and groom together are preparing for him: prayers, communion, confession, checking, etc. It is worth it to approach this, and most importantly - together. If it goes on a separate day, then nothing eager for this sacrament of church marriage.

Wedding

• Additional costs of car rental, on the services of a wedding photographer and operator, on makeup and hairstyle for the bride and guests. This can also be credited to the additional cost of newlywed wedding dresses.
• Dress code. For wedding there is a kind of wedding dress code. The bride cannot be in a short dress with open shoulders and deep neckline. Therefore, it is necessary to marvel on another day that brides that are not able to abandon the frank dreasing, but also the desire to bore themselves with the Uzami of Heavenly Marriage no less.

Unfortunately, wedding on the wedding day is a big rarity for Moscow. It is very rare to newlyweds to combine two events in one day wedding and wedding. How can I plan a timing of a wedding day in order to have time to hold a rite of wedding in Moscow?

Wedding on wedding day

If you plan a wedding on the wedding day, it will be very dense. The wedding day is already saturated with different events:, official marriage registration in the registry office or an exit wedding ceremony, a wedding photo session, and completes this day a wedding banquet. It is very difficult to plan everything in minutes and you have time everywhere.

It is necessary to take into account that the guests and relatives of the bride and groom will be with you on this day, for them it is also a serious load. All listed episodes of the wedding day will be held in different places in Moscow. Consequently, most of the time will be spent on moving from one place to another. It is very difficult to calculate the logistics and timing to not get out of the schedule. And what to talk about Moscow traffic jams? Will the groom wanted to spend this day in a turmoil or make sense to move wedding for another day?

Let's discuss the wedding ceremony. What you need to know the bride and the bride first? To make the rite of wedding first, they will be asked to make a marriage certificate. That is, before going to church, they need to visit the registry office, without a marriage registration certificate wedding will not take place. First, the bride and groom must register their marriage, and then will be able to go to church.

If you agree to such a plan for a wedding day, then there will be no time to the front wedding photo session. Maybe it is better to do these events in two days? All the details on the holding of a wedding rite of newlyweds can be found on the website of the wedding photographer. If this information about you will seem not enough, check the details in the church. If you have a small wedding to 20 people, it makes sense to invite all guests to the rite of wedding to church. It will not prevent them from recalling the rules that need to be observed in the temple.

1. Clothes must match canons, short skirts are unacceptable.
2. Bags and packages leave at the entrance.
3. Be sure to have wrappers on your head.
4. Bright makeup is unacceptable.
5. During the rite, guests must be behind the newlyweds.

Marriage, family, wedding are questions that are actively treated today from different points of view not only in church media. The sharpness of these discussions attaches and has already become the most familiar practice of frequent change of the so-called "partners", without bonding the relationship by the family by the family and some obligations in front of each other. Of course, this applies primarily to people who are far from the church, but that sin is to hone, because church marriages do not always withstand the test of time and circumstances. That is why, probably, one of the main topics around which the discussion focused on, was a re-marriage. And as far as possible in the second and third marriage on the blessing of the Church, that is, marriage, consecrated by the church sacrament? We talk about this with a famous confessor, the abbot of the church of the Intercession of the Blessed Virgin Mary in Akulovo.

- Father Valerian, Is it possible in principle to commit a second wedding with a living spouse?

- With a living spouse, according to the Holy Gospel, only under one condition: if the former marriage collapsed due to adultery. With a living spouse, the second time was crowned, for example, (on the blessing of the Metropolitan Filaret). Of course, it was an exceptional case, but it happens anything. The church is coming along the path of mercy, along the path of love.

There are three provisions in the church: "It is impossible", "not supposed" and "not accepted." "It is impossible" - it means that it is impossible. "Not supposed" - for example, no bearings are put on the charter, there are some more circumstances when something is not relied. And there are some things that are made in a certain way - or not accepted.

There are only two ranks of the molding of marriage. Moreover, the second rank - for entering into the second marriage (if one of the widdled spouses). And with a living spouse - a special case. If the second half leaves the family and does not want to live with a former spouse, then - as the Lord said: "Give the book attenuating ..." But he adds, - "For your hard-hearter." But in general, except because of adultery, should not leave his second half. But it happens that humanly one of the spouses does not withstand, for example, the drunkenness of another or something else.

