Men are not without mystery, just like women. True, upon closer examination, the veil of mystery melts away. For example, a man who is in love but hides his feelings is an interesting object for analysis.
You can understand that a man is in love by certain signs, but how can you do this if he carefully hides his feelings? We'll figure it out!
Why can he hide his sympathy?
There are not many reasons. He:
- married;
- doesn't want to look weak;
- afraid of being rejected;
- he himself is shocked by what happened to him;
- believes that at his age it is inconvenient.
Of course, all guys are different - in terms of psychotype, horoscope, upbringing, education, habitat. This affects the behavioral aspect. And yet there are common moments that give away someone who has fallen in love.
He is changing. Sometimes sharply. Often awkward.
The brave, impulsive handsome man suddenly becomes quiet and embarrassed. At times he blushes and hides his gaze.
A calm, quiet nerd, seemingly for no reason, begins to play tricks: he is ready to jump from a roof into a snowdrift, sing with a guitar, get drunk and party in a nightclub.
There is only one diagnosis: fell in love.
Signs
Let's look at the specific signs of a guy in love pretending that nothing is happening.
By look
Love makes the unfortunate always look at the object of your affection. She attracts him like a magnet, and he is unable to resist. He can't control himself.
Well, perhaps - he works in the secret services, has psychological training and enormous willpower. And still, sooner or later it will puncture. The call of nature is stronger.
By noticing how he looks, you can easily understand whether a man is in love with you! Admiringly. This can be seen from the outside. The young man himself may not even realize that sparkles of admiration flow from his eyes.
He examines the woman as a whole, in parts - admires every movement, bend of her body. Often unconsciously the gaze freezes on the lips. He watches in fascination as she says something, smiles, licks her lips. He looks and feels bliss.
Some subjects, especially those with a high level of intelligence, are aware that looking at their beloved with wide open eyes is indecent.
They begin to “encrypt”—they cast sidelong glances, look at you on the sly. But since they do this often, they also give themselves away.
Clothing and appearance
One hundred percent - having fallen in love, the guy begins to preen himself, often look in the mirror. More often than necessary, he splashes around in the shower, obsessively examining his teeth, pimples, and the color of his mustache hairs.
The dude will buy himself a few more branded items, a scarf or a cool watch.
Anyone who has always cared about fashion and brands will definitely wash his jeans, take new socks out of the closet, or will think about purchasing a fresh shirt, jacket(“The old one is worn out for some reason”).
The guy will polish his shoes (or wash away last year's dirt from his sneakers and wipe the former white inserts with toothpaste). Goes to the hairdresser.
Another a clear sign- perfume. If a representative of the stronger sex suddenly smells fragrant - eau de toilette, lotion, deodorant, cologne - fact: he fell in love.
In an emotionally agitated state, both women and men almost always abuse perfume.
Psychology of behavior
Behavior may become unstable. He is sometimes thoughtfully sad, sometimes tenderly lyrical, sometimes excitedly relaxed. Suddenly he will remember Blok, Tsvetaeva, or, at worst, an excerpt from “Eugene Onegin” he learned at school.
Describe some theorem in an intricate and masterly manner. He will talk about lofty things - opera, ballet, the philosophy of the ancient Greeks...
And then, as if nothing had happened, he will tell a couple of obscene jokes, replacing obscene phrases with interjections.
Will become attentive to the lady of your heart. He will spiritually delve into all her meaningless maxims.
And if she is smart and meaningful, she will Google the incomprehensible phrases she dropped so that in the next conversation she will “be on topic.”
If, unfortunately for him, a lady has a deep inner world, she starts reading the classics and gets carried away fine arts. She can go on skates or skis if her beloved spends her leisure time that way.
More often than before, he finds reasons to be close to a woman who blows his mind. He comes up with things to do together, offers to help with the housework, accompany the car to the tire shop, or go pick up seedlings. He suddenly has two tickets to a ballet, a concert, a biennale.
But then it can suddenly disappear for several hours, or even days. Doesn't write, doesn't call. By the way, as the most unpleasant option, he drinks it down. Then he comes out of the binge, washes, shave, irons his jeans. The woman is surprised. Becomes softer and more attentive. He really needs this, he is spreading his wings again.