And now the big disaster was that now everything is transferred for money. Often hear reproaches of the spouses: "You do not earn!" Or "you earn little!" Yes, if anyone else earns! But today the world rules capital, money, they are in the modern world are "at the head of the corner."

Of course, the third wedding does not exist. But today we have everything so confused that it is difficult to understand: they were married? And how to count, again: in the third, in the fourth or in the fifth? They were mistaken, the marriage is considered ... And now the so-called "civil marriage" (GB) appeared. "Civil Blud" in reducing, he is. This, of course, is the trouble of our time ...

In these cases, the only way out: pray and ask for the assignment from God. To deal with who is right to blame, it is difficult: there are wines of every person in any story. Of course, one who smarter is more to blame. And how the Lord judges - this is His Holy Will.

- When a priest is handcrew, he removes his wedding ring, puts it on the throne, thereby symbolizing that he is engaged with God ...

- This is his special ministry. Priest can be married only once.

- However, the draft new document makes a discussion on the possibility of the possibility of the second wedding and for the priest, including. We all know the situation when a young father after the sudden or tragic death of his wife remains alone with a numerous family in his arms. In addition to his church ministry, it turns out to be connected and domestic responsibilities, and often these baws in general bare ends with ends - we have many and poor parishes.

- Actually, such examples of the Church's story knows, but there was never anything about the second wedding of the speech. For example, widowed and stayed with families on hand. We all know his life path ...

The fact is that it is important to see the path of the fishery of God - it is impossible to speak abstractly. So, such is the will of God.

You see, what's the matter: if we go to some actions, choose some workarounds, it means that we are not honest before God and ourselves. An example of the military: if you chose a military career, you know: or you will stay in cripple after the war, or you will die at all! But you chose this path and ready for it. Or you chose yourself a sailor's career: they for half a year often do not see their family at all - and should take such a state of things. This is already the choice of each individual person! Another thing is that not everyone is seriously aware of it.

Once I told my father about the desire to go to a long sailing, and he replied: "While you are young, you pull on the journey. And when you have a family and you will hang out somewhere in the distance from her, so Blugging! " It's just so figuratively said, but was in his words and a hint: Who can withstand? And doctors not everyone can be, and in the morgue not everyone will work. These are the features of each ministry.

- Often, many have questions the relationship of the Church and the modern state. After all, today the Church considers the marriage valid and makes a wedding only if there is a civil registration. Yes, we know the words of the Apostle Paul: "There is no power not from God" And yet ... how can the church recognize the marriage, only documented, and only on the basis of this document to perform the mystery of the wedding? Is it not enough of one church wedding, it is the sacraments, because "marriages are performed in heaven" (if you lower, of course, the formal side of this question)?

- We are not more than Apostle Peter, who said: "If everyone renounced, I will not reject!" - And then he renounced three times, and even with an oath. Therefore, it is very difficult to foresee how to behave themselves very hard. Often you do not know what to say, and even more so about other people's plans. Of course, we often have to face it and understand. For example, people diverged. Who owns the house? And he is not issued anyone - it turns out: it does not belong to anyone ... and so on. Of course, this is not the most important thing in the spiritual sense, but if the formal side is not so important - why not to fulfill it? Why not sign if there is no difference? For the sacrament, this has nothing to do, why not do? If there is no difference: Hanging, wreck, live ...

This is as in the case of post. They say: "Isn't it equal to what we have?" Yes, anyway: so eat lean! Or more: "Yes, what difference, we eat or without oil (vegetable)?" Well, if there is no difference, so eat without oil!

- Is it important to obedience to the church?

- Yes, obedience to the church. After all, it is not difficult, in fact: why not sign? The fact is that the church still recognizes a marriage, respects marriage with respect.

It should be understood that in general a marriage is not a church, this is a civil establishment. There was even Christianity, this is an ancient establishment in many nations. But if a person had a second marriage, of course, he could not be a priest (even if it was an unbelled marriage). Anyway, it was a marriage! According to the Charter - so.

Of course, there are exceptions here, it is the power of the bishop, but in general - it is so!

- Some priests come in some cases « according to Iconomy, "although often such" iconomy "does not meet the response in the hearts of believers. And there are rare cases when a person from the monastery comes to the world and married ...

- According to the charter, it is not entitled to marry! Civil marriage in such cases is possible, but not church!

- I would like to ask you, dear Father Valerian, contact our readers with a pastoral word. Today, such a deer time, when many of us seem to live in the fence of the Church, but subordinate to their laws and establishments developed personally for themselves, which seem more acceptable. Often everyone builds some particular church life for himself, without having to live the life of the arrival.

When we are talking about, which was before the revolution and exists today in some local churches (for example, in Serbia), it is difficult for us to imagine what it is in reality. There at arrival often gather after liturgia, discuss some burning questions, but they simply talk about the read of the Gospel ... Do you think that today is important for coming?

- Here you need to remember one important thing: let's compare Serbia and Russia in size: the small team is always easier to manage!

Once, at one time, I was asked about globalization. And before that, I somehow read one article (regardless of this) that if a person is creating an analogue of the human brain (taught by all sorts of microchips), and one ten-thousand of these elements will not work it - it means that all this system will not work , hopeless! Then the father of John Vavilov said to me: it seems to be concluded that the person is more difficult, the more reliable. And it turned out on the contrary: the more difficult - the more hopeless. Another Western Volnoduce said: "For large states, dictatorship is needed." Such is social management is possible only for small societies, because there is still somehow you can resist.

Moreover, the lord of the Lord of Nestor, now the deceased, told me an interesting story. When asked him as he belongs to the construction of communism, he replied: "Useless occupation!" He was asked: "Are you against?" - "No, not against, but the occupation is useless!" - "And why?" - "Yes, because the first Christians have already had everything in common, but for a long time they did not hold out!" And then no longer experimented, because it is no longer possible.

So, the comparison is from Serbia, for example, you can somehow understand from this example: if the organization is small, it is easier to arrange everything there.

We also have separate parishes, where there is a real parish life. But geographically in big cities they are dispersed, so everything is more difficult! It concerns parish life.

And if we talk about self-catering, then the saint Feofan rejuvenon said this. He wrote that the spirit of self, the spirit of separation led to the fact that the Western Church separated from Eastern. And then this spirit of the self began to share the Western Church (and Eastern, by the way) to all sorts of national and some other branches. He is trying to divide the church. At first there was one church, then two, then various states arose. Now that neither the city is their own church. And at the end, as they say, it will be like this: "That neither the head is its faith." This was written by Saint Feofan. So it's all predicted. We need to return to the origins, to what was before us.

For example, it was Optina, were, the father of Georgy Cosov ... There were separate lamps with their arrival - we should return to these samples. And there - how will it work out. So it turns out!

- Recently, your new book "How to equip yourself?". Please tell me a little about her.

- This book gathered words said before confession. After all, when the prodigal son "went to the country of distant," after returning to his father, he (as stated in the Gospel) "came to himself." "I came to myself" - that is, he appreciated his life, compared her with the same, and he began his movement to repentance, movement to return to the native house.

This is what is: "Find yourself." About this Father Sergius Mechov said: "You need to find the image of God in yourself." And in each person to see the image of God. Because it was about this that it was stated in the Gospel: "Bleshen's heart is called the Heart, the Yako Tii of God. And not only God they are narrowed - they will see the image of God in each person! Therefore, everything is clean for clean, and for unclean - everything is unclean. And the sign of purity is not to see the sins of other people. And the sign of uncleanness is precisely when we see only the sins of another person.

This image of God - it is necessary to find it in itself, first of all, to gain and restore. Actually, what is education? Education is the recreation in the man of God. This is the first. The second is the ability to think. And only in third place is knowledge. But the first is to restore the image of God, to form! That is, to be perfect, "How my father is perfectly performed"!

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Hello! Tell me, please, is it possible to marry not on the day of marriage? We wanted to get married soon, and play a wedding in a month. For wedding and registration need gold rings? Or is it possible for the wedding to buy rings "save and save", and for registration to buy gold? What finger to wear wedding?

Tatyana

Hello Tatiana! According to the rules of the Church, you will be married only after registration of marriage in the registry office. That is, you can first sign, and then get married, but not the opposite. Rings can be purchased any, in your taste and financial capabilities. It is enough to buy one pair of rings. You can not wear them in the registry office, or just take off before the wedding, and then the father will wear them again.

ieria Vladimir Shllykov

Hello, father! I have such a question if you can get married without married?