Sometimes it is important for a person to touch the object of adoration. But this is not always possible. You can understand that a man has fallen in love by this sign - he finds a reason to casually touch his arm, shoulder, waist.
Body and gestures
They can also give away a lover, no matter how hard he tries to disguise himself. Often his body is tense or even constrained.
Pay attention to your hands - excitement will give off tremors. A lover's hands often tremble from excitement or embarrassment. Palms become wet.
He crosses his arms over his chest - an attempt to “close himself”. And then, on the contrary, he suddenly opens up, straightens his shoulders and shows off his whole body- that’s how handsome I am.
And, indeed, at such a moment, the women nearby involuntarily gasp - oh, good! With your hands, as a rule, at such a moment the guy holds on to his belt or trouser waistband.
It is important for him (usually unconsciously) to demonstrate a significant part of his body, the masculine basis of the foundations. And women involuntarily “read” this.
If the adrenaline is off the charts, and the time has not yet come to reveal your feelings, he will sign up for a gym. However, almost every second person decides to pump up their muscles - they really want to be attractive.
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Energy
Always in love filled with sexual energy. It literally bursts it open and spreads around.
If a woman is not observant, but has good intuition, she will definitely feel it. Masculine energy will make her worry for no reason.
She will become anxious and call her loved ones, looking for the cause of her anxiety. If he doesn’t find a reason, he will start to get irritated, even angry. Then he gets tired.
But the anxiety will not go away while the lover is in her information field. Some particularly emotional specimens and capable of transmitting their powerful energy from a distance.
Just as some ladies are able to read it while being away from a loving knight.
These conditions, it must be emphasized, are quite uncomfortable. It’s especially difficult when you don’t understand what’s actually happening. This problem can only be solved in one way - the guy will reveal his feelings, and everything will happen between them.
What should a woman do?
If you notice the above signs in a man - a friend, colleague, neighbor, or just an acquaintance - take a closer look and just accept the fact that someone has fallen in love with you.
If you allow the relationship to develop, show reciprocal attention.
You don't allow– married, don’t like the subject, don’t care about love – anyway, don’t offend the man, don’t hurt him with rudeness and callousness.
On the one hand, men are very vulnerable.
On the other hand, just think: you are loved!
Even if hiding the feeling, even hopelessly. But, my God, it’s such happiness to be loved.
Not everyone is so lucky. Feel it, rejoice. And support the man whom Cupid kissed.
It’s not for nothing that they say that a woman and a man are from different planets: they think, feel and express their feelings in different ways. At that moment when a woman strives with every fiber of her body to serious relationship, man - keeps an emotional distance, trying to hide his feelings.
Sometimes it seems to you on a subconscious level that he is in love with you, but for some reason he does not admit it. Why stronger sex Is it natural to hide your feelings? What prevents him from crossing the line and entering into a serious relationship? And how can you even recognize that this guy is not indifferent to you? Let's try to figure it out.
A woman simply needs to realize that she is loved and appreciated. Tender words, passionate hugs, beautiful deeds Every girl needs them like air. Without expressions of feelings, she simply languishes, and at any stage of the relationship.
There may be many reasons why he does not confess his feelings to you. Let's look at the most common ones.
Fear of being rejected. Even a successful, self-sufficient and self-confident man sometimes becomes timid and shy. Fearing that his sympathy will not be mutual, he will prefer to pretend that he is completely indifferent to you.
The habit of living alone. He's just used to it bachelor life. A sort of independent alpha male, he likes to live this way, and he is not going to change his foundations and habits for your sake.
Bad experience. Perhaps your chosen one will not admit his feelings because he experienced a difficult breakup. Men who have such experience in their lives often try not to constrain themselves with serious obligations.
Restraint in emotions. This is a kind of stereotype that a man should be restrained and not emotional in any matter. All high feelings, be it sympathy or love, are perceived as weakness. And since a man is the stronger sex, he will try not to show interest in you until the last moment. Especially so as not to become known as a weakling among your friends.