Tatyana

Tatiana, honestly, my question is not entirely understood. If you are gaining, you will already be considered a married. If you want to get married without registering in the registry office, it is impossible, it will not be married without registration. This is due to the fact that in the past there were cases of deception and so on. If you want to marvel formally, it is evenly strictly prohibited.

jeromona Victorin (Aseev)

Hello, father! Tell me if my daughter has a second marriage (first, - weddow, - collapsed) and they sign up on August 2 in the registry office, without a wedding, you need to go to the diocese to take permission to paint, or is it permission only for wedding? After a divorce went to the diocese and, as she says, she was told that such permission was needed, only if it was a second time to marry, and no need for painting in the registry office. Did she understand correctly? Thank you!

Svetlana

Svetlana, I think that since you turned to the diocese and received an official answer, this question is closed. Now it is now another: the daughter must do "work on mistakes" so that the marriage does not repeat the fate of the first. To do this, she should think about confession.

archpriest Maxim Hiji.

Batyushka, it happened so that I married a divorced woman. During the first marriage, she was a robust. There is a child from the first marriage (girl). The wife filed a petition in the diocese about the debate, the former husband also agreed. Is it possible to marry us again, or so I have to live a rest of your life in sin?

Alexei

Alexei! Marriage registered in the registry office is not a sin! He is not the top of the marriage, but this is not for the bluff. You have a second marriage, and this is another story. Yes, the gospel condemns the divorce and marriage at the divorced as the path taken by the Old Testament Morality. But Christianity is also life in repentance, corrected itself. The point is not only in shape: it was happening, and now we do not live in a blobe. Live as Christians: Pray together, go to the temple, compete, educate children, keep love and loyalty. Then your family will become a "home church" and the Lord will keep you. Many have achieved in the dioceses of "debuns" and "hanging", but in fact they remained crowded pagans. Be Christians in life.

archpriest Maxim Hiji.

Batyushka, tell me if it is possible to take it on Saturday, sign, sit in a quiet environment in the restaurant, and on Sunday it will hang? How correct?

Nataliya

Natalia, for the church charter, it is impossible to marvel under Sundays, that is, on Saturday. But if you are going to get married on Sunday, you can come on Saturday and you can sign, and sit in the restaurant too. The main thing is to observe yourself in the purity of the body, i.e. in chastity.

jeromona Victorin (Aseev)

Hello, father, my daughter met with a young man who did not really like it, but they did not interfere with their meetings. Suddenly announced that he got married, registered in the registry office, and went to him, after three weeks he was married without us and our blessing. Before the wedding, twice was invited to come to us, and after the wedding again, even in order to bless it all. While there are no answers. Is such a wedding is valid?

Marina

Yes, such a wedding is valid, because for the wedding, a free solution is needed only two people - married. Nevertheless, it is a pity that your communication with his daughter and her husband is not very smooth. Pray that their hearts are softened and your relationship has warmed.

deacon Ilya Cokin

Hello. I'm Tatar, my name is Gulchachak. If I marry Russian, you need to be baptized, and take Orthodoxy. Does the priest will correct me with another name? What - does he choose or can you choose yourself? And you need to go before the wedding or after? How will the baptism process be held? Do I need a godfather?

Gulchachak

Hello, Gulchachak! To begin, you will need to visit several public conversations that are held before baptism in each temple. On these conversations, preparing to accept baptism and the godfather are talking about the Orthodox faith, as well as how the sacrament itself is escalating and what is needed for him. You can choose the name to yourself in the Orthodox calendar, and if you find it difficult to choose from, you can consult with a father who will baptize you. For adults there is no need for a godfather, since you yourself can answer for yourself. And it will be possible to be married after the adoption of the baptism and registration of marriage in the registry office.

ieria Vladimir Shllykov

Hello, father. Please help the Council. In our family there was a terrible tragedy. With her husband lived in a crowned marriage of 20 years, our daughter is 15 years old. In April, my husband was divorced on his initiative. I very much asked to get treasure. But he said that he had no other woman, but from my character, although the quarry was never. A month later, it turned out that he had met with his wife's wife for more than a year, they had two twin daughters for 7 years. I am the godfather of these girls and my brother's wife. After everyone learned the truth, they had to move to a private apartment, now they live together. It was insanely hard to transfer it all, and me, and daughters, and my parents. The brother could not stand it, died in June. The husband today wrote a message that he wants to debunk, and I need to sign a petition. How to live with such a cargo, and what to do with the debate? I ask your advice.