Uncertainty about your feelings. If the guy himself can’t figure out what he feels for you - fleeting sympathy or high feelings, then you definitely can’t expect any confessions in the near future.
Fear of becoming henpecked. A representative of the stronger sex often has a fear that if he confesses his love, then his chosen one will begin to manipulate him and take advantage of his feelings.
Method of protection. In fact, guys are sensitive, and sometimes very vulnerable. Therefore, the secrecy of feelings in this case can be regarded as a kind of armor that protects a sensitive nature.
Psychological fact!
At the moment of conquering a woman, a man experiences a large release of endorphins, and he experiences a feeling similar to euphoria. And when a woman needs to move to a more serious level of relationship, the man experiences stress and physiological discomfort. This is why men often run away from serious relationships.
A man in love is one who loves to look at a woman asleep and enjoy her from time to time.
Frederic Beigbeder
Signs of a man falling in love
If you try in vain to find hidden meaning in certain actions of a man, if you try to see in his eyes feelings that he does not admit, then pay attention to his behavior next to you. And although every man is individual, there are still some common signs of falling in love. Let's take a closer look at them.
Takes care of his appearance
If a man begins to be more meticulous about his appearance - go to the gym, pay attention to more attention your hairstyle, dress up, and he smells of expensive perfume, then you can be sure that he is not indifferent to you!
Talks a lot about himself
As soon as he starts to fall in love with you, you will immediately learn a lot of new things about him, and about your many positive qualities he will tell you himself. A man, like a peacock, begins to “fluff his tail” and do everything to please his chosen one.
If he told you about all his achievements, talked about the noble deed he committed, played the guitar and recited a poem he learned in the third grade - rest assured, his thoughts are only occupied with you!
Shows concern
For a man in love, a woman is a crystal vessel that he protects day and night. He has an irresistible desire to help and take care of his companion. So if a guy on a cool spring evening, as if by chance, threw his jacket over your shoulders - this is a good sign!
Thinking about material well-being
Has the man started to think about financial stability? It is likely that the thought of starting a family crept into his head.
When I don't say anything it's good sign: That means I'm timid. And when I’m timid, it’s a very good sign: it means I’m embarrassed. And when I’m embarrassed, it’s a very good sign: it means I’m in love. But when I fall in love, it's a very bad sign.
Frederic Beigbeder
In addition to clearly expressed indifference, a man can be betrayed by unconscious signs. He can deceive you and hide his sincere feelings, but he certainly will not be able to deceive body language. Remember, he may not admit anything to you at all; his postures, facial expressions and gestures will tell him everything he thinks about you.
Psychological fact!
A person in love has unstable behavior. The mood constantly changes - from sadness and thoughtfulness to joy and fun.
Sign language of a man in love
The body of a man in love always looks a little tense and constrained.
He is often shy and worried, and a sign of this will be shaking hands and sweaty palms.
A man involuntarily tries to demonstrate his body - he straightens his shoulders, showing off and thereby attracting the woman’s attention.
If a woman attracts him sexually, then during the period of communication with her he will begin to touch his thighs every now and then and put his hands on the belt.
When talking to the woman he loves, a man almost always tries to reduce the distance on a subconscious level. With or without reason, he tries to get closer, penetrating personal space.
The look of a man in love
Unconscious glances of a guy in love towards his object of adoration. If a young man is interested in a girl, then he will admire her. And realizing that it is simply indecent to look at a woman so closely, he, like a teenager, will hide his gaze and avert his eyes.
So if your companion is not a special agent, then you will definitely notice how he looks at you, unconsciously lingering his gaze on your lips. And even though these glances will seem to be on the sly, you will still definitely notice them, since they will be very frequent.
I believe! These eyes don't lie. After all, how many times have I told you that your main mistake is that you underestimate the value of human eyes. Understand that the tongue can hide the truth, but the eyes can never!
Mikhail Afanasyevich Bulgakov
If people immediately confessed their feelings to each other, life might become easier. But also more boring. A little observation will help you identify the “undercover agent.”
Men are straightforward and purposeful creatures. They won’t hide their feelings for a long time, so why waste time? But in some cases they prefer not to advertise their love. The reason may be the most banal: either the man himself or the object of his love is in a relationship. Or the lover fears rejection. Or maybe he is afraid of losing control and becoming vulnerable. Perhaps a person is shy by nature, or his instinct of conqueror is covered with a thick layer of moral rules and decency (for example, he considers office romances unethical).
But feelings are difficult to hide. There are signs that reveal someone who is head over heels in love. Each man has his own set of such signs. We can highlight the most common symptoms that are characteristic of the majority of males.
- A man shows concern for the object of his love. Guardianship may be almost invisible at first glance and unobtrusive, but over time, even the most absent-minded woman will see who constantly helps her out with a report, gives her a ride home, brings coffee and turns on the air conditioner in the heat. How to accurately understand that a man is head over heels in love, but is hiding and hiding his warm feelings? If his actions go beyond ordinary etiquette (hold the door, help carry heavy things, etc.), we are talking about sincere interest.
- A man in love is attentive to the words of his chosen one. He filters rational information and subsequently uses it to conquer the lady of his heart (what flowers he likes, what movie made an impression, what dishes he hates, what is the name of his favorite cat, etc.). He also laughs at a woman’s jokes, even the not so successful ones.
- Usually a man in love discovers the gift of comedy. He strives to make a woman laugh in any situation, because her laughter is a subconscious approval. A man likes to bring good emotions to his beloved. In addition, an excellent sense of humor always attracts attention in any company, and this is what a man needs now.
- A man in a state of love is ready to move mountains and fulfill any request of a woman. Even if he had other plans. Even if it is difficult and expensive for him. A person who is not interested in a relationship is unlikely to travel across the city to save his beloved cat who has climbed a tree. And she won’t cancel the long-awaited weekend with friends if she asked to take the seedlings to the dacha that day.
- A man can change his behavior and habits, do things that are unusual for him. A sure sign if friends and colleagues noticed these changes (usually expressed in phrases like “He used to be different, more modest/arrogant”, “Lately N doesn’t look like himself!” He hated sports, but now he runs to the gym every morning the hall has signed up"). Did everyone notice the “weirdness”? So the woman didn’t imagine it.
- A man begins to pay more attention to his appearance. This is an ancient instinct, characteristic of all living things, to attract attention with one’s appearance. Some straighten their tails, others flare their nostrils and beat their broad chests, while others suddenly start wearing shirts instead of stretched sweaters or finally change their hairstyle. Fashionistas are becoming even more inventive. All in order to attract the eyes of the lady of the heart.
- He is more often in good mood, smiles. Falling in love really works wonders, releasing “hormones of joy” into the blood.
- Almost always, a man’s gaze gives him away. He cannot overcome the temptation and not look at the woman who has conquered him. And he admires it furtively. Outside observers can come to the rescue: let them test how often and for how long a man holds his gaze on a woman.
- He allows a woman into his personal space without any problems, and does not try to move away or close himself off. Becomes more frank with the interlocutor, shares dreams and stories from the past. Sometimes in confidential conversations you can hear the phrase: “I haven’t told anyone about this before.”
- Sometimes a man makes a slip of the tongue, accidentally calling other women by the name of his beloved. Such reservations show how much his thoughts are filled with women.
- A man begins to involuntarily become jealous of his chosen one towards other representatives of the stronger sex. This does not manifest itself clearly, because the lover realizes that for now he has no rights to this woman. But in the presence of other men, he can speak a little louder and harsher, even defiantly. In public, she strives to be nearby, to hold her hand or touch her back - that is, to give a nonverbal sign to others: “this is my girlfriend.”
- A man strives to be around more often. He can come up with things to do together or simulate situations when a woman needs his help. It depends on temperament and upbringing, but, as a rule, a lover strives for physical contact: a light touch, a squeeze, a chance meeting of hands.
- Gestures and facial expressions can declassify a lover. Often a man feels embarrassed when a lady of his heart unexpectedly turns to him. This manifests itself in awkward movements. The man pulls or strokes his hair, often touching his ear or chin. In general, there is no need to be good psychologist to notice the excitement.
How to understand that a man is seriously carried away? He is in love, but skillfully hides his fiery feelings if he listens to the woman’s opinion and is more often inclined to compromise. He can argue with his friends until he is hoarse. However, he does not object to the woman on the same occasion.