Svetlana

Dear Svetlana! Your marriage has already collapsed in fact. But I do not think that in the presence of such problems (spiritual and moral and blood relations, married treason, etc.) Your husband (if he wants) will receive permission to repeated church marriage. You need to pray to God, ask him for help and consolation, rely on loved ones. God forbid your ex-husband repentance. Pray for him.

archpriest Maxim Hiji.

Hello, bless! Uncle of my husband - father. My husband and I are registered in the registry office, but not crowned. The husband wants the wedding to make his uncle, but the arrival on which he serves is very far away, we have no opportunity to go there. Uncle comes to our city, and we wanted to get married at home, is it possible, and whether such a wedding is valid? Thank you.

Catherine

God's blessing! The uncle of your husband may ask the rector of any temple in your city, or the ruling bishop, so that he can intervene the nephew in the temple. Let the uncle bother in advance about the certificate from the diocese, where he serves, in which it will be indicated that he is really a cleric of such a diocese and does not have canonical prospects for making services. I think he will be allowed to marry a nephew in the temple. As for the wedding at home, it will be illegal, since the commitment of the demand in another diocese without permission is prohibited. God bless you!

archpriest Andrei Efanov

Good day! In the process of committing the mystery of the wedding, the priest did not ask us about the consent of each other for marriage. Although I know that when weddings, such a question is set. Tell me, is it a omission of a priest or just abbreviated chin? Will our wedding be invalid? I will add that for me this is the second marriage (for the first one), I received the permission of the ruling bishop, and there it was written to make the sacrament in the first rank. Thank you.

Igor

Igor, according to the existing rules, the priest was to talk with you to confession about marriage. This is an essential wedding condition. Was the confession, was there a conversation? During the marriage in the chin-survey, the question is asked by the question: "Do you have a good intention and casual" get married or marry. It is impossible to cut anything here. It is possible that from excitement you forgot about these words. But even if we assume the worst that the priest for some reason reduced the rank, then the sacrament was made. The most important actions in the ranks are the laying of crowns on the spouses and the words "Glovia and Cement Vedeny". In addition, your participation in the sacrament implies consent to marriage.

archpriest Maxim Hiji.

Hello! I have such a terrible and unpleasant situation: I have a wedded marriage with a former husband - can we be promoted? And how is it done? I went to the wedding, not realizing all the importance of this step, only because it was a condition from a husband for marriage. For nine years of collaboration, we diverged and converged, the husband began to abuse alcohol, smoking herbs. My presence in our family turned out to be unnecessary (just an empty attitude). The result - I sinned, changed him. Having learned about this, in rabies, he beat me badly - the hospital, the police, the courts ... I was submitted for divorce. A year after all the events, I met the person with whom we were painted. Life has improved. Not that, we wanted to get married, but that cargo that I was wedd, does not give me peace. How to live with it?

Irina

Dear Irina! It is necessary to write a petition about the blessing for the entry into the second marriage, find out in the diocesan management, how to write and where to carry. Having received permission, you can get married (take a response from the diocese to the temple). Help the Lord.

ieria Sergiy Osipov

Good day. Batyushka, I have such a question for you. My young man with my young man very much love each other and want to live all my life together. My parents are against him and forbid to meet him. We want to get married with him, without registering a marriage in the registry office, since the spiritual unity is more important for us. I am 18, and your favorite 21. Tell me, can I get it so much? We understand all the seriousness of this step. Thanks in advance.

Catherine

Unfortunately or fortunately, the church is not taken to be vented without registration. If your relationships will withstand the test time, then parents will be able to get used to your choice and change their attitude to your chosen one. Incemakes and strengthen you the Lord.

deacon Ilya Cokin

Good day! Please tell me, I have a wedding soon, we asked the parents to buy icons for blessings at the wedding. In the church, the priest said that the rite passes only when they are wary, is it?

Vitaly

Vitaly, you can buy icons in advance. With these icons of you with the bride before you go to the temple, your parents will bless, and then, already in the temple, the priest will bless you at the end of the wedding. God bless you!

igumen Nikon (Golovko)

Good day. Is it possible to pray for the preservation of the family (weddings) if the husband left his wife?

Yulia

Hello Julia! Of course, it is possible to pray for the preservation of a family.

ieria Vladimir Shllykov

Good day. I was married, my husband insisted for a long time on weddings, we were crowned. A few years later, her husband went away. Then in a month we divorced. A year later I saw him with another woman. I wore, I was given a decision. But I do not feel free. Explain to me, please, do you really have been promoted, or this paper is the result of our modern society?