No matter how well a man hides under the mask of iron equanimity, he cannot resist female intuition and insight. The main thing for a woman is to objectively evaluate all the signs, and not take her fantasies for reality.
Why do men hide their feelings? This question worries many of us. I so want the chosen one to demonstrate his love with all his might, speak tender words, shower him with fragrant flowers... But he, such a blockhead, frowns, is silent, gives flowers only on holidays, and even then it seems not very willingly... And besides, he rarely calls and sends SMS. How to understand this behavior?
A man does not show his feelings: reasons for secrecy
Our loved ones often behave like insensitive idols, not knowing what heartfelt feelings are. But if a man hides his feelings, a woman begins to doubt these feelings. Give her tender hugs and kind words! Without them, we begin to be tormented by jealousy, doubts, and suspicions. There's nothing you can do, that's how the weaker sex works. He needs constant proof of love. When they are gone, it somehow becomes cold and lonely. No, it’s as if it’s difficult to say once again: “You are the best!” and send a romantic message! Can't he do it?Well, actually, it really can't. Because:
- A real man is supposed to behave this way. In our society, it is customary for only women to be sensual and emotional. And this society turns its nose up at overly expansive men. In reality strong half of humanity is no less emotional than the weak. But she shouldn’t demonstrate this. In addition, for some reason men have gotten it into their heads that most of us like daring, cynical, desperate and callous guys. So they try their best to look like such thick-skinned types;
- A man hides his feelings so that the woman does not understand how much he is in love with her. Because for men, the concept of “in love” is equivalent to the concept of “weak”. Which of the stronger sex voluntarily admits to being weak? And men are also sure that women very quickly lose interest in their partner when they find out about the true depth of his feelings. It seems like the classic: “What smaller woman we love, the more she likes us.” So they pretend to “love little”;
- Men are afraid to show their dependence on a woman. They do not want to be controlled, but want personal freedom. Even if deep down they dream of spending every minute with their beloved. Smart man understands - if a woman realizes the full breadth and strength of his love, he can turn into an object of her manipulation. And then - goodbye, freedom. March under your heels!
- Men strive to maintain interest in themselves among the fair sex. If they hide their feelings away, don’t call, don’t constantly talk about love, then it’s as if they’re hiding behind a veil of secrecy. And this excites curiosity among representatives of the fairer sex. And makes you constantly think about your partner;
- Men are very vulnerable, so they are afraid to be completely frank and find themselves completely defenseless. In truth, we often unnecessarily hurt those who love us! And if we are also confident in this love, we can even deliberately hurt a person.
Well, okay, we'll say. What should women do then, since for them a demonstration of love is as necessary as air? Otherwise, they begin to feel very uncomfortable. 
What should a woman do if her lover does not show his feelings?
How should a woman behave when her boyfriend hides his feelings? The main thing is not to pester him with the eternal question “Do you love me?”, adding “Tell me how you love me!” Firstly, a man is more likely to say “I want you” than “I love you.” And his dry “Yes” in response will not reassure him at all. Rather, it will upset you and make you doubt the sincerity of your feelings. And secondly, the chosen one may simply get tired of such brainwashing. And then, instead of a laconic “Yes,” we will one day hear a whole tirade addressed to us. But its meaning will not be love.In general, when a man does not show his feelings, you need to treat this with understanding. The stronger sex is convinced that they are evidenced by his actions, desire to take care of a woman, attention to her problems. Why add anything else? This male position makes sense. After all, the tongue is without bones, and you can say a lot to your friend kind words not difficult at all. But doing something significant for her is much more difficult. So let our dear halves better hide their feelings, remaining reliable and faithful. With this, they will give a hundred points ahead to any balabol, who first pours out tender words, like peas from a bag, and then evaporates from life like a mirage.
As practice shows, a man does not always openly demonstrate his feelings. But the woman is incredibly curious about how the young man treats her. It's not difficult to find out if you know some tricks. Let's try to figure out how a man hides his feelings for a woman, and what his motive is for this.
Five most important reasons
Men, like women, can be very unpredictable. Sometimes their behavior is simply baffling. And all because men and women think differently. Representatives of the fair sex believe that they must be sought after. But if a man does not take steps towards him, does this mean that the lady is indifferent to him? Of course not. If a man is in love, but hides his feelings, he apparently has his own reasons for this. The most common ones include the following:
- he is married to someone else
- not ready for a serious relationship,
- afraid of rejection
- doesn't want to look weak.
In fact, all the motives except one are quite obvious. It is the latter that causes a lot of bewilderment among the fair sex. Why weak? It's very simple. For women, love is a wonderful and strong feeling that everyone wants to experience. But some men tend to believe that no feeling should prevail over them. But what if they are still overwhelmed by love for a girl? Then, of course, they try to hide it in every possible way. In most cases, they do this on purpose.
How does a man hide his feelings for a woman? Everything is very simple - he constantly controls himself: his words, actions. But is it possible to hide absolutely all the signs? Of course, this is incredibly difficult, and yet some details help to recognize a man’s sympathy.
In love or not?
If you ask yourself this question many times, it means that you are most likely not sure of a man’s feelings. In order to understand what is really going on in his head, you should watch him carefully. And this must be done precisely when you are nearby. Despite the fact that men are strong and morally stable, they are not always able to hide their sympathy for a girl. And what’s most interesting is that the more he tries not to show it, the closer he is to exposure. Despite a man’s best attempts to hide his feelings, the signs will definitely give him away.
He will definitely try to look better. Most men don't pay too much attention to their appearance, until they fall in love. Immediately everything in their life changes. They carefully dry their shoes before a date and buy a couple of new things. Another important nuance- perfume. Both women and men, trying to look stunning, spray too much on themselves. eau de toilette. If your friend goes through all these steps, most likely he is not indifferent to you.
Why do guys hide their feelings?
For many girls, it is completely unclear why men do this. Love is a wonderful feeling, so why not shout it to everyone? Men's logic is structured somewhat differently. They don't like being pressured. On the one hand, every man is a conqueror, and on the other, doubts do not allow him to act as his heart dictates. A girl cannot hide her emotions the way a man hides his feelings for a woman. And this is also explained by the fact that everyone experiences sympathy differently. The girl falls in love. She forgets about everything in the world: about friends, studies and work. All thoughts are focused on only one thing.
Men are more calm and practical. The guy liked the girl. To begin with, he will evaluate all her advantages and disadvantages and analyze the prospects for the relationship. At the same time, he can calmly work or communicate with friends. While he is in thought, the man hides his feelings. How can you tell if this is happening? It’s only he who thinks that nothing is noticeable. But in fact, you can find out everything based on the following tips.
Eyes are the mirror of the soul
As you know, the look reveals a person first of all. And so the first thing you should pay attention to is his eyes. Men who hide their feelings usually cannot stand a girl's gaze for a long time. Try to look him straight in the eyes and at the same time mentally ask him: “Do you like me?” You will see the answer for yourself. If he becomes embarrassed and looks away, most likely, yes, but if he holds his gaze and looks in bewilderment, most likely he has a different interest in you.
It is also important how a man looks at a woman. If he feels sympathy for her, then when he looks at her his pupils dilate. Men love with their eyes, and therefore they can for a long time look at the object of your desire. If you accidentally notice that a man is constantly watching you from the side, he undoubtedly likes you.
Drastic changes
You can always tell when a man is in love. A strong release of hormones leads to a sharp change in behavior. For example, a well-groomed, very sociable and self-confident handsome man suddenly becomes timid and unsure of himself. And most often, a sharp change occurs precisely at the sight of the object of love. Or, on the contrary, a quiet, calm and reasonable guy suddenly begins to do unpredictable things and becomes just a tomboy. All this can be explained quite simply. When a man sees his beloved, a huge set of chemicals: adrenaline, pheromones, dopamine, etc. They are the ones who radically change human behavior.