Yulia

Hello Julia. Development does not exist. You were given a blessing for the second marriage. That is, you as the affected side, left by the spouse, have the right to join the second marriage and to the church blessing of this marriage, if you wish to enter into it.

ieria Alexander Beloslud

Hello, Igumen Nikon (Golovko), Christ Risen! Tell me, please, where are the wedding icons in the house? Found information that wedding candles need to carefully store all his life and light them with prayer in heavy moments of life, is it? Explain, be kind, which means Treka and at what moments it is ordered in the church? Approximately 2 months ago, I said that if I got it started, I will give my gold chain for the church. The case came out, with the help of the Lord, but how to do it, I do not know! Just put it in the boxes for laying possible? Please answer me to El. Address, thank you! Thank you for everything! God bless you!

Svetlana

Svetlana, the wedding icons should be put in red angle, together with all other icons, you can even at the head of the corner. As for the candles, you were told correctly, they can be lit on prayer in difficult life moments. Trebami is called those worships - prayers, memorials, the sacraments of baptism, weddings, confession and others - who are committed at the request, the requirement of parishioners. As for your donation, it is best to give it personally in hand to the abbot of the temple or an older.

igumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello! Please tell me whether it is possible to marry before entering into the registry? We with a young man know each other since childhood, fell in love with each other from 12 years. Now almost 7 years have passed. Always loved each other, but at the same time parted for a while. Now we want to just get married, as more believe in church marriage than in the state. We have no mothers in both. They died. I read that without registration of a marriage in the registry office we won't marry us.

Victoria

Hello, Victoria! According to the existing church rules, it is impossible to marry without painting in the registry office. Our church recognizes marriage registered by the state, legal marriage. In my opinion, the painting in the registry office is not a particularly difficult procedure, and if you are people believers and are really going to create a strong Orthodox family, then be responsible: register the marriage first in government agencies, and then get out to consecrate your union by God's blessing.

ieria Vladimir Shllykov

Hello, father! After 2 months, we will have a wedding, and we want to be married, but the parents of the groom against it, since they believe that it is necessary to marry after several years of marriage, because "divorce easier than debunk." My parents blesses us and support. Tell me, please, are the right of the parents of the groom and will not be an interference for the wedding lack of their blessing?

Anna

Hello Anna! Family life, of course, you need to start with church blessing, that is, from the wedding. An Orthodox person has a marriage must be one for life. If you start life with a loaf on how easier to divorce, then not to create a full-fledged family with such a set. Moreover, the decision should receive you and your groom, since the responsibility for the decision taken will also bear you, and not parents. If the parents of the groom are not so believers so that everyone understands and bless you to wedding, then in this case it is better not to listen to them. Subsequently, they, I think they will change my opinion, and now it is better to insist on my own.

ieria Vladimir Shllykov

Hello, father! I am tormented by sin. We meet with a young man for 3 years. Soon we want to get married and get married. He says that before the wedding we must tell each other all the sins that were for these 3 years, which we hide apart. Otherwise we will not be able to get married. I have such a sin - I kissed myself for my birthday, but only kissed, it turned out because of alcohol. I go to church, met, repent, sorry. I love my young man very much and I want to get married with him. Tell me, Batyushka, should I tell him about this sin? I am afraid that he will throw me, I am very afraid to lose it. If I took it, confessed, told another father, can we get married with him? What do i do? Thank you in advance.

Milena

Hello, Milena. You need to know that confession in the Orthodox Church is secret. Public confession was practiced in the first decades of the history of the Church, but because of the temptations arising, was banned. It is believed that the priest on his debt is obliged to keep the secret of confession, however, this duty is charged not only to the priest who takes confession, but also by the tricky Christian. If some sins remember useful for humble themselves with a reminder of their unnecessary, the prodigal sins cannot be remembered in any way, due to their properties to resume their effect in the shower. In front of another person, open repeated and confessional sins can be opened only in exceptional cases, if it is just known that this example will serve as an edification. And for this you need to have a discondressing. The prodigal sins open categorically impossible. And in general, do not be concise, and do not encourage imperidity. The fact that you may be doubted by the ability of the sacrament of confession to clean the soul from sin, like second baptism, should also be confessed. Help you God.

ieria Alexander Beloslud