Lack of emotions
Many women think that men are less emotional. But that's not true. Regardless of gender and age, almost all people experience a range of different emotions throughout their lives. But it’s men who manage to hide them best. This is a way to show your strength, courage and will. And since many representatives of the fair sex do not understand why and how a man hides his feelings for a woman, many couples do not reunite. The girl thinks that the guy is indifferent to her and therefore does not show herself, and he, in turn, carries his affection for her somewhere deep in his heart.
Considering all of the above, we can conclude that if you do not see emotions in a man, this does not mean that they do not exist. And the same is true with feelings. A man may think that hiding his relationship with a girl is very courageous. In addition, some men need time to think about how to express themselves, what to say, how not to get rejected. And perhaps, while you are tormented by the question of why a man hides his feelings for a woman, he is almost ready to act.
How to find out about your partner's feelings?
This question is very important for every girl. I would like to find out as soon as possible how the man treats her. It’s best if he’s just crazy about the girl. Then she will be able to successfully manipulate him. Of course, representatives of the fair sex really like men to look after them, give gifts, and not give way. What happens in the opposite situation? If a man hides his feelings for a woman with indifference, she literally begins to go crazy. Women's pride has been greatly damaged. And men know this very well.
This is a great way to win a girl's attention. As a rule, in this case, men act on the same principle. At the first stages, the partner is very polite, open, he invites you for walks and gives flowers. It's nice to talk to him about everything in the world. But he deliberately delays this stage. While the girl can’t wait to be kissed, the guy is telling her funny stories with all his might. From the outside it seems that the relationship is just friendly and the girl is already losing all hope, but in fact the man is in love, but hides his feelings. The signs will be as follows:
- he constantly tries to cheer her up,
- often located at a fairly close distance,
- practically does not take his eyes off the girl,
- When a rival appears, he becomes very jealous.
If you observe all this about your young man, he is definitely not indifferent to you. It remains only to find out why he hesitates. And this should be done extremely carefully.
What to do if he hides his feelings?
At the initial stage of a relationship, many girls make serious mistakes. They begin to ask their partner about his feelings. The question: “Do you love me?” sounds so often that a man simply gets tired of it. You should remember one simple rule: a guy will only talk about his feelings when he is ready for it. Excessive persistence and questioning will lead to the fact that even the sympathy that already exists will disappear. If you don't know how to understand a man's hidden feelings, you shouldn't ask him about them. There are other ways to find out the truth.
Nonverbal communication
Have you ever wondered how psychologists so quickly determine when a person is lying and when he is telling the truth? An experienced specialist will tell you with exact certainty within 10-15 minutes something about a person that others do not see. In fact, it all lies in the fact that every psychologist knows body language well.
In the process of communication, a person uses almost the entire body. The position of his arms, legs, gaze, facial expressions - all this helps him express his emotions. And what’s most interesting is that sometimes the body “says” something completely different from what we hear from our lips. For example, a person is asked: “Do you trust me? Everything is fine?". He nods his head, smiles and replies that he has no reason to doubt. But if at the same time his arms are tightly crossed in front of him, this clearly indicates that the person is in a defensive position. He does not trust the interlocutor and thus protects himself from him.
With the help of body language you can find out how your partner feels about you. Signs of a man’s hidden feelings are easy to notice if you are more attentive.
The most important indicator of emotions
Have you ever noticed how some people actively gesture with their hands when telling a story? It is this part of the body that so often helps determine what a person is really thinking about.
- Hands crossed in front of you - the man is defending himself from you, this is a defensive position.
- Constantly touching his face - such gestures mean that the person is very sincere towards the interlocutor, or, in any case, is trying to show it.
- Touching a lady is another cunning trick of men. In this way they show that they are vying for the lady. Interestingly, most often they do this completely by accident.
- A man who straightens his clothes definitely wants to please his lady. He is a little worried that he is not worthy of her, and, nervous, constantly pulls himself together.
- Active gestures indicate that the man treats his interlocutor well. He trusts her and is completely open to her.
What can facial expressions tell you?
Many women do not know that many emotions and feelings can be determined by the face. When a person is sincere, his eyes and smile become one. On the contrary, if he is lying, they will enter into dissonance. A man may smile widely, but you will see anger or sadness in his eyes. This is the guy to watch out for. If a man has a crush on a woman and hides his feelings, then when communicating with her, the corners of his lips will be slightly raised, and his eyes will sparkle with joy.
Let's say, using the experience from this article, you find out that your close friend I'm crazy about you. But he is still silent about it. His gestures, facial expressions, actions - everything gives him away, but why does a man hide his feelings for a woman if everything is already known? And the guys are real conspirators. And even if you push him to the wall with questions, you may not get the answer you want.
And therefore you should not do this. Try to switch. Have fun together, chat, joke. Show him that you are interested in your partner, but do not speak openly about your feelings and do not demand it from him. He will take the first step when he is completely ready for it.
As a last resort, you can try to make your partner jealous. It will be good if another man appears on the horizon who is not indifferent to you. Most often, the fear of losing a loved one overcomes the fear of being rejected, and the guy takes a step forward. But you can’t overdo it here either. If a man is weak-willed, he may lose you to his rival.
Married men
Of course, at the beginning of dating it is quite difficult to determine whether a man likes you or not. He may be secretive and not talkative, but at the same time a girl can be very attractive to a man. Another thing - married man. It looks quite simple. After all, the wedding has already passed. Can a married man hide his feelings for a woman in this case? It turns out that it can, and this is a fairly common occurrence. Married women often ask the question: “Does he love me?” And psychology has its own explanation for this.
We have already found out the first factor. Men rarely show their emotions and feelings, and this is a fact. In addition, a married man has many more responsibilities. He's like a real man, must make sure that the family has enough money so that the wife can afford to wear beautiful things. And if a couple also has children, the responsibilities become many times greater. A man is immersed in work and at the same time devotes less and less time to his family. All his thoughts are occupied with this. This is a fairly common situation when a married man hides his feelings for a woman and immerses himself in work.
But there is also the other side of the coin - a man may simply not be interested in his wife, he could have another, and the feelings may have faded away long ago. Many women understand this and are naturally very worried.
Test: loves or not
It’s quite simple to understand that a man is hiding his feelings and that he really cares about you. To do this, you just need to analyze the behavior of your spouse. Mark the points that match:
- constantly angry
- refuses sex
- he doesn't like surprises
- refuses to discuss problems in relationships,
- rarely appears at home (it is not known where he is or with whom),
- doesn't give gifts
- offends and insults.
- constantly criticizes.
If you answered positively to more than 4 statements, most likely the man is not hiding his feelings. It seems that it’s time to seriously think about whether the person next to you is the right one? There is a small chance that he might be having problems at work and that is why he is behaving this way. But in this case, everything will get better over time.
If a man hides his feelings for a woman with indifference, but at the same time takes care of his family, brings in all the income and calmly discusses the problems that have arisen, then everything is not so bad. A man needs support. As soon as he feels that his wife understands and loves him, he will become kinder and more gentle.
Is it possible to change the situation?
Many girls and wives are sorely lacking in tenderness and affection. But is it possible to demand from a person what, for example, he cannot do? Possibly a manifestation strong feelings not in his rules? Many men believe that their direct responsibility is to provide for their family, and that tenderness and mercy are all stupidity.
And in fact, as practice shows, words must always be backed up by deeds. Many men can sing for hours about eternal love, but at the same time it’s difficult to wait for some masculine actions. At the same time, it is very rare when a man not only takes care of his family, but also shows enough tenderness and care.
In any case, the situation can be changed. And first of all, you need to talk to your soulmate. Psychologists around the world claim that many families collapse precisely because they do not know how to talk. The wife does not understand why a man hides his feelings for a woman and silently takes offense at him. In turn, the husband also does not understand why his beloved behaves this way. Then it is possible that feelings will begin to fade and sooner or later the family will collapse.
To avoid this, you should talk to your significant other as much as possible, understand him, support him, and only in this case, perhaps, get a response.
To summarize, we can say that many men hide their feelings for a woman, and they have a lot of reasons for this. And no matter how much it seems to a woman that all this is stupid and meaningless, a man will still think differently. For this reason, the silence of the stronger sex should be perceived as a normal state. The best thing to do is to pay attention to what a man's body is saying and his actions and actions towards you. These factors are a more reliable source of information than words.
